Would you ever think about marrying someone if many of your friends said he wasn't right for you?

Question

Would you ever think about marrying someone if many of your friends said he wasn't right for you?

Answer 1

Well, I would listen to their concerns, but I would make the ultimate decision.

Answer 2

I'm pretty sure I can make my own decisions now that I'm a grown-up.

Answer 3

See, it really depends on what exactly it was that they didn't like about him. Most of my friends i've found as of late are just trying to look out for me and just want me to be happy. If it was something like 'oh he's not that good looking' or 'you don't have very much in common' I probably wouldn't listen to them. They are not the ones in the relationship. But if I find myself lying about where major bruises/cuts/scrapes/broken bones/any other kind of physical abuse came from or where my sudden self-esteem drop came from or why i'm suddenly not going out with friends as much as i used to, you bet i'm going to listen to what they have to say and second guess what's going on.

Answer 4

I just saw this episode of Frasier and Ros tells Frasier that the girl he's seeing (Julia) i all wrong for him and so she's like, it's me or Julia and he pick Julia. But, then a couple episodes later he's dumped Julia and friends with Ros again, so... yay.

Good friends want what's best for you and can usually see past all the smoke comin off the early relationship fire. So, u should definately listen.

Answer 5

yes i would because in the end you are the one who has to be in the relationship not them and maybe they are jealous of what u two have together

Answer 6

I am marrying the man all my friends say "isn't right for me".

But they support me no matter what.

Answer 7

I wouldnt care what my friends thought.

Answer 8

yes i would.. i am the one marrying him, not my friends

so if the guy treated me right then i would marry him!

but it also depends on what my family thinks of him....

Answer 9

Honestly, unless you have low self-esteem and follow everyone else, then no ones opinion should even remotely phase you.

If I found someone whom I truly loved, but my friends didn't approve, of course I would marry them. love makes the world go round, and if you are lucky enough to find someone like that, don't ever let anything get in the way.

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Answer 10

My children didn't want it (ages 23 and 19) .  My friends said I could do better. My family and his said we shouldn't do it.  And even some people at work were not so sure.

He was 40 and I was 45.  We weren't kids.   So we invited them anyway, they all came ,  and the wedding turned out great.

We just celebrated 15 years ,and they said it wouldn't last.

I am so glad we didn't listen to them.  

Answer 11

He? I make my own mind up in all things.

Answer 12

It depends on why they feel that way about him.  If they have true loving concerns I would listen and decide.  I would do what is in my heart of course.  The thing is this: when you are a woman and you call your friends everytime you have a fight or a problem then your friends only see that problem.  In the future, don't tell your friends all the bad stuff, tell them the good stuff too.  However, if it is not this type of thing and there is genuine concern for safety and happiness then I would think twice before marriage.  Why rush anyway?  Take time to work out the kinks before any wedding plans.  

Answer 13

I would ask them why they all thought he wasn't right for me. If they knew something I didn't know (e.g. he was cheating on me) then I would consider what they had to say.

But if they just didn't like him for no real reason then I would marry him anyway if I thought he was right for me. You shouldn't let your friends decide for you.

Answer 14

it should not matter what your friends think. They aren't marrying the person, you are. Go with your heart and what you feel.

Answer 15

Tell your friend that they're not the ones marrying that person and that it's not about what they feel is right, it's about what you feel is right on the inside. No one sees the real relationship on the outside...the truth lies between you and that person. Tell them you appreciate their opinion but you have chosen someone that you feel is right and that you'd appreciate it if they would support you from here on out.

Answer 16

I did that ONCE and they were Right..!!Best friends first then go from there..