Would you leave your partner if they were always smoking dope and people ?

Question

were always showing up at your door looking for him to find them some. expecially those of you that have kids

Answer 1

yes! I hv 2 kids and yes!

Answer 2

Yes,  I did leave a looser dope head. Something is bound to happen to you or the kids if you have any. you can't change them and make them quit. The best thing to do is LEAVE!

Answer 3

Before I'd leave him, I'd be telling those who show up at the door, to STOP coming by if that's only what their wanting.

I've been there  and done this!    Their not friends, their just people useing other people.

Tell the guy this is the new plan, and if he doesn't like it, HE can get OUT!

Answer 4

what children grow up seeing they will bring into their own lives later.u need to confront him, give him an ultimatum, and if it continues, get out of the marriage because it usually doesn't get any better.its one thing to smoke in the privacy of ones home, not around the kids, but when u bring others into your home, u run the risk of loosing your kids,getting arrested,not to mention the association with people u don't want in your home or around your kids.  

Answer 5

Give him a choice....either love and respect you more than the dope or get rid of him at the speed of light!

Answer 6

yes..esp if children are involved. Tell him its time to grow up.

Answer 7

no that is so cruel

Answer 8

yes or ask him to stop.

Answer 9

Well, yes......I do not want my son to be exposed to that life style...always high then how does he hold down a job?  You know you are living with a drug dealer don't you? They can take your kids if he ever gets busted did you realize that? So now what you have to do is answer these questions and decide what kind of life you want for yourself and your children.....good luck...I would leave right away

Answer 10

yes get out when you can !!!!!!!!!!

Answer 11

If it were just that he was using dope I'd say no, but it sounds like he's dealing, and that puts you at risk. If he really loves you, he'll agree to cut that out.

Answer 12

Yes Sarah... run far far away... I have seen that destroy lives of parents and children alike... As a mother it is your responsibility to think of the well being of your children... Tell him that once he gets his stuff straight, you will take him back,,

Answer 13

yes, or you could lose your kids.

if it is something you have always gone along with you are going to have a hard time getting him to stop.  if it's something that just started i would just lay the law down.

tell him, point blank, i don't care if you get high as long as it's not around the kid or in the house.  as far as going to get it for people you are going to get caught, it's just a matter of time.  

Answer 14

Yes, I would leave in a second.

Answer 15

yes.........

Answer 16

umm, yes

Answer 17

I'm a subscriber of the belief that whatever you do in the privacy of your own home is your business. in this instance if you want to smoke the occasional joint now and then so be it. however not around the kids. That's verbotten.

In addition, people coming around and either asking you where they can cop or his even selling alittle weed to someone will attract the attention of the local police. Nothing worse than watching TV, kids on the floor sipping milk and eating cookies when the door shatters and seven or eight narcs rush through the door, guns drawn.

Dopers will always sell someone down the river. Why? They're under the thumb of the police already or are getting thirty or fourty dollars for each controlled buy they do for the police. So...who cares about you and the kids. They got their money to go buy their dope. And at your expense because dipshit hubby/boyfriend conducts business like that under your roof.

So....does this open your eyes for you and make your decision a little easier?  

Answer 18

I would first give him the opportunity to fix his behavior and then if that doesn't work I would leave without looking back.

Answer 19

Wow.. you really put up with that? Ever hear the saying, "you are the company you keep"? Unless you're keeping him around to feel like a better person by comparison, you have nothing to gain. Even if you are keeping him around to feel better about yourself because he's such a loser, that makes you look pretty shallow and indignant.

Answer 20

In a heartbeat.

Answer 21

I would for sure leave with my kids. Simply because I wouldn't want them to be in that situation.  But I am sure you love them so maybe give them the chance to change to be a part of yours and your kids life.  If you mean anything to them they will change.  It may be a little while for them to get clean but it can happen.  Remember to be there with support and love.  

Answer 22

Oh, h3ll yes.

I don't have kids.  Kids DO NOT need to be exposed to this!  They have enough challenges in this world as it is.  They need to have straight parents who concentrate on raising THEM.

I used to be a heavy doper.  I got tired of living my life in a fog.  I got tired of it getting in the way of our relationship.  This is what I said to my ex, "I don't want it in my house, I don't want it in my life.  If you are going to smoke dope, don't bring it here."

He said he was going to quit but he didn't.  Ultimately, he chose pot and partying over me.