Would you ever adopt a child? And from where.If you wouldn't, why not?

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Would you ever adopt a child? And from where.If you wouldn't, why not?

Answer 1

I would love to adopt children some day. I want to have a big family of maybe 4 to 8 or 9 kids. I want most of them to be adopted. I want to adopt from different countries so i can have a diverse family. I want my children to be used to people of different cultures and ethnicity. I want to adopt from Cambodia, a country in Latin America (maybe Brazil or some Caribbean country), China/Japan, and a poor European country, and Russia maybe.  Adoption has always had a place in my heart because my mom was adopted, but the funny thing is that i didn't know this until maybe seven years ago because of the way my family acted towards her. We were apart of the family. That's the way i want my adopted and biological children to feel about each other. There are two places that i do not want to adopt children from though. They are America and Africa because I'm a black American and I can have my own black and American babies.

Answer 2

We did, from The Cradle.

http://www.cradle.org/

He's a college student now, home for the holidays.

Answer 3

i would but probably only if it was the child of a close friend or family member who for whatever reason couldnt take care of their child anymore and asked me to. i am lucky enough to be able to have kids of my own so i wouldnt adopt otherwise...

Answer 4

sure children need homes exspealy when they live in poverty strichen place

Answer 5

I would but my husband won't let me.  I think he looks forward to eventually being free of family obligations, even though that is unrealistic anyway.  I would adopt an older kid, because they're harder to place with families.

Answer 6

I did adopt 2 children, and also I am adopted myself-  I was a private adoption through my adopted mom's doctor. We adopted our children privately through an adoption lawyer.

Answer 7

Yes, I would. I absolutely love being a mom. I am single, though, so I would not go out and get pregnant just to satisfy my selfish desire for more children, but I would most definitely adopt a baby that was already here or on the way and needed a good mom. I tell everyone that if they ever here of someone who is pregnant and does not want the baby/babies, to tell them about me and I will adopt them (babies). My "baby" is growing up so fast and I would love to have more.

Answer 8

I would adopt a child, but only after I was able to have my own first.  I'd adopt as many kids as I could affort financially, and they'd be from Africa.  I have a friend who was from Africa and he was kidnapped out of his church by military soldiers, then placed in a military camp for 10 years before he and a group of other boys escaped and ran from Sudan to Kenya.  Then he moved to America, lived with a family, and was just reunited with his family after being separated for 17 years.  I'm sure some of you have heard of the Lost Boys from Sudan.  These living conditions break my heart, so I would want to try and help the African children.

Answer 9

Yes i have adopted a child.  I would do it again if we didn't have two of our own and one on the way! I would love to share my love and home with more children.  I think personally that we have enough children in the USA that need a good family, so i wouldn't adopt from any other country. We need to start thinking about the kids and babies right here when we want to open our homes to an adopted child.

Answer 10

no. i'd rather help a single mom keep her kid and in fact recently spent nearly a year doing just that. zero appreciation from the mom, but was not surprised in this case.

i have to add that i hate it when people who wish to adopt somehow think they have a "special" love to offer the baby. meaning, i think, they consider the first mom deficient somehow. (as long as the baby fulfills their requirements, of course)

Answer 11

No, if I couldn't have my own children, I'd be childless.  I was raised by other people's parents, I have no desire to parent other people's children.

I would do a guardianship, or foster, if the situation were right for both parties, though.

I can't imagine paying 10-50K to take a child from his mother, and insisting they call me mommy.  All that pretense makes me nauseous.

In general, most kids given up for adoption are wanted--they are surrendered because the mother has a lack of resources.  People who in general blew their 'fertility window' and seek to obtain other, less fortunate people's children is amoral, IMO.

Answer 12

Yes I would adopt a child. I can't have children of my own, so I will my husband and I are turning to adoption. Even before we found out we couldn't have a biological child, we had talked of adopting. To give a child a home filled with love and support is an amazing gift to give. Yes it would be difficult to adjust and all of the other things that go along with it, but just think of all the rewards from having a child love you. I would adopt from anywhere that was a safe place to adopt from. They have to follow strict guidelines (countries) do, so they must be approved before you can adopt outside the US. We will first try the USA, because I believe we should help our own children first, if possible.

Answer 13

I would adopt if I couldn't have my own children and if I did I would only adopt from the US, so many people want to save children from other countries, but really how can you save the other countries when our country has so many problems. I don't understand how they think that while children in the US are sitting in foster homes for years at a time are any different than children in orphanages in other countries? Save our own before you try to save other countries problems.

Answer 14

Absolutely.  We did adopt a child from the state of NJ and it was the best thing that could have happened to our family!  

I am a firm believer that all children need a loving safe environment so I would adopt from anywhere if the opportunity arose for us to adopt again.  It would not matter to us what country was involved.

Answer 15

At this point in my life, I have two children and wouldn't consider having anymore by any means. However, if a child came into my life that needed a home and I was able, I would. My older daughter really wishes that we would adopt. I think she wants more siblings but I can barely feed the ones I have.

Answer 16

im not that old to adopt a child but me and my ex once talked about it and i would because other children really need help out there and i like kids i would probably adopt and kid that i like

Answer 17

Did that twice and it was wonderful, the rewards are beyond words. The first one was a girl, we now have three grandchildren, the other was a boy, no children but what a joy to see what we were able to do for him.

There are alot of children here in the United States that need love and understanding, never gave any thought of go somewhere else to adopt a child.

To the ones that don't have children and wouldn't adopt, you will never know just how wonderful it is to have a child call you PaPa or NaNa  (dad & mom)

Answer 18

No.  I have my own children and much prefer to sponsor children through charitable organizations so they can stay in their own country with their own family.

I would consider fostering a child that was in need temporarily, but I could never be responsible for taking a child from it's mother at birth...It would just be too close to home for me, and the pain of that would be too great.

Answer 19

Good lord no. I'd drink a bottle of Drano before I'd ever adopt.

Answer 20

I would if a child had no relatives to care for him/her and would otherwise be stuck in the foster care system.  I say this only because I think the child should have the opportunity to be with relatives first.  There are kids that end up permanently in foster care, then age out and sometimes don't have any family at that point.  Everyone should have a family.

I would not change my child's first and middle names, as he/she already had them, and I would respect that as part of my child.  (I wouldn't change a dog's name if he came from the shelter with one, why would I do that to my child?)  If the child were old enough to say he/she didn't want to take on my last name, I would respect that.  Otherwise I would have a legal name change for the last name only, but let my child know that it would always be his or her choice to change it back if he or she chose to do so later.

I also would not make his/her original birth certificate be sealed and replaced with an amended one.  The original is the factual document of the child's birth, and the child deserves to have it, just like any non-adopted child.  If the child was old enough to say that he or she wanted otherwise, then that would be fine.  In California where I live, the adoptive parents or adopted person, if old enough, decides whether or not the original birth record seals.  

I would also support my child in reuniting with biological family if he or she chose to do so at some point.

I say these things because my child would come with a past that is uniquely his or hers and he or she has a right to use or not use parts of it as he/she pleases.  The adoption is about the child first, not me first.

Answer 21

Because I am disabled, I am barred from adopting in the U.S. unless I went to a private adoption.   I wouldn't have any problem adopting from the former USSR.  I even know which orphanage (my Mom's coworker comes from that village and we send them clothes every time she returns to visit family).  However, I've decided adoption is not an option. My guyfriend (soon-to-be-hubby) already has 3 children and does not want to adopt.  If my medical problems are not resolved, having a child, adopted or not, would not be in our best interests.

Answer 22

I wouldn't because I have never wanted kids--and because I wouldn't want to put a kid through all the confusion and hurt I experienced growing up (and still experience) in spite of the fact that I have a very loving, understanding adoptive family.

If I did decide to adopt, I'd adopt a foster child, one that really needed a stable, loving home.

Answer 23

No, I wouldn't.  Not until the U.S. MAJORLY overhauls it's adopion laws and practices and adoptees are allowed access to our records, until there is no longer outrageous fees charged (eliminating the unethical practices) and until n-mothers who are contamplating adoption are given counseling by NEUTRAL, THIRD PARTY counselors who have NO TIES to the adoption agencies...therefore there is no incentive to push adoption instead of providing information on services and social programs to help her parent her child.

I would foster, I would sponsor children in other countries, but I would never, ever adopt.