Would you consider this cheating?

Question

My significant other uses his facebook to act single. He has changed his profile to talk to others and will deny being in a relationship. He has gotten numbers and used text messaging but never meets them. Since he has actual friends on there, they thought our relationship ended because he changed his status. These 'conversations' were purposely hidden from me. He went as far as to tell one our engagement was broken off. I feel betrayed and have lost trust but am not sure if this is cheating. He never did anything physical (and yes I know for sure) but did he cheat or was he trying to cheat but never succeeded or is he merely going online to live in a fantasy world for a bit? He admitted to it right away when I found out and did not lie when confronted (again no way he could know I could tell if he was lying or not) Chances of him actually cheating????

Answer 1

No he is not cheating.He is just fooling around .He probably need fresh air .He isnt in love any more

Answer 2

It is a possibility but it isn't the women on the computer you should worry about because some of them are just plaing mind games it is the ones in the real world that count. but yes sometimes he could just do this because of self esteem problems or he is afraid to commit to you all the way so now it is up to you what you want to do. i mean it depends on how far you can take it.

Answer 3

if he hasn't cheated yet he will.  so i would definately consider this cheating.  he isn't happy in his relationship so he is trying to find it elsewhere.  confront him and/or break it off.  he's not worth it.

Answer 4

Trust me, many a relationship has ended over facebook and myspace. Beware.

Answer 5

Cheating..

Answer 6

If he is only testing the waters now, what will he do when he gets brave enough to take things to the next level? He will cheat eventually believe me I have been there on both sides of the board....he's looking to see if he can get better before he loses what he's got and you need to make a stand now to let him see how it will feel to lose you. Good luck!

I just had to add, he could just be bored I mean are any of us really, truly committed people? I guess the thing you have to consider is yourself in his position. For example, when you see a really cute guy checking you out or your checking him out does the thought ever cross your mind, what if? We watch Grey's Anatomy and wish we were lucky enough to be Merideth, we read romance novels and picture ourselves as the person the story is telling about, we look at other people's relationships no matter how good ours is and wish that we had that. Maybe the key here is that you just really need to talk to him and let him know that you want his honesty no matter how much it may hurt to hear it and be honest with him back. In the beginning love is all consuming but in reality love is a choice we make once the flames begin to die down.

Answer 7

GUILTY

Answer 8

Yes... keeping secrets is cheating..

Answer 9

I wouldn't call this cheating, but it is definitely a red flag, I think there should be some pre-marital counseling going on here soon before you take the big step and get hurt, marriage counseling will reveal alot.Dont go into this blind, but know all things and be ready.

Cherry

Answer 10

YES IT IS CHEATING. looking at p**n online is not cheating but talking to someone online and telling them he is single is CHEATING! What do you think it will lead to? Yes you know for now it hasn't been physical but why does he feel the need to talk to these girls? I'm telling you, I know it is easy for someone like me to say "oh leave him". It depends on how long you have been dating, if it has been for a very long time, then try to confront him tell him that you are against this, if he doesn't stop you will leave. Try counseling, maybe he feels like he needs something from you and he is just reaching out to other women. Most likely though, he is a typical jerk and you should just not waste your time. Goodluck, I know it is painful, I've been there. From my experience the friendly talking turned into wayy more, I found the girl in his house one night. So just beware, it can always LEAD TO MORE!  

Answer 11

He didnt cheat physically as far as you know , but hunny he definetly cheated emotionally wether he did get close to any other woman off this waste of time face book site , he cheated by stating to someone you know that your engagement was called off , I have no doubt he has bagged you severely to anyone and everyone who would listen to make his single status story even more believable I would suggest you sit him down show him what you found and ask questions.

When he starts becoming aggrivated and making you feel uncomfortable and guilty then you know he's cheated emotionally and that your relationship is just a farce , you mean nothing more to him then what he uses you for , I really hope your not living with him and if you are and you have no family or friend's you can move out with you really have gotten yourself into a bingle non to easy to escape from.

Sweety get rid of him dont waste anymore time no matter how loving he might be toward's you both inside and outside of the bedroom he is a cheat and he wont change move on and find yourself then your other whole ( not half because for us to be happy we have to be a whole ) will find you when the time is right.

Answer 12

id say dont acuse him w/ anything unlsess you have solid proof...because once you accuse theyll think like ; i may as well do it since she already thinks im.

no i dont think he cheats! not yet!