Would you every marry a baby momma or daddy?

Question

I don't mean someone who was married, had kids, and got divorced....I get that.

I mean a person who has multiple kids from different baby mommas or daddies and never married. To me, that shows complete lack of character and would be a deal breaker for any serious relationship......What do you think?

Answer 1

"To me, that shows complete lack of character"

Casual...you hit the nail directly on the head. So based upon THAT statement i think you can guess what my answer is.  

Answer 2

It would depend on the situation really, not everyone who has kids by two different people is bad.  Now if they had four kids by four women, I would question this.  

Answer 3

I think people should be evaluated as a whole, not just by their pasts.

If my X had of thought that way he wouldn't now have 3 beautiful children of his own and the 3 she had previously. He's got the big family he so desperately wanted and I couldn't give him. Too each, there own...if its right, it'll all work out.

Not to mention, I'd rather see children in HAPPY single family homes than miserable married homes.

Answer 4

I think judgment shows complete lack of character.  My only deal breaker is a man who doesn't take care of his kids.  If a man isn't in love with and devoted to his own flesh and blood, he certainly isn't capable of love and devotion to a stranger.  Whether or not he married and divorced, or lived with and moved out of his baby's mother's house, I could care less.  Character is shown in his treatment of his children, not whether or not he got married.  My husband married me and left me before the birth of my son.  He's never seen his son.  Does the fact that he married me make him of better character?

ADD:  Baby mama/daddy is akin to saying hubby.  The term hubby makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up and I don't bother "you people" so don't bother me when I say baby daddy.

Answer 5

The title of baby momma /daddy is not one to be proud of! I am sorry. I do not beleive in having kids out of wedlock, I don't. I would NEVER date a man who had a kid out of wedlock. Example: I was dating a guy and in the middle of the conversation he sai"I would love for you to met my kid", I looked at him and was so turned off! I was right there and then disintersted in him. A few weeks later he asked me why and i answered. I think it's sad. A child is full on commitment, why not marry when you get pregnant??

Now if that person were divorced, that's something else

Answer 6

I agree with you,someone in my husbands family has nine kids with seven different fathers, I think that's nasty

Answer 7

no i wouldn't . to me it signifies someones inability to be in a long term committed relationship, things that are important to me like loyalty and faithfulness are not important to them.  Before I met my husband I met someone who had three kids. which i thought was fine, then i find out that he had three kids with three different women and the kids were only 2, 1. and 4 months.  Obviously he was only interested in hitting it and quitting and he didn't have any relationship skills unless all i wanted was a quick hop on the ding a ling,.

Answer 8

Would I? No. But, there is someone for everybody. Maybe a guy can't have his own kids, maybe a woman can't get pregnant. Everyone has different situations that they need to handle. It's hard to find someone out there, you just have to keep looking.

Answer 9

It would be a deal breaker for me also.  In my opinion, it shows a complete lack of any morals going from person to person and becoming pregnant or fathering a ton of children.

Answer 10

A friend of mine is in a very similar situation right now:  together with a woman who has 4 kids by three different men (the youngest of which was a one-night-stand).  

We're all taking bets on how long it'll be before she's pregnant with HIS child.  

I worry about my friend, but it's his life...if this is how he wants to be living it, then so be it.  I don't agree with it, but he's apparently given the situation a lot of thought and is ok with how things are...they've moved in together and he acts as "dad" in every capacity except name.  And who knows...maybe even that will change soon, too!

Me personally, I'd run for the hills....but that's ME.

Answer 11

I think it depends on the situation people can change and come around from what they used to be! Or it can even been some people fall in love easily! so yes I think it could work but it depends on the situation still! Because If you find a man who is taking care his kids, he is responsible, and a woman as well!

Answer 12

my hubby has 3 kids by 2 different women, that does not make him a bad person he just made bad choice. when he met me i was fresh out of high school on my way to college kid free he saw that hey it is a female out there that has her head on straight. my hubby never had a father figure due to his father being in and out of jail, and when he was out he was making babies NO im not saying that's an excuse for y my hubby did what he did but he had no positive examples in his life and his mother died when he was 12. I love him dearly and my step sons i dont regret my choice in saying yes when he proposed!!!

Answer 13

huh?

Answer 14

No. I wouldn't even want to be in a relationship with someone who has children from previous relationships/marriages. There is so much drama about money, visitation rights and so forth; I really don't want to be part of that. I think serious and committed relationships need to be approached from a realistic point of view. And the scenarios described above are the reality of many blended families - no thank you.

Answer 15

Well, I wouldn't even use that pseudo-adjective that you used in your topic sentence.  I agree that it shows lack of character.  I would never date a man who had fathered many children by multiple women.

Answer 16

nope.  wouldn't waste my time on one.  they have no ethics, morals or character and i don't want to associate with people like that.

Answer 17

NEVER. I want my own kids.. dont want to take care of theirs, and I dont want to deal with the drama that their baby's mama may bring. So, never. I dont want to take care of their baby;s mama's kids for the simple fact.

Answer 18

you are an A hole in the bit least...always judging pll and causing drama....GOD Bless U ...I rather be a baby momma then a miserable WIFE...like yours is...

BTW I have 1 child with 1 man who I was engaged to and with for 5 yrs...until he CHEATED on me....WHILE PREGNANT...Did u expect me to stay with him??

He He he loser....does that make me a disgrace b/c i am not a wife...I am still Young trying to establish my life so get to know me before u judge me....ok ....I bet your a fat man anyways....hit the gym or something.....I am in GREAT SHAPE....fresh out the ARMY babe....lol fat man

Answer 19

No i would not be with a baby daddy.....

Its not my thing....

Drama free is the way to be