Would you forgive if your partner cheated?

Question

Could you stay in the relationship, and truly forgive, and be able to trust and move on? Is it possible that someone who cheats, can do so, but remain totally in love with their partner that they are cheating on, and it just be a horrible mistake?

Answer 1

I did but it didn't work out in the end.

Answer 2

My boyfriend actually did cheat on me and i stayed with him, because i wasn't ready to lose the relationship, and it was so early on that i was willing to forgive [took some time of course] and continue on.

And i have to admit everything turned out for the best...and i trusted him from then on and he never let me down again. =]  That's why i honestly believe, people DO make mistakes...big ones at that.

Answer 3

I have been married to my husband for 21 years.  He cheated after 13 years of marriage.  We had two children ages one and five.  We separated for eight months.  Then we got back together.  He always said it was a mistake and he wouldn't take the chance of losing me and the kids for it.  He said he didn't have any feelings for her.  If you really love someone and believe they really love you then you know that they are human.  Human means we sometimes make mistakes.  Unfortunately, they can't take it back but you can learn to trust them again.  It's all in the level of committment that you two have to your relationship and it's success.

Answer 4

I would probably be too hurt to forgive.. and the day that happens I wouldnt ever want to see them again.

Answer 5

Yes

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To all your questions.

Been there, done that & it's OK.  

It all depends on connections you have with each other.  Forgiving does not mean forget.  You may have to deal with the issue again on occasions when one partner is feeling in-secured or have the old hurt trigger by something.

the only way forward though, is not to brush it aside but really deal with it.  How, why etc.  Mostly, the partner who cheats has an insecurity/fear issue and certainly a level of fear of intimacy.  Also sometimes when their need isn't met and they stray, it is because they are unable to receive or ask for what they need.

It's important for both partners to understand the how & why & consequences + how much it hurts the relationship.

Answer 6

I tried, it didnt work, but most partners are forgiving. I have cheated and been forgiven, and I have been cheated on as well. I didnt think I was worthy anymore after my bf forgave me for my sinful deeds. Cheaters dont think of the consequences, I know I didnt. Right now, I just found out the man I slept with on a casual basis is married with three kids. most of my ex bfs friends tried to hit on me, my gfs bfs tried to hit on me. as you can see, I dont trust any man or women around me when you are spoken for. It is very common.........but my best of wishes to those who truley do love one another and wouldnt risk it for a piece of a.$.S

Answer 7

I Can not answer that question for you.

But i don't think i could cause you have given so much and they go out and do that, Usually when some one cheats they will continue. Perhaps if you sat down and talked to them they might stop.

Answer 8

no way!someone who cheats on you doesn't deserve you.i think if someone loves you he is always thinking about you and wouldn't cheat on you because this would hurt you.

Answer 9

nope id move on with my life,who is to say they wouldnt do it again

Answer 10

Once a cheater, always a cheater

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Answer 11

Nope

Answer 12

Short answer NO. Been there my husband cheated on me on our honeymoon and I felt I had no choice but to try to get on with our married life. Big mistake. I became totally obsessive and depressed. I hung in there for over 7 years but he cheated again this time he was 42 and the girl was sixteen. I left and now have a life where i love and am loved unconditionally. Be true to yourself. you cant band aid a broken heart.  Good luck!

Answer 13

no it's over way before they actually cheat.... the fact they looked for someone else means they don't care.... it doesn't stop you loving someone but trust is important and i wouldn't be able to trust them again...