Would you forgive you friend if he fooled around with your girlfriend?

Question

Ok, so here's the situation. A while ago, my friend and his girlfriend (who I was really good friends with before they went out) would always get into these arguments. So trying to be a good friend, I talked to each of them to see if I can help work things out. I talked to my friend first and he tells me things like "I can't stand her anymore" and "I don't know what to do with her". So after getting his input about how he felt about her, I tried talking to the girlfriend to see what was on her mind. She said similar things about him and starts crying and saying things like, "I wish he was more like you" and "you know how to treat a girl better", she was coming on to me. So I was like **** that, I can't get into **** like this. However, for a few days we talked on the phone, I tried to make sure everything was okay between the two of them and she'd say things like "I've always liked you" and thing like that. So being the stupid person I am, I start getting this emotional attachment with her. I was confused. I only wanted to be there to help her but I got so deep into the situation it felt like I couldn’t get out or control my feelings as well. To keep it short, we ended up fooling around. I felt really guilty for what I did, so I told her to tell my friend (her boyfriend) about what we did. I knew he’d get pissed off and try to kill me, but I knew telling him was the right thing to do. Now, neither of us talk. I can't stop thinking about it and I want to make things better between my friend (her boyfriend) and I. Is their some way I can get my friend to forgive me? I know it was a stupid thing to do and I paid for it. I feel ******* terrible.

Answer 1

No and here's why. You had every opportunity to tell your friend that you were starting to have feelings for his girlfriend. You could have also backed off and left her alone. It wasn't your job to run interference for them  and it doesn't sound as if either one of them asked you to.  Since you don't mention the girl anymore I'm assuming that you got what you wanted from her and now you  just need your Friend's forgiveness for all to be right with your world. I doubt that will happen.  

Answer 2

no.

Answer 3

I'm sorry. You look like a decent person that made a stupid mistake. But. Sorry, no. I wouldn't forgive that person, regardless of the state of my relationship, even if it was in the crapper i would expect my friends to respect it.

Maybe you can hope that in the future he can forgive you. OR maybe he already did but he can't be your friend anymore. I would apologize (A lot) send a letter, a postcard, an email, text. Kiss *** and then apologize some more and then some more, and then some more.

But know that no matter how much you do he may never forgive you. Hopefully your friend isnt the vindictive type and wont try to get revenge or something like that.

You made a mistake. Not by falling for his girlfriend or by developing some sort of feelings for her. But by acting on them. It doesn't matter how deep your feelings were you shouldn't have acted on them. And since the girl is a sleazy cheater i doubt she was worth it.

You endangered and probably ruined forever your friendship with that guy. So make peace with yourself knowing that you truly regret it and learned from this experience.

Maybe with some luck a few months or years from now (depending how long they were together and how forgiving your friend is) he'll get over it and you guys can be pals again. For now? i think you should move on too and leave your friend to heal.

Answer 4

unless you wanted to marry the girl talk it ot with the dude remember friends last a lifetime

Answer 5

You guys were pretty tight buds before this happened, right? I am almost too forgiving of a person sometimes and feel like I would forgive this situation after time, its not like this is his wife. Why should a girl come between you two? I cant say what your friend is feeling, and ya, you made a big mistake, but like I said, maybe with time you guys will go back to being friends again, but I would make sure I didnt make the same mistake twice.