Would you forgive a friend for calling children services?

Question

But you deserved it? Your child was outside in naught but a diaper, twice in a week, while the parents slept.

Opinions?

Answer 1

i would beg for THEIR  forgivness and be very ashamed that i was that bad a parent, and lucky i had freinds who looked out for my children.

Answer 2

I would be grateful that I had a friend that cared enough about my children to call child services. If you are the caller don't stress about it...you did the right thing....if you are the parent, forgive your friend and start setting an alarm to get up before the baby does. Plus get better locks for the doors.

Answer 3

I would have called cps if i saw that, friend or not!

if this is what you did then good for you for making the call!

Answer 4

I think the person would only forgive if they agreed that they deserved it.  If the child was outside alone in just a diaper while the parents slept they obviously don't care and think the call was 'undeserved'.  Someone who would sleep and allow their child to wander outside alone doesn't seem like a good parent to me.

Answer 5

No, i would not forgive her she'd be lucky if i didn't break her d**n nose. Toddlers get out the house, you turn your head and they are gone. If my friend came to me and said "B*tch your baby is outside, how bout you get off you *** and be a parent" I would have been fine, but children services is another thing.

Answer 6

you should be glad someone called if baby was outside alone while you were sleep.the child thanks you and so do I  for the persons that reported it .

Answer 7

Maybe if I legitmatly deserved it, but hopefully my mothering skills aren't totally out of whack that I knew I could be that harmful or neglectful of my kids.

I have had people call on me twice, but all times they were reported annonmously. And I never did find out. The alligations that were made were rediculous. They said that my fiancee was smoking crack in front of our daughters, so he submitted to a drug test, and it came back negitive. case was dropped, then a few months later, another alligation came up that he sneaks into her room at night and touches her. she talked to my oldest daughter, who is 4, and she found out that wasn't the case. Plus not to mention he works midnights and wasn't even home. The case worker asked me if there was anyone who might do this. And I named off a couple of people. I had told her about the situation with my mom, that she never liked my fiancee, because I moved out of her house, which I was paying half of her bills, and still had to abide by her 9pm curfew. Hey, I was 22 at the time. She hasn't came around since. She said she was going to talk to her supervisor because they could find out who was making the calls, and she knows it was the same person as before. And every time a call gets placed they have to investigate it, by wasting time investigating a false report, takes time away from the kids who really need it. And by making a false report, you can get in trouble for it.

As for being outside in nothing but a diaper, twice a week, while the parents slept. Yeah, that is a bigger problem. A child still in diapers should be supervised at all times. I understand that right now times can be tough, and maybe the parents are working all the time, and they need to sleep, but lock the door. And if the little one can reach standard locks, put a chain lock at the top so they can't reach it.

Answer 8

I can only say that if a person was that irresponsible and neglectful, then they probably wouldn't be forgiving because they wouldn't recognize there was a problem to begin with and would most likely be angry.

Answer 9

Anyone who would do that clearly is not a good person (the person who let their baby walk outside!!!).  I wouldn't care for their forgiveness.

Answer 10

If a friend believes that a childs situation is desperate enough to call CPS then it was probably bound to happen. Some parents just aren't mature enough to handel all the responsibility. I am glad to hear that someone informed the authorities. Too many children fall through the cracks.

Answer 11

Who ever called did the right thing as for forgiving I dont know bc im not that person...  but i would think if they were good friends then that person would relize that the person who called was just really looking out for her children and as a mommy to be whoever cares about my children will get stars in my book...  Something worse could have happened that Child Services being called, child could have been hurt, kidnapped or who knows what else.

Answer 12

I wouldn't ask for forgivness if I felt I did what I had to do for the child. and if I was in that position I probably wouldn't forgive the person who called child services on me. sounds a little harsh I know but that's how I see it

Answer 13

She did the right thing.

Answer 14

you'd be lucky to have this person as a friend, sounds to me like she did the right thing.

Answer 15

noooope. holding a grudge in dis case isn't so bad.

Answer 16

well I would keep my child safe. But if a friend ever called on me for any reason.... they would never again be my friend as I could not trust them again.

Answer 17

if she was a good "friend", she should have been warned sternly by "her good friend". like as in-"if i see this again, for the protection of your child, i will have to take another step" if my child (still young enough to be in diapers) was out of the house while i was sleeping, i would want to know immediately. i have seen kids like that alot. i don't care how good of a mother/father you are, if you have a child with a tendency to wander, they can get the best of you. my son was that way. i started working, hired a new sitter, and my son was roaming the sidewalk stark naked. my neighbor had enough sense to call me first (after she got my child) needless to say, i fired the new sitter( she was on the phone with her boyfriend and still had no clue my kid had been out, even after i had gotten home) if she has been told before "hey, your kid is coming outside while your sleeping. and she doesn't do anything, then she sounds like she is very lax on her parenting and it wouldn't matter anyway, because if it wasn't this situation, it will be another , that puts the child in jepordy. the problem is once you are in the system of child services it is a horrible situation to get out of. be very sure first.

Answer 18

h**l no.  I think I would probably never talk to them again.  I'm sure that I would never do this because I'm not that type of a parent.  But I still couldn't forgive a 'friend' for calling child services on me instead of addressing it to me first.

I had a friend that did something to this effect.  She had her three year old outside without anyone watching him, in just his underwear while she was inside having s*x with a guy she met online.  

I lived with her at the time and came home after work to find this.  I reamed her up one wall and down the other, almost got into a fist fight with her and kicked the guy out of the house.  But I didn't call CPS until a week later when I caught her smoking meth in front of her son.