Now I'm going to preface this by saying that my therapist has called my husband emotionally abusive, so I've kind of on guard about things.
Anyhow, last night, I was in the shower and my husband got in with me with the sole purpose of also taking a shower (it was his normal shower time and I was "interfering" with it). I was shaving my legs without shaving cream, which I generally do because it doesn't really seem to affect my legs (though I should probably use shaving cream...just don't have any in the house and keep forgetting to buy it). My husband remarked, for the millionth time, that I needed to use shaving cream. Then he proceeded to feel my leg and tell me what spots I had missed. Then, he kept saying over and over that shaving cream would help me with this and that. It was MEGA annoying to me and I told him that he was being too critical. He got very upset with me for "generalizing" his behavior. He thought I should've said something about the specific behavior instead. My husband has criticized me a lot in the past. Other things include not brushing my teeth enough, not washing well enough (if he thinks I smell somewhere or if I have a UTI), among other things. I have decent personal hygiene, even if it's not the absolute best that I could have. I don't say anything usually when he's committed some personal hygiene faux pas. Do I have a right to get upset about these things or is he just being "helpful" as he says?
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