Would you let your 17 year old daughter?

Question

Hey guys.

Please only serious answers, and consider the people involved.

Would you let your 17 year old daughter go on a vacation with her 17 year old boyfriend?

They have been going out over a year.

The parents would come too.

On what conditions?

Would you let them sleep in the same bed?

If the parents were in the room too?

Please list any conditions you may have, if this were your daughter.

Both 17 year olds are VERY mature and responsible, and keep in mind the parents would be there.

Thanks!

Answer 1

Only as long as i was ok with them doing things other than just kissing and i wasnt kidding myself in thinking nothing would happen and i would definately not be ok with them sleeping in the same bed. If i did happen to let her go i wouldnt even want her to ask me if it was ok becasue i would say no knowing right off she was goign to sleep in the same bed with him anyway despite my tellign her not to. Parents being around means absolutely nothing, good god the things that can go on with parents around is astounding, not to mention having faith in other parents wouldnt exactly be my strong suit. And being mature doesnt mean much either, you can be considered extremely mature in one sense but the minute those hormones start rolling it's a different story.

Answer 2

Well when i was 17 i got to go on vacation with my boyfriend and his family i was about to be 18 but we did not get to sleep in the same bed even with the parents in there i slept in the bed and he slept on the floor with the parents in there bed. We were both mature and responsible and the parents were both in there but we didnt get to sleep in the same bed together but i did get to go on vacation with them and i had a great time i wouldnt let them sleep in the same bed.. just let her go and talk to the parents!  

Answer 3

if both sets of parents went and the guy was in the same room as his parents and the girl was in the same with hers maybe other wise defiantly not

Answer 4

I would do it. One because at this ag she is almost a legal adult and if you say she is mature and responsible then reassure your statement and show her you trust her. Trust me, as a 16yr old there is something about when a parent lets you take a big step and trust you to do it causes you not to wanna s***w it up. Just pray and trust her and God.

Answer 5

I really don't see any harm in it. My boyfriend and I have been doing things like that since we were 16. We definitely weren't allowed to sleep in the same bed at such a young age, but we went on vacations and things like that together, with our parents consent. You'll even be there so you can actually watch them too.

Answer 6

I think putting too many rules on teenagers is asking for it. When I was 16 my boyfriend was 18... we went on our fmaily trip to Great America and My Mom let my boyfriend come but we were not allowed to sleep in the same bed. A few months later I got really sick with kidney problems and my mom was working so much she wasnt able to take care of me so he moved in to help me. My Mom tried her best to not push me down with rules and in the end it was for the best because I did what she asked me to and told her the truth. If they want to do something "bad" then they are going to do it... I dont see the problem with you at least giving them guidlines and letting them make decisions for themselves since they are almost "adults". I think one of our big problems is all the rules and expectations we put on our teenagers today.

Answer 7

17 arent anymore matur than us teenagers i hang out with 17 yr olds and im 1 i find absolutly no maturity diference. And in no way would i let my daughter and her bf seep in the same bed . I see no reason y u guys cant sleep in different rooms specialy if hes coming along in our families vacation anywyas. h**l id even pay 2 keep  to away. Srry 2 bash on u like this but im just speaking my mind.

Answer 8

Well the legal age to have s*x is 16 so i dont see it a problem for them to be sleeping in the same bed.  

Answer 9

ok i'm going to say something you don't want to hear...if your daughter and her boyfriend want to have s*x, they're going to find a way to do it. every parent's nightmare, i know. but it's true. i'm 22 and when i was in high school my friends and i always thought it was funny what rules people's parents had that made them think they were keeping their kids from having s*x. the biggest thing is this: people don't just have s*x at night!! i'm sure you know this, but it seems as if parents forget when they get so paranoid about their teens spending the night with their partner.  while i certainly wouldn't advocate letting younger teens spend the night together, your daughter is old enough to make her own choices and be responsible. after all, she'll probably be going off to college in a year and then you'll have no control over her actions. scary but if you raised her to be a responsible young woman, than you have nothing to worry about.

i would say let her go on vacation and if her boyfriend's parents are comfortable with them sleeping in the same bed, don't make a fuss over it. keep open communication with both your daughter and her boyfriend's parents and there shouldn't be any trouble. oh and i just read that the parents will be in the room? then it's definitely no big deal.  

like i said, she'll be an adult and off on her own in a year so it's time to let her prove she's learned from what you've taught her and can be responsible without your control.  now is the time to let go a little and allow her to test herself. if you're strict until the day she leaves home you're just asking for her to rebel.  

Answer 10

In our family, absolutely not. Nor would I let my 17 year old son go on an over night vacation with his girlfriend's family.

It's only a few more months until 18, they could go all they want then. But as long as I'm still morally, legally, and ethically responsible for them, then no.

Answer 11

I'm 17 and I would NOT go o vacation with my boyfriend!

My parents would let me go, because i'm waiting for marriage for s*x. I wouldn't sleep in the same room!

conditions..don't share a room, or bathroom and have parent supervision

Answer 12

Ha I'm 17 and I'm not allowed out the house!

Answer 13

This goes to show you how parents claim to know what they're doing..but really don't.

Answer 14

I'm not a dad, I don't have any daughters. I'm a teenager myself, but from my point of view...

If the parents were there there is nothing to worry about. And yeah they can sleep in the same bed if the parents were in the room. They aren't exactly going to be, er touching each other infront of parents. You might not want to hear this, but if this is your daughter she's probably having s*x with this guy already knowing most teenagers today are.

If you don't want them to get up to things, then don't let them be gone alone for too long on vacation. Always make sure you know where they are.

Answer 15

If the parents are going to be there I don't see a problem. Just make sure they don't sleep in the same bed.. have fun

Answer 16

my cousin, who is 15, goes on vacations with her boyfriend, who is 16, and he goes on vaction with her.

not in the same bed for sure.

but same room isn't all that bad.

i think if they are responsible, and you trust your daughter,

let her go.

Answer 17

If I knew and trusted the parents then, Yes, BUT no way in h**l would I let her sleep in the same bed or even the same room..thats just not something I would ever allow.

Answer 18

Yes, of course! They're almost 18, anyway. They've probably slept together already or have slept with others at least once before. If you don't provide a safe environment like that for them to sleep together, they'll find another which probably won't be so safe. You can only control your teenagers so much. From the age of 12 I've known where I could get pot at school if I wanted it, and I've never even seen any. I'm 16 without my license, and if I wanted to, I could go out get drunk or have s*x if I wanted. I live in the nice, middle-class suburbs, I'm in a good Christian family; there's nothing 'wrong' with me. I'm just a normal kid and my parents can't completely control me.

I say, yes. You should let your daughter do this.

Answer 19

I would allow them to go on vacation together, since their are adults going , yes their should be no problem.  Now, sleeping in the same bed, no I don't think that is appropriate.  I think that if they are both mature and have been together for awhile, there is no reason they shouldn't be allowed to go on vacation together, they are together when they are at home, right?  So really what's the difference.

P.S.  Some people on here really need to calm down a little, the first comment was way out of line, I don't think this question really pertains to someone being a bad parent, I mean if YOU want to go through life with blinders on when it comes you teenagers and their relationships, GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!  But some of us are a little more realistic!

Answer 20

First of all: h**l no.

Never.

No no no.

Answer 21

I would let her go on vacation with her boyfriend but sleep in the same bed? No. I have a friend who lost her virginity in those circumstances. When I was 16 I was allowed to bring my boyfriend camping but we had to share seperate tents. If I were allowing my daughter to go on a vacation with her boyfriend maybe I would have her share the same bed with the boyfriends mom if I was comfortable with that also. But definitly not the same bed! Thats just asking for it!

Answer 22

My bf and i were arranging for me to be at his parents place for the summer, and both of us had parental permssion.  We were both told that we should not have s*x, but if we couldn't wait, then there would be proper protection available to us without question.  My dad and my then bf's parents both agreed that forbidding us to explore and taste the new feelings that our bodies were having would only cause us to try and do it behind their backs.  Honestly, knowing what i do now, i'm kinda glad that the break up happened before i went there to his parents house.  I don'tthink i could have resisted, and gotten myself in more trouble than i ever had.  No, i would not have them both vacationing together, even if they were members of the Mormon Tabernacle Choir.  Kids are kids, and both genders have been taught about s*x.  However, it's better to try to keep them from sharing the information between them.

Answer 23

Wow! That's a tuffy! I would say if their is parental supervision maybe! Let me tell you my exp. i was 16 and sleeping over at my girl friends house, we slept in totally different rooms and still in the middle of the night managed to mess around. if you think your slick enough to now what's going on at all times by all means go ahead. but as for me and my experience and what i have done i sure as h**l would not let that horny little maggot in my home. Ow and one more thing, they are probably all ready experimenting, but if i were you, not under my watch!!!

Answer 24

NO WAY

WHO WOULD SERIOSLY YOU NEVER KNOW

what might happen

Answer 25

if i had a 17yr old daughter -which would be impossible seeing as im 14- i'd be okay with it aslong as at least 1 parents was with. And i'd let them sleep in the same bed cause its not like they can do anything frisky with a parents just around the corner. And anyway they're both over the age of consent, they can really do whatever they want when it comes to there relationship.

god bless

Answer 26

I would. But i would give them condoms you know, just in case. Also set a few rules if you want. You said they are responsible so i don't see why not.

Answer 27

you are right, i like you because you worry about your daughter that means you are a responsible parent unlike other parents they just let what ever thier kids wanted to do.. You gave birth to her, you carried her for 9 months, you suffer and give the best for her.. Now that she's a teenager you're still there for here.. Putting rules is just part of your love and if you don't put rules that means there is no love.

Answer 28

I don't have a 17-year-old daughter or any kids for that matter (I'm only 23), but I know that I would NEVER allow my minor child to go on a vacation with her boyfriend and his family.  It's doubtful his parents are going to be supervising them 24/7 so there will always be the chance they will have alone time in the hotel room.  And yes, I know kids will find ways to have s*x no matter how careful their parents are, but there is no point in helping them out with it.

Allowing them to sleep in the same bed?  Are you crazy??  Only an irreponsible parent who wants to be a grandparent really quickly would be stupid enough to allow that.  And they may be mature for 17, but no matter how "mature" they are for their age, they are still children and do not have the same capacity for reasoning as an adult does.  

So, in short, my future children will never be allowed to go on a vacation with their boyfriend or girlfriend until they are an adult and are able to make their own decisions.  Besides, it's very doubtful these two will even stay together much longer.  Once they go off to college and experience that, they will change and will most likely not change in the same ways or at the same time.

Answer 29

honestly if they were dating for a year they probably already had s*x....i think i would let her go but he needs his own room and she needs to sleep with her parents...but i doubt that will happen becuz the parents are gonna want to...well u know... mayb the mom sleeps with the daughter and the father and the boy share a room..it sucks when u cant spend time with your boy/girl friend but if u say no she will get over it...

Answer 30

As long as you trust the fact that they will be closely monitered i don't see a problem with it.  Especially with parents there.  No same bed tho.

Answer 31

If they have a good positive relationship and you trust them i say yes. Make sure they don't go back to the room or anything becuase well... they are teenagers. Other wise yea. Id let them sleep in the same bed as long as the parents were around all the time.It would be a great and wonderful experience for both of them and who knows... it may be young true love and if its not, They will both have great memories from it.