Would you forgive her if you were me?

Question

My cousin sister cut me off from her life for no reason. I wasn't able to contact her despite trying several times and she didn't contact me either. She had all my contact details. I was always nice to her in the past and even forgave her before when she did something nasty.

If you were in my place, would you still forgive her and be nice to her when you meet her again? Would you attend her wedding if invited? (She didn't attend mine claiming she was sick)

We were close before and I am the only (sane) family she has got.

Answer 1

hmmm I think you should give her another chance, you and her are not the same person so if she didn't attend your weddin you shouldn't do the same to her. If you go maybe you will even make her feel guilty because of how you treat her even thought she did all these things to you :)

Answer 2

Since she does not want to, just go on separate ways.

But if she have the interest and heart to come to meet you, you should forgave her

Answer 3

did u too get in to a fight or something?

she might have some reason

Answer 4

Do what you want.

but i say do it

because one day later you might regret it.

try to stop thinking of the past even though it hurt.

Answer 5

I'll make this short.

I suppose it may be hard to forgive somebody after they seem to had made it tough or confusing for you.

Yet, family is family. You've always cared for each other. Why stop now?

If you realize you're somebody she needs, stay and be there for her.

One day she will realize how much you have done for her.

If it still bothers you, confront her with this problem.

Treat people the way you want them to treat you. Even if they take a while to come back with a good attitude, you'll get good back in return.

Answer 6

Okay, let me give you a good strategy for dealing with gossips stabbing you in the back, because from what you've described, that's most likely what happened. (Your close relative listened to others who did that to you.)

When people are slamming you, saying all kinds of nasty slander about you, the best way to fight that is to be as nice as you can possibly be, so much that nobody in their right mind could possibly believe the lies. When you do this, it makes the person lying about you look really bad. Eventually, people will come to you and secretly confide all of the nasty rumours that were told about you and how they dislike the way the person doing it acts.

Good luck!

Answer 7

That is a very fustrating situation.  This has happened to me before and when a situation like this happens, it eats at you.  You ask yourself, what did I do.

It will get to the point where it will knaw at you and you could get sick over this.

What I have learned is that, it may be nothing that you did, and even if it were, you need to move on.  You deserve to be happy.

Forgivng someone is the best gift you can give yourself.  You will much happier, and you will set yourself free of worry.  Try and move on.

If you run into her, then just be pleasant and move on.  Life is too short to hold grudges and to dwell on the past.

Easier said than done, but you will in time, will be happier to let this go.

Answer 8

just cuz ur family doesnt mean u gotta get along sure u guys were close before but now for whatever reason she has chosen to cut u out of her life, sersiously life is too short to be caught in other ppls drama and according to u it isnt her first time and she didnt even come to ur wedding so why keep a person like that around she'll prob come back around when she needs something.

Answer 9

Well Im Sorry To Hear That If It Was Me I Wouldn't Forgive Her Unless She Apologized For The Way She Was Acting And No I Would Not Attend Her Weding Why Should You Go To Hers When She Didn't Attend Yours  

Answer 10

Maybe there's a misunderstanding between you two, I know that this happens between my mom and her boyfriend sometimes but they eventually realize nothing was wrong in the first place. I would forgive her, ecspeacily if you two are the only ones you have for each other.

Answer 11

For me I will still forgive her.  No matter what she did to me.  I have to accept that she don't like me anymore well it's up to her decision.  I know someday we will meet again.  I will still be nice to her.  If I will be invited I will attend her wedding why not? Maybe it will be the start of friendship again.

Answer 12

well it depend if she have a good reason for cutting you out of her life then yes but if not forget her

Answer 13

no way mate!!

Answer 14

Women tend to react emotionally, I'm not certain why she acts mean to you. It sounds like you want to remain in her life because you had a connection with her as family. But one thing is for certain, you should forgive her, and be nice to her, but don't spend a lot of time with her. If she wants you in her life she should treat you better. I would still attend her wedding if I was invited. But for now I wouldn't try to be in her life by contacting her. She maybe even given you the hint she really doesn't want you in her life. It's a sad reality. You sound like a nice family member.  

Answer 15

Josh 24:19  And Joshua said unto the people, Ye cannot serve the LORD: for he is an holy God; he is a jealous God; he will not forgive your transgressions nor your sins.