Would you give up a flourishing career to be with the person you love who happens to live in another city?

Question

if s/he asks you to, that is.

Answer 1

Not being sexist, the answer is typically NO for men, because they are the de facto breadwinners, by societal norms. Thus, their careers are supremely important if they have to take care of their wives and the kids they will raise. The guy needs the momentum he has established.

The girls would have a higher rate of saying YES, following norms that the husband is the head of household and primarily responsible for the finances. No, I do not discount the fact that these days, couples are usually double-income, with some women earning more than their men. I only talk about this in broad terms.

Most importantly, the decision needs to be arrived at by BOTH of you, with no one ASKING the other. With love comes respect for the other person's individuality.

Answer 2

My first response would be no, but I would have to have a few questions answered before saying for sure.  Like how long have you known this person? How deep are you in the relationship? Why is this person living in a different city if you have such a deep relationship? Most of all what do you think about this person's overall character?  You could be in love with a person, but still not have total respect nor confidence in them. And the financial situation would have to be discussed and agreed to, because you will have to eat and have a roof over your head continuously while looking for a new job or career no matter how long it takes.

If all of the answers were on the positive side, I could see myself seriously considering the change.  

Answer 3

no! i don't like that type of person who will ask me to give up my career.

Answer 4

Maybe yes maybe know..  Is it real lifelong love or just a try.

Can he move easier than you?

Where could you both have good careers together.

So many variables.

Answer 5

no

Answer 6

if you're about to tie the knot, yes, otherwise, no.

Answer 7

that would be a resounding YES, provided...

1) he is able to support me while I am looking for another career

2) we are married

3) his place is much better than mine.

otherwise, it would have to be NO.

Answer 8

nope.career is more difficult to have than love. unless you could have the same career in the place where you're going..but i doubt it.. i would still stick with my career, more so if it has been my long dream to have it. love would come later or we coudl still maintain that relationship, even if we're miles away from each other.