Would you have your mother-in-law in the delivery room with you?

Question

How many of you want or had your husband's mother in the delivery room with you? Did you let your own mother in, but not your mother-in-law?

Answer 1

i want my husband and my mother. but his mom??? h**l NO. that ***** is f_cking crazy!!! i swear she's on crack or something. but no she will not be coming in my room.

Answer 2

Well, i ended up with a c-section, so my hubby was the only one allowed. But i wanted both my hubby and my mother.

My mother in law, no i didn't want her in. Didn't even think about it. My inlaws were in such a hurry to leave for Vegas for 6 months that they were going to leave 2 weeks before she was due but stayed at my hubbys request. So she didn't do nothing to deserve to be there.

Answer 3

I did have my Mother-in-law and Mother in the room with us.  It was fine, I had no problem with it.

Answer 4

I'm only going to have my husand in the room with me.  At the childbirth prep classes we watched videos of women laboring and it was so much more of an intimate act than I had ever imagined it to be before.  I can't imagine having anyone else there besides hubby.

Answer 5

I would have never allowed my MIL in the room with me, luckily she lives in another state so all we could do anyways was call when they were born but even if she lived next door I still wouldn't want her there while i was in labor, we just don't get along.  She is actually one of the reasons we ended up getting divorced.  I did have my mom in the room and she will be in the room this time too.

To me the labor and delivery is about me and the baby not about my MIL or anyone else that may feel bad if they can't be there.  If they make me feel uncomfortable they will not be in there with me, i need to concentrate on the labor and delivery not their buggyness.

Answer 6

I'm due in October and I will NOT have my mother-in-law or my own mother in the delivery room.  Just my husband.  :o)

Answer 7

ha ha ha what a question and was such the debate in our family.  we chose not to have anyone in and we did say that we would call security if anyone tried coming in and we meant it.  we didnt have any trouble....and it was so nice to be by ourselves and be able to spend those firsst moments with the ones you love the most....you, your spouse and the new little bundle of joy.  the will get their chance soon enough.  take the time to enjoy those brief moments you get....bc you will never have another chance!!  take advantage.  you have to stand up for yourselves and remember just bc they are your parents doesnt mean they have the right to run your life now.  stand up now or you will regret it!  good luck and congrats on your sweet and precious birth!

Answer 8

My mother and husband were there my mother in law would have been, but she was late. But I am really close to my mother in-law.

Answer 9

This brings back not so great memories. My mil wanted to come into the delivery room w/us but I wouldn't let her cause she is a very pushy, annoying person.  Well, she managed to sneak into the labor area and popped right into my room where I was in full out agony, as soon as I saw her I howled for them to get her out.  The nurse got security to escort her right out into the waiting area again much to her surprise.  Honestly, there is no way anyone but my doctor and hubby are going to see me that spread eagled. I guess its personal choice though,you have to have a really special bond with your mother in law if you are gonna let her into the room w/you.  Good luck with whatever you decide!

Answer 10

I feel it depends on your relationship with you Mother-In-Law.  I had three kids and I was only aloud 2 people in the room.  It was always my husband and my mom.  My Mother-In-Law understood completely.

Answer 11

I don't want anyone but my husband near me that day!

Answer 12

I think it would be rude to have your mother in the room but not your mother-in-law.

I'm only having my husband in the room.

Answer 13

I would have a hard time having my MIL in the room, but at the sametime, it is her grandbaby!! So tough one there girl, good luck!!

Answer 14

With all 4 of my kids I only wanted my husband there and thats the way I had it. Labor is bad enough I don't need and audience.

Answer 15

I am closer to my MIL, so yes I want her in there to take pictures. My mother will not be because my MIL is more like my mother. But my mom is aware of this.

Answer 16

I didn't allow either in the delivery room.  My aunt was in the room for my first daughter and she was there after I had my second daughter, while my bf followed our baby(2 c-sections).  If you were really close to your MIL then I wouldn't see a problem but I never wanted that many people.  It's extremely private moment for me.

Answer 17

You should have with you whomever YOU are comfortable with and wish to share the moment with.  I had my mom with me all 4 times and never my MIL.  I suppose that if she had asked me and it really meant something to her, I would have let her, but that is me.

Answer 18

Yeppers, but i'm really close to her. I had both.