Would you feel aprehensive?

Question

I'm 28, husband 33, been together 6 years although only married 4 months. We've bought a house together, both have graduated, both have decent jobs and my husband desperately wants a baby. He's actually very good with babies and we have a great relationship and both want kids eventually. I think he would actually make a better dad than I would make a mum. But I'm really nervous about the whole thing, partly because I know however old I am my mother will be critical and think I've disappointed her. Do you think I should just bit the bullet and get on with it or keep stalling?

Answer 1

Do what feels good for you and your hubby.  If you feel ready, go ahead and try for a baby.  You shouldn't care too much of what your mother thinks.  If you and your husband are ready emotionally and financially to have a child, then go for it.

Answer 2

Don´t think about your mother.Having a baby concerns you and your husband.I think that on your situatuion I would go for a baby anyway.You love eachother,got good jobs,a house,...what else can a baby need? Having children is the best thing I have done in life.When I was pregnant for the first time my husband wanted me to loose the baby (we decided to have one but changed his mind when he saw it near).I had the baby and he was happy when holding him,but my pregnancy wasn´t too good.Your husband wants a baby...go for it and enjoy your pregnancy and motherhood.

My second pregnancy was great,and now I´ve got two lovely boys and we are a happy family.

Answer 3

What's interesting about your question is that you start off by justifying your suitablility to be parents. I wonder if this is down to your mother's critical attitude towards you? You are both responsible 'grown up's' and as such shouldn't have to justify yourselves to anyone. The fact that you are thinking so deeply about this means that you will probably make an excellent mum. However, I would think about  having some counselling to help you shake off your mother's control and take back the power in your life. These things can be passed on through generations if not dealt with. Good luck and happy parenting!

Answer 4

just  go for it you sound like a very good couple and children around  you will make the all world the better for you both. and dont  for get just bit  that  bullet.  all the very best.xxxx

Answer 5

Hi if you want a baby as much as your hubby does then go right ahead, you mum isnt living your life you are 28 and you can do what you want, we are both 21 and are married and we have talked about children for years and we both wanted children but due to what we thought people would think of us desptie both our mums having children around this age, I thought that they would be dissapointed in us as we thought they didnt want grandchildren etc, but after talking about it we were totally wrong and they were over the moon to hear about a grandchild and even wanted us to start trying , so we did and I am currently expecting out first baby and is great, I thought ages ago when me and my husband were talking about it I was scared I wouldnt be a good mum and wouldnt cope, but now as soon as you get pregnant it something kicks in and you just naturally know what to do and all them thoughts about being a bad mother just go out of the window, as you automatically love and care for the live inside of you.

If you want a child with the man you love then go ahead, dont be worried about dissapointing anyone as they are the ones who are in the wrong for putting it into your head, its your live and you should live it how you wish.

Me and my hubby have been together for 8 years and have been married for 6 months when we started to try for a baby, so dont worry if people think you havent been married long enought, once you get pregnant I bet you mum will be thrilled, let her know you are trying for a baby so she wont think it was unplanned and if she wants to moan just set her straight.

So get trying tonight its the most wonderful thing in the world.

Good Luck and all the best with the baby making !