Would you ever date someone who was a baby momma/daddy?

Question

I was having a dicsussion with some friends, i said that i cannot see myself dating a man who had kids out of wedlock, like if he was divorced and had an ex wife ok, but not a babby momma. She replied that I won't be able to find a husband because almost everyone nowadays have kids out of marriage. She doesn't see it as a big deal but i do. Don't get me wrong, do whatever you feel you have to do, but the biggest argument for not geting married even though you have a kid is "well it's jsut a piece of paper", if it is why not get it and be done with it? Anyway, so why do men and women keep having kids out of wedlock? For you, as an individual, what does that say to you? would you ever date someone who had a baby momma/daddy? that means they never marry the father/mother of thier child. this doesn't include divorced parents.

Answer 1

Try Singles and Dating.  

Answer 2

This is an important issue.  Don't settle for a man who has children out of wedlock.  He could get sued for child support and that won't be a good deal for you.  Find new friends who love Jesus is my recommendation.  Hope it all works out for you.

Answer 3

I wouldnt choose to, i dont have or want kids of my own, so i wouldnt want to deal with someone elses

Answer 4

I've dated two girls with kids.  One was a divorced mother of 2, the other had 1 kid out of wedlock.

I don't see a problem, personally.

And what if those kids don't have a father/mother figure in their life?  Wouldn't you be helping them if you were to marry their father?

Answer 5

You are pretty biased my dear.  First of all, not all woman choose to have kids out of wedlock so you shouldn't be so hasty to judge all woman that way.  And I am dating someone with kids.  When you date someone with kids, you accept them as a package deal.

Answer 6

It is not advisable. One way of looking at it is that a parent SHOULD have an idea of being responsible, caring for someone, unconditional love. On the down side if they have a child with another person they have a permanent ex, an everlasting connection to somebody else, do you want to compete with that?

In terms of a religious point of view, hold on to what you think. I think your friends are wrong to tell you there are no guys out there who dont already have children, in fact the more I think about it, the more absurd that statement becomes.

In short, getting involved with someone who already has children could possibly work, but its almost always going to be a bit messy. And if you want children with that guy are you happy knowing he's already been through all the weaning and nappy changing etc with somebody else?

Answer 7

probably not. they'd be way too preoccupied and not pay attention to me. plus too much baggage.

Answer 8

That depends. You can usually tell how a horse is going to run by what it ran in the past. That is why they have favorites at race tracks. You can usually tell how a batter is going to do by his / her batting average, which is why someone who hits .058 won't get a call to pinch hit when the bases are loaded.

So, if I wanted to date to find a s*x partner, I'd go with the single lady with several kids. It is obvious she does it, and nobody notices if you take a slice of bread off a loaf that's already been cut. If I was dating to find someone to marry, I'd stay clear of women who hadn't married even though they had kids. Their batting average would scare me away.

If I was advising a woman who wanted to have s*x, I'd give the same advice - pick a stud with a proven track record. If a woman wanted to find a husband, again, look at his track record.

Answer 9

I'm with someone who had a child out of wedlock.  my child.  he's smart, well adjusted, handsome as anything (he's really going to be a charmer when he's older) and we are happier than we've ever been with anyone else.

so nyer.

Answer 10

For me that is all complicated, but Questions is it is wow he or she lives, are they a Christian. Do they have a good or changed heart. Is it all about money? these and other things would have to come into factor, and will the other be all up in the relationship, If so would one be able to deal with that?God Bless

Answer 11

I've dated single mothers before so I have no problem with it. It's not a huge issue with me. It is a factor, however.

Answer 12

I would not want to date someone who had kids at home.  Period.  I don't care for little children much and to have them underfoot, even two weekends a month, would not be to my taste.  As for having kids out of wedlock, from my point of view, it makes no difference.  Kids are kids.  I would not date someone who had kids younger than college age.

Answer 13

I agree with you! Why would someone debase themselves like this?

I read this and I can't even understand a lot of it.

Baby momma. Momma poppa. baby momma drama. pappa don't preach.

My goodness.

We need Jesus Christ in our lives more than ever if this is what our culture is coming to as a nation.