Would you let your 12 y/o daughter wear this?

Question

My husband recently got back home with the kids from the mall and he bought my daughter a couple of things.

This swimsuit :

http://www.abercrombiekids.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10101_10851_392727_-1_12189_12105

This skirt :

http://www.abercrombiekids.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10101_10851_392530_-1_12185_12105

and this tank top :

http://www.abercrombiekids.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?storeId=10101&catalogId=10851&productId=428797&langId=-1&categoryId=12181&parentCategoryId=12105&colorSequence=02

She's only 12! My husband said he let her get them because they were on sale. But still I don't know if I want my daughter walking around like this, but my husband already said it was ok. So I'm just going to let her, but why does she want to wear stuff like this. Do you think she could already be looking at guys? She and I talk all the time about stuff, but she has never mentioned any guys.

Answer 1

If you don't feel comfortable with her wearing it, don't get it for her. Who cares if it's on sale, don't get it for her. It is al little too grown up for her to be wearing at 12, especially with way some people are these days. But she most likely is looking at BOYS, because she's 12, talk to her about it, but don't smother her, just have a casual conversation with her, and if she doesn't say anything, don't try to force anything out of her.

Answer 2

At 12 I am pretty sure that she notices the guys already. Yes.

As for the clothes.. the bathing suit picture does not work. And the shirt is cute... depending on how low it was. The skirt would be a big NO in my house.

Answer 3

i say the square top is better for 12

the skirt leggings

and the tank top with another tank with thicker straps on it.

i find compromise

but i also be honest with my daughter and tell her why.

Answer 4

Young children just want to look older, and possible to attract guys too.

The bathing suit, couldn't view, all it showed was a topless male.

The skirt NO WAY

The top, its a really nice top, however, it is a little older for her.

Answer 5

Yes I would let a 12 year old wear that. She's 12. She may very well be interested in a guy, but it is only a guy. So what? What exactly is wrong with that? If you have raised your child to have a half decent set of morals, being interested at a guy at 12 isn't going to equal much more than a trip to the movies.

I think some of you need to accept the fact that even though you all seem to have weird hang ups about it, children are growing up faster these days. Much faster.

You can't make a 12 year old sit around playing with dolls, because you have some weird obsession with not letting her grow up.

I find society's view point that the opposite s*x is something to be frowned upon and forbidden quite strange. 50% of the population is the opposite s*x, but you don't want to let your children have any contact with half the world. Why?

I'm not encouraging by any means for young children to dress like hookers, but I see nothing wrong with those clothes. Clothing is just clothing in the end, but what your children will do and how they will act comes down to how you raised them and what you taught them. Not what clothes they wear.

I'm not just aiming this at the asker, but society in general, so don't get offended.

Answer 6

Couldn't see bathing suit. Top is fine, skirt is a NO.

Answer 7

yes.....i would...sorry but 12 year old is almost a teen and i wouldn't  like ma parents all on me bout some tin..

Answer 8

Kids now are getting interested in the opposite s*x a whole lot sooner.  So is she interested in boys yet?  Probably.

A lot of preteens are wearing stuff like that, so in a general consensus, it's not a big deal.  But my personal opinion is that young girls shouldn't dress like their going clubbing, so there you go.

I wouldn't let her wear it, I would either take the stuff back or throw it away.  It's not appropriate for a 12 year old to be showing off her stuff.  

Tell your husband that next time it's a no go, even if it's on sale.  She needs to be dressed appropriately.  She's 12, not 20.  If she puts up a fight tell her that she's a kid and if she doesn't like it then tough.

Answer 9

I dont think she could "properly" fill out that swim suit top, so that one I would say no, but it is cute.

I would have to see how short the skirt goes on her...if it is more than a few inches above the knee then NO WAY

The top is very cute, it is long and stuff, but maybe the top of it is a little too small, I would have to see how it fit on my daughter.

Answer 10

I'm sure she's already interested in guys, but 12 year olds shouldn't be wearing Abercrombie. It makes me a little teed off to see 8 year olds walking around in name brand things. If you don't think it's necessary, you're the mom. You tell her.

Answer 11

I would be careful what you let your child wear now, because it will teach them how to dress when they get older. I think that the skirt is too short, no matter who is wearing it and the tank top it fine if she wears like a white on underneath, but I think its important to show your children that you can dress nice and look good with out looking like something less desirable Take the Skirt back, because its not just teenage boys that are going to be looking at her it perverted old men who might enjoy it more and its just attention that is not needed at this age, your husband would be better off taking your daughter on in outing then buy her clothes like these. Because young girls need attention but it should be wholesome attention from their fathers at this age not boys or perverted old men. Good Luck and Talk more to husband out this and set some guidlines for clothing, you will be happy that you did. and explain it with your daughter and tell her why you made this choice, Rules without relationship will lead to rebellion. Good Luck!.

Answer 12

I would say no to the swim suit and the skirt for sure. I would consider the the last on if it is a shirt and not a dress. SHe is just to young and guys are pigs, it could lead to old guys approaching her.

Answer 13

The skirt is pretty skimpy. That's the only one I would have a problem with. The dress is cute! And as for the bathing suit, I have noticed that more and more people are straying from one piece lately... and bikini seems to be about the only choice at stores. I don't know what I would think about the bikini, but I would just to accept that my little girl was fastly growing up.

Answer 14

Whats wrong with a bikini for a twelve year old?

I think the clothes are fine, but I would suggest wearing leggings under the skirt.

Answer 15

She is defff looking at guys

12 and buying those clothes? Yeah.

Its totally normal, at 12 i startd wearing that too

She isnt talkihg about it cuz she is ttoo embarrased to bring it up first

Mention it casually. Maybe she will open up to you

Answer 16

actually the tank is a dress, but regardless there would be free sleigh rides you know where before I'd let a 12 year daughter dress like that!

What is your husband thinking letting her walk around dressed like a s*x object!?UGH.   If it were me I'd have a serious talk with her and she and those clothes would go straight back to Abercrombie with me giving her and the sales clerk that sold them to her an earful about how inappropriate they are.  Sorry, but they look S****y. 12 year olds don't need to be wearing that... come to think of it, most older girls don't either.

Answer 17

Swimsuit: Yes.  Practically every girl I know that is 12+ wears a bikini.

If it's really that big of a deal to you, get her a tankini and cute board shorts.

Skirt: Maybe, maybe not.  

If she's a thin girl, probably.

But if it's revealing, no.

If she MUST have it, make her wear leggings under it.

Tank top: Yes.  

Again, if it's a big deal to you, have her wear a white t-shirt under it.  That's stylish right now.

However, all of this depends on her body type.

If she's hit puberty and is very "curvy", then use your own discretion - it might be too revealing.

If she's a thin little stick, then I doubt it's a big deal as long as everything fits properly.

Don't let hubby go shopping next time haha.

Answer 18

definitley not the swimsuit or skirt.

the tank top looks like it would be fine, as long as it fit her right.

Answer 19

its all a bit "older" for her. a 12 y/o shouldn't be wearing that stuff. wait for awhile. no way with the bathing suit or skirt!!!

put your foot down with your husband. if you don't want her walking around in that, then your husband should respect that!!!!

remember that girls go through puberty before guys. she's probably already started looking or is going to start soon.

Answer 20

i would let my 12 year old daughter wear the shirt but with no bra !!! bu the skirt way too old!!

Answer 21

Not the suit or the skirt to old and the skirt is way to short for anyone.  The top how ever is nice and lacy.

Answer 22

No it would look like you are trying to get her to stand on a street corner that is ridiculous. I'm sorry, but it is only considered a sale if they are actually giving you some fabric. I want to teach my daughter modesty for her protection and the sake of the boys watching her.

Answer 23

The Bathing suit , maybe ..depends on the bottom.

The shirt ..yes it is fine ..just a tank top... if you are that concerned layers are in , make her wear a white tank top under it.

The skirt depends how tall she is and how short it is on her... if it is really short ..buy her leggings.

It is Abercrombie kids ..so I don't see it as racy.... not like Abercrombie and Fitch.

Answer 24

relax it just clothes

Answer 25

I don't think that would fly with me.

I find it hard to believe a father would let his 12 y/o daughter walk around like this.  Makes me wonder about his intent.  

Yeah they maybe just clothes, but not for that age of person.  Yeah she is the age for looking at boys.

Answer 26

no

Answer 27

The swimsuit only in the water....the skirt with leggings under.....and the tank NO! its for women!!! Yes husbands are very dumb when it comes do daughters. Ofcourse she's looking at guys!!!

Answer 28

12/13 year olds wear bikinis.

Every middle school girl that goes to my neighborhood pool is in a bikini.

If the skirt doesn't show too much yes, I think that would be fine. If it revealed too much then no.

The shirt is fine. there is nothing wrong with the shirt. Its a spaghetti strap, 12/13 year old girls wear those all the time.

You make it seem like she is dressing in hooker clothes.

Yes, she is trying to dress older and different and thats all part of maturing and becoming a teenager.

Answer 29

That would be a big NO. There is now way that I would ever let my daughter wear any of those things. My daughter is 7 and my husband doesnt allow her to wear thin straps on her shirts.

Answer 30

Yes. Bathingsuit and skirt together and only by the pool or on the beach. Tank top cute depending on how it fits her.

And she probably is looking at boys already. Maybe not actually to really like one in particular but maybe she just wants to look cute and get noticed. Girls at almost any age want the attention even if they're not exactly interested.

Don't have your husband take her shopping again though if you don't like his judgement. Guys can be very dense and a lot of dads can have a really hard time saying no to their daughters no matter what its about. Guaranteed she'll get away with a lot more around him than around you. : )

Answer 31

the skirt and shirt is so cute but ure daughters b***s could fit in that bathing suit top WOW