Would you get back together? this doesnt fit completely with this catagory but its the reason for it?

Question

Ok its me again! sorry i haven't updated u for a while! (i was kinda grounded) but my mom finally got over the fact that she can't change it. i told the father and that is where my question comes in... should i get back together with him? the reason we broke up was because i heard he was making out with another girl in the hall at school. i confronted him but he said he didn't but i can tell he was lying cuz i just know when he does. but he is sticking to his story that he didn't kiss her and he is really angry i dont believe him. is it just because i know that is awful for him to have done that and i think im seeing his lying signs or what... i want him to be a part of the baby's life and i guess he is fine getting back together with me but i don't want to have to worry about him doing that again! urg this is confusing and something smells really bad.... worst thing about being pregnant. but anyways idk what to do! can you please help?

Answer 1

i wouldnt have him back personally....how old are you love?

Answer 2

Just remember, he doesn't necessarily have to have a romantic relationship with you in order to be a part of his baby's life.  He can be a good dad even if he's moved on to another girlfriend.

Answer 3

My bf kissed another girl before and I got back together with him.  If he says he didn't do it then maybe you should believe him, unless he had been a little liar in the past.  If you can't trust eachother then you shouldn't get back together though because you will just fight a lot and get jealous, not good for the baby.  Remember that people spred rumors all the time at school so unless he has done something like that before then you shouldn't believe it.  If you can trust him get back together, if not then just be friends and that way he can still be in the baby's life as a father but you can still be free to see other people and not have to worry about fighting!

Answer 4

give him another chance.. If you want him to be part of the baby's life then I would give him another chance. Keep a close eye on him though.. I hope your pregnancy goes well.=)

Answer 5

Don't force a relationship.  Can you really see yourself spending forever with him.  Maybe you should work on having a special friendship and partnership in raising the baby.  Don't sell yourself short just because he's the father of your baby.  Just really think things through before you make a decision.  Staying with him might not be the best thing for your or your baby's future.  He could be a really good dad and a terrible boyfriend and you don't want your baby to live around stress.  Good luck with everything. :)

Answer 6

Its all up to you, If you really want to be with him then let him have ONE more chance... If you even think he is doing something like that again drop him and don't look back. He may not have kissed some girl, maybe someone is just trying to break you up or be mean in a cowardly way, you should never really trust what you hear but believe what you actually see! Good luck with what ever you decide to do.

Answer 7

I wouldn't.  It does not appear that he is mature enough to deal with the situation.

Answer 8

you are still in a school where people make out in the halls i am guessing this is not college and praying that its not grammar school but anyway you do not have to be with him for him to be in the babies life and you do not want to be stressed during your pregnancy it sounds like you have enough problems you are still young enough to be grounded

Answer 9

If you do want to get back together with him you are either going to have just believe him about the other girl or forgive him. As much as the baby needs it's father, there is no point trying to be in a relationship without trust so the first step is for you to move on from the current situation. Do not get back with him for the baby's sake... he/she doesn't need parents who fight and you can still both be there for the baby  

Answer 10

Just because the 2 of you might not be together doesnt mean he can't be a part of the babys life. There is visiting if you allow it and he wants it also.

You say you know he is lying. well I was told once that you can't go on hear-say if you do you'll be a "miserable" person. so if what he tells you is that he didnt do this or that then that is what you should go on if you truly do love him. That's just a risk you'd have to take about knowing whether or not he'll cheat again (if he indeed did so).

I was in the same situation for a while there.

good luck to you and yours though

Answer 11

Well being a part of his child's life is a privilege, he should see it that way and consider himself lucky to help you raise this person. BUT the two of you being together JUST because you're having a baby is NO GOOD. It will hurt you in the long run. If he really WANTS to try and work it out you've got to start fresh. Forget about who he may or may not have kissed, it's not important now, don't stress yourself out over it, try and if not MILLIONS of moms have done it without the dad. No reason you can't, my mom did. Good luck