Would you let me stay home for a week to two by myself?

Question

Im 18 turning 19 august 25th.

My mom wants to [drive] out to [Tennessee] with our huge *** [golden retriever] in the car. Yes, a car. Two adults, 1 child and a huge dog all the way to wonderful humid Tennessee.

I don't want to go, the idea of driving all that doesn't thrill me and it would mean missing Big Gig, a concert. Its an important concert for my state because its giving some local bands the spotlight, especially my crushes band.

I don't want to miss this concert, I know there will be others but this one is special.

I want to stay home, I don't really want to spend the last part of my summer driving to Bumpkinville in a crammed car. Not all the bribes could get me to go.

I want to discuss with my mom staying here but I don't know how she will react.

I wanted to get the views of some other parents first.

Answer 1

I would think it all through and make your case. Maybe get a friend to stay with you to make your mom feel better. Promise you will check in everyday at a certain time. and NEVER miss that time.

Plan your speech, have everything set up just in case. Odds are that if you have it all planned out, then she will see you for the mature, responsible adult you are and give you her blessing to stay. I say blessing because you and I know she can't make you stay but it will make it easier on both of you and your relationship, if she gives you her blessing to stay on your own.

good Luck!!!!

Answer 2

if youre 18 then yea id let you,

and youre considerd an adult.

Youre parents cant force you, unless if you still live with them.

i stay at home by my self and im 15.

(my parents go to new mexico and i live in texas)

Answer 3

I'm not a parent, but I'd like to state my opinion. I would let you stay home. Seeing as you do not do drugs and control yourself while drinking, I will also assume that you can take care of yourself too! These qualities are certainly good, and your mom should trust you and give you a little freedom because one day you will move out.

Answer 4

First of all, I live in Tennessee and it's not Bumpkinville! It's Nashville! But yeah, it is humid.

Anyway, you're almost 19, and you're a legal adult. I don't see any problem at all with you staying home alone. Bring that up to her, tell her that you're grown now and you need some freedom. It can't hurt to ask.

Do you think that maybe she just wants you to go for the company, or maybe she's having a hard time letting go?

Answer 5

Joe,

First, what are your Mom's plans for the other pets, if you go?  Don’t  factor them in.  Second, the concert will go on with or without you; your support here is admirable, not required.

Yes, you are 18, but  what kind of 18 year old are you?  You made  no mention of  job, school, college?  What is your “past history of responsibility”  too many unanswered questions...if you were my son, I would be concerned and worried the entire time.  I would exhaust ALL options for your supervision; not because I don't trust you, but because  too many things can happen in a house without; thinking rational adult supervision.  

If you were my son and had demonstrated a proactive tendency toward responsibility, I might be more comfortable with leaving you behind…something to think about.  

Toward that end:  All of my friends think I’m too harsh and expect to much from teen-agers “let them have freedoms, etc”.  ALL of their children have babies, none are married and ALL are struggling, some dropped out of college, some are in trouble with the law.   I’m not saying this is going to happen to you, I am suggesting that your Mom should make her decision on your “past history of responsibility”.  Regardless of her decision, you should take it like the man you want to be and  making her decision easier for next year.

God Bless and have a great summer.

Answer 6

Well if you were my daughter, I would be afraid to leave you alone, not because of distrust or anything since you are an adult, and responsible for your actions. But you know in this world there are so many weird people lurking in the shadows, and with all the kidnappings, rapes and disappearances, its just risky to leave a young girl home alone. Maybe if there was another relative or close friend that could kind of keep you company for safety's sake, I would agree. I would hate to come home from my vacation to find a tragedy has occurred to my beautiful young daughter. Prevention is the key. Your  Mom loves you and would never forgive herself if something happened to you.

Answer 7

You are 18!!

Many 18 year olds live on their own!!

Of course! lol!!

Answer 8

You are old enough to stay home alone and you shouldn't need permission to do so

Answer 9

I think you should bring it up to your mom, a lot of people your age are already living on their own (I was). BTW, don't use that as a reason when talking with your mom, I'm sure she'd just get upset. Make your point for why you should stay including being able to take care of the animals and not wanting to miss soccer practice. Tell her you'll check in every day and if it would make her feel any better she could have a neighbor stop by on occasion.

Answer 10

You're almost nighteen. That would weigh heavily on my decision. I would be nervous about you being by yourself that whole time..not because I didn't trust you (or my daughter, let's say) but because my lack of trust in other people.

Answer 11

If you're 18 then I wouldn't have to "let" you... legally you're an adult. I wouldn't like for you to stay alone though so if you chose to then I'd probably call and check on you a lot.

Answer 12

Your almost 19 your parents shouldn't be the ones telling you what to do its your decision most 19 year olds don't even LIVE with their parents anymore. I'm 17 and I stay home when I don't want to go on trips that I don't like going on, like my families going to a wedding where they'll be camping and I hate camping so I'm not going.