Would you feel different about your child if they......?

Question

Killed your grandchild. Like through abortion. Would you feel any different towards your own child if they decided that? Thanks

Answer 1

No not really because i think it is the mothers choice and the only thing you can do is be supportive.

Answer 2

I get the feeling this is one of those questions which is always easier to answer if you have never been in that position...I have never been in that position and hopefully never will be, but will do my best to answer honestly anyway!

I do and will always love my child.  That to me is a given.  Having said that, grandkids is kind of an extension of that same love, a part of me, a part of them, which is what makes it a difficult question, I think.

I suppose I would be hurt if that were to happen, but at the same time, I don't think it would stop me loving my child.  It would depend a lot, I think, on the circumstances; we all know condoms can split, birth control doesn't always work; say, for example, she were pregnant for a reason like that, something outside her own control, then I don't think i would feel differently about her to be honest.  i would be upset that i would never meet that particular grandchild, but at the same time I would accept that it was no ones "fault".

If she were lacksadaisical about birth control, fell pregnant, I think I would feel a bit of resentment in with the hurt, along the lines of, I am hurt because you couldn't be careful.  At the same time I would still love her, but would feel a bit let down I think, that she is acting without considering not only the potential consequences to herself, but to a child, to me, to the rest of her family etc.  I guess I would feel she had been selfish and not considered others, and that I had let her down as a parent to bring her up to be so selfish.

But, ultimately, whatever the circumstances, I would be there for her.  Why?  Because if the grandchild were dead, there is nothing i can do now to make their situation any better or worse.  But I CAN help my child.  So I would leave the care of my grandchild to whatever comes after this life, and focus my energies on loving and helping my child, something I CAN do something about.

Thats my thoughts, for what they are worth!

Answer 3

no... you never love your kid any less. you love them even if they makes mistakes.  just prayer and hope that they learn from their mistake

Answer 4

No.  They must of had their reasons for doing such a thing.  They themselves will have to deal with what they have done.  To many; abortion is thought of as murder.  To some that have had one, they walk away thinking that they had just killed a child.  While others; they don't give it a second thought.  Feel sorry for your child.  Because this may affect her for the rest of her life.  But if she does it again, then maybe you should feel differently.

Answer 5

i think i would be upset but you cant be mad at them. you need to support your child witht there decisions because you are here to help them in life i think that you should talk to them and let them know how you feel...im sorry and good luck

Answer 6

I wouldn't approve by any means, but no, I wouldn't feel any different about my child.

Answer 7

No, it would be their decision and I would support them with their decision.  Now, if they killed my grandchild after it was born, etc. that's a whole other story...

Answer 8

i would not approve abortion, but i would not banish my child....

Answer 9

That's murder!It should be against the law to abort!The mother should give birth to the child then put the baby up for adoption if the mother does not want the baby.I mean babies are SOOOOOO CUTE!I would fell hurt and would not understand why they would hurt my grandchild like that.I would have a BIG talk with them.I am not a other.I am a teenager.That's how I would feel though.

Answer 10

No because abortion is not murder

Answer 11

I'm sure it wasn't an easy decision for them to do that, so they must have had their reasons.

If you truly love your child and respect their decisions, your love for them will not change.  Remember -- they are their own person, and just because you think you may have made a different decision than you would have, that shouldn't affect your love for them.

Answer 12

No.  I have a daughter who is 23, and without question, I would have supported her through that difficult process, if she had needed it.

I don't believe that abortion is the right thing to do, but I also don't believe it's my decision to make for everyone else.  There are very few people who choose abortion and feel good about their choice...it's a very, very difficult thing to have to go through.

Answer 13

I wa sstupid and messed up.  I went to my parents for money for it.  They were not happy, but I wasn't ready.  I now have a son that I would change the world for.  It was her decision, not yours.  Be supportive, it is a very hard decision that she will live with for the rest of her life.  It has been 5 years for me and I think about it everyday and I also am thankful I had that option 5 years ago.  She needs you right now.