Would you feel bad if your friend had a baby?

Question

i have been tring to get pregnant with my husband for years and my best friend just met some guy and is now haveing his baby i am happy for her but i am also jelous and i feel horrible. would you?

Answer 1

Yes, that's normal. If you need to, take some time away from her, or don't talk to her as much right now until you can work through the resentment. It wouldn't be fair to make her feel guilty. But yes, I know it's hard and very painful. I have endometriosis, and all the time my ex and I tried, we never had but one scare, and it definitely turned out to be false. I start to have doubts about my own fertility, and everytime I see someone pregnant, it can ruin my day, especially if I'm already having a bad day.

I'm sorry honey.

Answer 2

its natural to feel like that

i had a tubal reversal , then my best friend gets pregnant w/ twins at that(which dont run in her family), and i just had a miscarriage , i feel the same

Answer 3

yes I would!! and I know exactly what you mean!!

It seems like everyone of my friends are getting pregnant but me!!!

Answer 4

Yeah just b/c it would seem like..ok she just met a guy and got preg and I'm married and have been trying forever. But dont be jealous of her, be happy and keep trying!

Best wishes and Baby dust to you!!!

Answer 5

very normal feelings. Your time will come when its meant too.

Baby dust **********4 u*************

Answer 6

Gezille, I don't know, because I haven't been in that situation.

I have, however, been on the receiving end of jealousy.  I had a friend who wanted marriage and kids more than anything.  She talked about it quite a lot during the 10 years we knew each other.  When I got married and had a baby, her jealousy destroyed the friendship.

All the best.

Answer 7

ive felt this way... my friend that got pregnant did so after having purposely aborted a previous baby.. and here i was  going thru a miscarriage.. i think its normal to feel this way.. its not fair u feel like uve done everything right and that  shoud b happening to u not her.. i wish u the best things will work out.. i now have to beautiful boys and couldnt b happier!!

Answer 8

my best friend actually just delivered her baby at 7 months.  everyone is doing well, so it's great.  she told everyone she was pregnant after her 1st trimester was over, so it's been only 4 months that everyone knew.  of course i was happy for her and her husband, but my husband and i are TTC.  i was diagnosed with PCOS, so i am dealing with that as well.  on the day that i had gone to the OBGYN and found out about my diagnosis, my younger brother called me to tell me that he and his wife were expecting.  talk about a crappy day.  

of course i'm happy for both of them, but that week was h**l.  when my friend went in to deliver early, all my thoughts went out the window, and all i wanted to do was get to her ASAP.  i am going to spoil the h**l out of both kids, and keep trying to have my own.

i suggest you talk about how you feel, either with a therapist, or your friend.  i did both, and felt so much better.  go see your doctor, and explore your options.  if you've tried for a year, and nothing happened, then you may have to try other ways.  at least get a check up for both of you.  good luck, hon.

Answer 9

eh its normal my husband and i tried for it seems like forever and still nothing. but everyone else around me was getting pregnant and i was upset by it. but i have a 2 year old sis so i guess im happy with that haha