Would you go to your x-husband wedding? was asked to be Maid of Honor. Not really wanting to go at all.

Question

Divorced thirteen years. Still friends with x-husband are raising two grandchildren together. They live with me. New wife was the children's babysitter when they were younger. I am not a close friend but we get along. Would feel strange to be a part of x-husband wedding. He said he wouldn't go to mine if I remarried.

Answer 1

Don't torture yourself :)

Answer 2

I might go as a guest but certainly not as the Maid of Honor. That is crazy. Doesn't she have a relative or friend for that position?

Answer 3

I would not go. And since you don't want to, don't.

Thank the bride to be for asking you but say you just won't be able to do it then wish her well.

Hope this helps!

Answer 4

If you don't feel right going then don't go!

Answer 5

I wouldn't. I think it would just be a little uncomfortable (for me, personally).  

Answer 6

umm.... no

Answer 7

No one is holding a gun to your head and forcing you to go, are they?  If you don't want to go, then don't.  It's that simple.  And you don't need to give them an explanation.  Just say, "I won't be attending".

Answer 8

no do not go that is nuts.

Answer 9

It is up to you to decide.  If you do not feel comfortable for any reason it might be best to graciously decline.  Just say you are not comfortable and would prefer not to be part of the wedding party.

I admire the way you are handling the divorce.  This is never a good thing but too often the children suffer.  Raising the grand kids together is marvelous  You are a classy lady.

Answer 10

I know for me it would be an awkward situation, if you don't feel up to it, then you are not obligated to go, your kids with him are all grown, so its not like you have to be there for them.  I think it would be even more ridiculous you being maid of honor.

Answer 11

If you have any self dignity you wouldn't go.

Staying friends is fine, but weddings are a no no, you'll be remembering your own, even if it was an unhappy marriage, do you really want to watch him marry another! I certaintly would not.

Answer 12

I would go, but politely explain to him that I don't feel comfortable being a member of the wedding party. (You can say that it may distract some from the fact that it is he and the new wife's big day to have the old wive up there as well.) Stay for the ceremony, think about puppies so that you smile then attend the reception long enough to do a tour of the room, drink their free booze then say that you have a migraine, wish them luck and go home.  

Answer 13

No, I would not go.

Answer 14

It is one things to stay friends and maybe possibly attend even though I would not, but it is definitely another to be the maid of honor... I think you should keep your dignity.

Answer 15

Wow, he & she wants you to be part of their 'day', acknowlege their union, but he won't respect/acknowlege yours should you re-marry?

I'd decline and not attend....politely...and if you remarry, don't invite him as he's already told you he plans on boycotting it, it's his way of saying he won't accept you re-marrying.....so why does he not only expect you to acknowlege his re-marriage but be part of it/ Wierd...you'd be better off anyway....good luck.

Answer 16

Don't go if you are going to be uncomfortable.