Would you ever let your daughter spend the night at her boyfriends house?

Question

im just curious, if you had a daughter who did good in school, did all her chores with out asked to, and didnt lie to you, would you trust them enough to let them spend the night at their boyfriends house? or do you think that in no way, would that ever happen until she moved out? and the age for the daughter would be 14-17.

Answer 1

I think it depends on the situation. Personally, I think 14-17 is a little young (esp. 14-15), but it depends on how much a parent trusts his/her daughter and also how much a parent trusts her boyfriend. I think it is critical for parents to have a good relationship with their kids' boyfriends/girlfriends to make sure that they are sensible. Also, despite what many people say, just because a child/teen/young adult wants to spend the night with his/her bf/gf doesn't necessarily mean that they're going to have s*x. Maybe it's because of convenience and maybe it's because of closeness - sleeping together and having s*x are two completely separate things.

Answer 2

that would b so bomb if my mom let me

but of course if I had a daughter there would be no way SHE WOULD EVEN GET THE CHANCE TO ASK ME  

Answer 3

No - why give them the temptation.

Answer 4

i dont understand why parents automatically think that that means something is going to happen... my gf and i did this all the time innocently and our parents didnt know...

Answer 5

not no, but h**l no

Answer 6

of course not. i dont want my daughter to lose her virginity before marriage after all the good things she has done at school, chores, etc. btw i dnt hav a daughter im 15

Answer 7

i would if  you trust them why wouldn't you?

Answer 8

Uhm, if you really wanted to just have your friend hold a party or whatever and ask if you can sleep over at her house but dont tell your mom your bf is going.

Answer 9

No. What your daughter does behind your back isn't related to what she does before your eyes.

Your daughter is a bit too young for that kind of freedom. She might feel pressured into doing something she doesn't necessarily want to do or might regret later. I wouldn't go so far as to say 'until she moves out' because my boyfriend and I spend the night together all the time and we sleep together, not in a sexual way, and we've been doing it for almost two years now (we're 20 this year.) It's just nice to sleep with another person. However, she's at an age where she's going to want to try new things and she might not really grasp the consequences that come with these new experiences.

Besides, he might want to do things she won't want to or isn't completely comfortable with. Besides, if the relationship is indeed important to the girl's boyfriend, he wouldn't let something like that get in the way of them being together.

Answer 10

That's a h**l no... I'm seventeen and I think that would be way too out of hand.. Can you imagine what could happen and all the possiblities... It doesn't sound like you're the mother it sounds like you're the daughter writing this... Trust me this is not a good idea... xoxooxoxoxo

Answer 11

no!! never thats why when i have kids i dont want a daughter. (im 17)

Answer 12

If you really trust her then just have a frank conversation about birth control, etc., and let her do what she wants.

If she's into having s*x, she'll have it during the day if she wants to.

Ideally you and she share the same set of values about what sort of arrangements are ideal -- different beds, etc.  If you don't, then you should probably discuss it more.

Answer 13

Yes, i had to let her stay at her boy friend's house. Actually she caught me red handed with her aunt.