Would you consider marrying a person who is blind or parapalegic or an amputee or someone sufferring from a?

Question

serious illness like multiple sclerosis.

Would you be able to look beyond that?

Answer 1

Yes, I would marry anyone if I loved them.

Answer 2

Absolutely... Though it would be a difficult relationship, due to outside factors (people's comments, looks, etc.), any one who is ready and willing can be loved.

Answer 3

Of course.  If someone can make you laugh and love you back, that is what is important.

Answer 4

Possibly. After all, I am going to be a Paramedic or something so I better be able to get over that stuff. Plus I have Diabetes so I'd be a hypocrite... kinda.

Answer 5

As someone who fits into one of these categories  I find this question a little funny.

Obviously my fiance doesn't have an issue with marrying me. If I happened to be in love with a person with a disability or what ever then of course I would consider it.

I love how some  assumed that no one would date or want to marry someone with a disability or an amputation.  I've been doing the one legged gig since I was a kid and I didn't have any problems in the friend and later boyfriend department.  I think it's the winning combination of girl + mechanical parts both of which teenage boys love to tinker with.

Sure there are the off days were I can't do everything that I normally do. Then my fiance gives me a hand ( too bad he doesn't give me a leg hahaha) But even in a relationship where both people are able bodied there are still days when one needs to " take care" of the other.  I'm not going to leave a man because he's occasionally sick and needs me to make supper and do the house work on my own.

My fiance isn't my private nurse. I may come with some extra accessorys and require a little assembling in the morning but I can take care of myself.

He'll tell you himself there are a few perks to living with a one legged girl. You get better parking, You can rob their shower chair in the morning when you're too tired to stand up. you can open beers with many types of prosthetic knees. And she'll ask to go to the hardwear store.

Answer 6

WHAT SORT OF QUESTION IS THAT?

OF COURSE PEOPLE WITH THE THINGS WRONG WITH THEM THAT YOU JUST STATED GET MARRIED........

IT'S LOVE THAT MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND

Answer 7

Yes I would if I was in love with them.

Answer 8

My husband is legless on most days and i still married him.

Answer 9

Of course.  If you love someone, a disability doesn't matter. In fact it can make you care more.

Answer 10

Absolutely YES what matters is not the outside it is what the person from the inside---- believe me I know I have been with several good looking, healthy physically fit partners but morally emotionally "disabled" it is the individual whole person who matters not what they look like .it is their soul their inner being that matters.hope this answers your Q but I am interested to know why you asked? would it make a difference to you if the person had those things you described?

Answer 11

If I loved the person yes I would. Just because they have a handicap/disability doesn't make them any different from anyone else. From your question I guess that you have some reservations or prejudices over people with some sort of disability.

Answer 12

Interesting question and I will look forward to seeing responses

I am severely disabled and confined to a wheelchair, I use a board to slide on and off the chair to go to bed and get up.

I live on my own and try to be as independent as I can.

Things get very difficult. I am currently awaiting a decision regarding amputation which will make things even harder.

Like a lot of diabled people, I have suffered the remarks from people such as "Oh, who would want a relationship with someone in a wheelchair" and  "lookout, the flids are about" etc etc.

A lot of people will say it's the person not the disability and so on, but in reality I haven't met anyone who wants to stick around and get to know the real me.

I have a wicked sense of humour, I have a lot of patience, I work voluntarily with various group counsellors for people with deppresion and other difficulties and I try to get out every day and be independent because that's what keeps me going.

BUT, it would be really nice to have someone to say good night to and that little cuddle, someone to have a meal with and watch a film etc, but hey, welcome to the real world.

Once again, I will look for your responses.

Bless you for raising an issue that is important to a lot of us not so well people.

Answer 13

Sure, I would.

The person's body is just the vehicle in which the personality, soul, and ethics reside. It doesn't define who he or she really is.

Answer 14

bring on the thumbs down but no

it's all very well people saying if they loved that person they could look past the disability but in all honesty would half of us even spend the time getting to know the person in order to fall in love?

Answer 15

of course i would

Answer 16

If you love someone you love them for who they are, not what illness they may or may not have, or what they might have in the future. Love is love and it overcomes anything.

Answer 17

When I love someone nothing else matters. I love unconditionally and completely.

So, no, it wouldn't matter to me at all.

xx

Answer 18

In all honesty no.

I would like to sit here and say the right thing but the truth is I wouldn't want to have to look after someone.

Answer 19

I am losing my vision are you saying no man will find me attractive?

I hope I am not that shallow.

Answer 20

My husband has epilepsy.  It is not and will not be controlled with medications.  He had brain surgery about 15 years ago, and still has intractible seizures.

He was like this when I married him 23 years ago, and he will be like this until the end.  So, yes, I would have no problem, if you love someone, then YOU LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT THEM.  It should not matter if they are missing body parts, or have an illness.  If one is soooo shallow that they would give up on something that could be the most meaningful and loving thing in their lives, then they don't deserve the love they can possibly receive.

Answer 21

A member of my extended family is a double amputee having lost his legs to a congenital abnormality.

I lost count of the number of girls who can't look passed the disability - even one who jilted him after accepting his marriage proposal.

Answer 22

To, Support Worker.

You've just been unlucky like those hundreds of thousands, without a disability, who also have problems finding a partner ...or at least the right one.

Just think too of all those who have a partner but aren't happy.

Just be patient! The right one will turn up when you're least expecting it.

Answer 23

My husband married me after I was dx with multiple sclerosis, fact is that it takes them so long to diagnose.........you might not know when you marry them, but if you already have.......in sickness and in health etc. and do bear in a devastating accident or illness can happen to anyone, anytime!

I have an uncle who is a double amputee,my aunt married him after the amputation, another wheelchair user with arachnoiditis, mother with arthiritis and polymyalgia - using sticks, me with ms, using crutches (at the time wheelchair sometimes) another uncle CP but not wheeelchair user - then my one fit, healthy uncle,up and died very suddenly! funeral resembled a trip to Lourdes!!! lol! ( and yes he would have laughed).........but we're all still here

Answer 24

did i know this before before they became disabled? if i did then yes. and yes even if i did not know them.

Answer 25

If she had a nice body. Seriousky, that's more important than a disability.