Would you let your 16 year old daughter move 1000 miles away to live with her boyfriend?

Question

So I'm not asking for myself. I don't have any children. I'm asking because one of my co-workers is going to let his only child, his 16 year old daughter, move 1000 miles away because she wants to be with her boyfriend. She is going from a home with two parents who love her very much to a home with a single parent (not that there's anything wrong with that). I should say that they have talked negatively about the family she is going to live with. The parent has a bad drinking problem. More worrisome to me is the fact that they are going to let her live with her 16 year old boyfriend! One thousand miles away! I keep asking myself - who is the parent here? They don't want to push her away by not letting her move there. Hello - how are you not pushing her away? You are sending her to live with someone 1000 miles away from you. You think that isn't going to push her away??? Supposedly she is unhappy here without him. What teenager isn't? So does anyone else think it's crazy or is it just me???? Has anyone else let their kid move 1000 miles away? And been happy with the decision? I can honestly say I've never heard of anyone doing this before.

Answer 1

What are you smoking?

Answer 2

AMAZING!!!   Your friend is a moron.  Sorry!  Any parent that would let that happen should not have been allowed to reproduce in the first place.  Stuff like this just frosts me to no end!!

Answer 3

Wow. I would never let (if i had a daughter) her do that. WOW. How about if things don't turn out as a happily ever after with her boyfriend? So, she ends up realizing that the move was for nothing.

Answer 4

Ok, we both know this is none of your business. That said, as a mother of daughters, there is no way that I would allow my 16yr old daughter to make that kind of decision. There is no way that this child can do anything but think for the immediate, a 16yr old has no concept of the future. At 16 the world is just opening up for a child, but without a firm hand and continued guidance, kids flounder.

I'm sorry for this girl, her future is going to be a struggle.  

Answer 5

No way .. i think its ridiculous.  

Answer 6

OMG!

I would never allow my child to do that!

I don't think your being crazy just sensible!

Why don't her parents allow the boyfriend to move in with them maybe the best of both worlds?

Plus at 16 can she really love him that much.

perhaps the parents are letting her make her own mistakes and believe she will be back soon because i'm sure she will!

Answer 7

I wouldn't let my kid move into the back yard with her boyfriend.

She is 16, she will eventually find a new boyfriend. They are asking for trouble. They will probably blame the boyfriend or his parents when it happens, instead of their bad parenting choice of letting her go. Not mention the almost guarantee they will be grandparents some time soon.....

Answer 8

This is cowardly parenting. They want her love more than they want her safety or her happiness.  

Answer 9

I have two daughters and there is no way that I would have let them move in with a boyfriend at age 16 no matter how close or far away this boyfriend lives. She is to young to do this. She may be sad about the distance between them but right now she needs to be in school and worrying about her future. This would be very irresponsible on the parents part to allow this child to move away. Are they in a hurry to get rid of her? That is what it sounds like.

Answer 10

Only if I never planned to see her again.

You have to be kidding.

Answer 11

That's insane. The girl needs to stay at home with her parents where she will be cared for. I'd think less of my mom if she had let me move away with a boyfriend at 16! HA! Like those relationships ever last! She'll probably end up pregnant if they let her go. Someone needs to talk some sense into those parents. I'd smile at my child if they ever asked such a silly question.

Answer 12

Wow that is dumb.  first off they are going to have to give that family some kind of gardianship or custody in order for that child to be cared for.   Then comes the child support and who the h**l knows what about this kid she is moving in with...

Answer 13

I moved out at 16 turning 17 as I had a similar experience at home - it has been benifical for me so I say let her go for it