Would you elope??

Question

So I recently found out I'm pregnant to my best friend, which is amazing because I've loved him for years, the other night when I told him I was pregnant he was so excited because he said he felt the same way. The night our child was conceived was my first time - and I didn't know until yesterday his first time. I posted a question about getting married just because I was pregnant - as he proposed to me when I told him. But today we spoke and we both know in our heart of hearts this is exactly what we both have wanted for so long. I love him SOOOOO much, like you couldn't imagine and he feels the same way about me. We're not teenagers we're both 25. We spoke about just going away one weekend and eloping and coming back and telling his and my parents that we're married and having a baby - do you think they would be hurt by this?? Neither he nor I want a big fuss or anything like that, just something quick and simple but don't want to hurt anyone in the process???

Answer 1

You are going to hurt your family by doing this.Have a small wedding at a parents house.

Answer 2

I remember your question, and congratulations to both of you.

A wedding is a celebration and i think your parents would be devistated... and honestly you may one day regret ityourselves. You dont have to have a huge big wedding with all the hoopla BUT you can do something simple small and beautiful surrounded by your nearest and dearest. Barefoot on the beach? A small garden ceremony?

All the best and again many congrats!

Answer 3

you should speak to your parents and his about it. I think they would feel very hurt if you just went away and got married one weekend. Perhaps you could comprimise a little though, perhaps get married at a registery or something like that and then have a small gathering at a restuarant. In the end it's your wedding day and you'll do what you want to do, but the fact you're having the thought about hurting or upsetting people goes to show you that you know it's not going to b right.........

but besides that CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Never, and not even in your circumstances.

I'm SO glad your heart/head feels better - I was a bit concerned after your last question!

Somehow running away in secret to elope is just a copout - I think a wedding should be about having family and close friends witness your vows at a ceremony, then celebrating with you at some sort of reception.

I'd at least plan a ceremony, with at least a family dinner - and do it asap, so you two can get on with planning for your family!

Good luck!

Answer 5

good idea i think....if it makes you and him happy then h**l yeah.

as for your families they will be hurt - your dad most of all but he they will get over it....

have them all over for dinner or go out!

Answer 6

Well, i personally want a wedding and it done the traditional way for the dress and beauty of it all. But its up to you, as for the parent issue every parent wants to spoil their baby girl. So they may be a little upset, i would be if i was them, but if thats what you want then they will accept it.

Answer 7

Could you elope and have a more casual party when you get back instead of a massive wedding and reception?

Answer 8

Yes, they would be hurt by this. My suggestion is to invite both sets of parents and have a local courthouse wedding.  You don't have to tell them about the baby until after the wedding.

Answer 9

GETTING MARRIED IS SUPPOSED TO BE ONE OF THE MOST EXCITING DAYS OF YOUR LIFE, ITS A DAY OF HAPPINESS, LOVE, CELEBRATION, AND SOMETHING YOU WANT TO BE PROUD OF. SHARING OF THIS OCCASION WITH BOTH SETS OF PARENTS IS A MUST IF YOU LOVE THEM AND DONT WANT TO HURT THEM. I'M SURE YOU WOULD REGRET NOT CONFIDING IN THEM, NO MATTER WHAT, SHARE YOUR HAPPINESS WITH THEM FOR SURE. BEST WISHES FOR YOUR FUTURE.

Answer 10

eloping is to leave your parents out of the loop. unless this is what you want, you should tell your parents you are getting married but don't want a big deal wedding. invite them to some small quick ceremony.

Answer 11

Here's an idea have just a small wedding at the courthouse with your parents....Then a big reception.

Answer 12

of course they will be hurt by this!

i would never elope because i wouldn't want to hurt my family's feelings

Answer 13

You're 25. You're both old enogh to make your own decisions. Surely your parents realise this.

If you want to elope then elope. When you get back and tell your parents, and they are hurt (which they most probably will be) let them throw you a big party to make up for it.

Answer 14

Go for it!

Answer 15

I would talk to my parents about it first!

I would give it more thought also, sometimes we can be so Happy and make decison(sp) and then regret them!

congrats!

1st time and now your pregnant......WOW!

Answer 16

I say go for it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Many congrats on both of these wonderful events in your life!

Answer 17

tell them;

just imagine if your new child went away for a weekend with their partner and came back hitched and pregnant; it would scare you and you would feel sad that you missed such a big event in your child and parents lives.

talk to them about it; just plan something small if you have to, but you should tell them what is going on.

good luck; sounds like a fairytale.

Answer 18

Your both of an age where you know what you want out of life.  You both love each other and your going to have a baby. Personally, IF you think you would have a more romantic time getting married then by all means elope. But definitely tell your parents that your pregnant when you get back.

good luck to you. :)

Answer 19

Maybe if you're scared to hurt them or soemthing, you could tell just your parents and siblings and close friends (or something like that) and just go have a small 'wedding' or even just go to a registary office. It's still small but the people closest to you are involved and wont feel hurt or left out.

Good luck to you both and bub!

Answer 20

It really depends on your relationship with both sets of parents. If you are not really close, then tell them when you get back, but if you have a good relationship with them, then please tell them. I can't imagine getting married without my mom there! If it was me I would just tell them the plan, where you are going and when, and leave it up to them if they want to join in or not. Then it is their choice and they can't be hurt.

Congratulations!

Answer 21

Eloping sounds easy but the reality of becoming a parent should start to kick in soon.

I would have a small wedding and make it memorable as when bub arrives you will be busy and time alone will be precious so you really need a little honeymoon.

Best of luck to the three of you!!