Would you let your child disrespect you.?

Question

My neighbor son is so disrespectful. The other day we had a BBQ by my neighbor house and her son got mad and cursed his mother out I couldn't believe the words that came out his mouth. My neighbor didn't do nothing about it. what would you had done.

Answer 1

Never..

My parents never allowed me to be disrespectful to them.. So why should i allow my kids?

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Answer 2

One, my son would have NEVER done that, because if he had EVER even hinted at saying such language to me, he knows his life would have not been worth living (grounding, etc.)  I doubt this was the first time -- kids don't do that in public unless this was a habit at home. She may have been embarrassed in front of everyone, but that's no excuse -- kids humiliate us every day, but it's up to us to make sure they learn better!

If this WAS his first time, and he did it in public, I would have smacked his mouth and said, "Don't you EVER use that kind of language to me, EVER."  I would have made him apologize to the party for his rudeness, and and then I would have excused myself (and him) from the party, taken him home, and then dealt with him.

But, again, it's how you deal with it the first time that determines if it ever happens again.  She wimped out, and now he feels entitled.

Answer 3

that would be embarassing being told off by my daughter infront of people, i would not tollerate it. Depending on how old he was, that would determine the punishment. I would definetly make him appologize to me infront of everyone then send him to his room for the rest of the day.

Answer 4

In my opinion, children that disrespect their parents publicly witness this type of disrespect in their home frequently.  And more than likely the disrepsect they are witnessing is between people of whom are role models for the child.  (i.e. mom talks really ugly to father or vice versa.)  It is even possible that the child feels as if he/she is disrespected in their home.  

Cursing/swearing at your parents should not be tolerated!  If they behave in this manner as children they will behave this way in society.  The problem with children in todays world, is that there is a major lack of parental guidence, disipline, and teaching within their households.  These are things that every child needs and should be started at a very young age.  

As a parent, if you do not explain to your child the rules/expectations, and the consequences for their actions they will likely be out of control as they get older.

In this particular case, I would have removed my child from the audience/BBQ.  I would have taken him/her home, sat them down in a chair and explained the wrong in their actions, why we do not behave this way, and then I would explain the punishment.  

Had this been my child, I would have told him that to talk this way is foul and filthy, and could have had him arrested had he been an adult.  Other people get offended by this language, and there is not an excuse for using it.  I would have also gone into the entire conversation about how you are to mind your manners, not argue, or disrespect other people, (especially adults).  I then would hand him a bar of soap to place in mouth as he writes the definition to "respect", "profanity" and "courtesy".

But ultimately, my children would never swear at me because they do not witness this type of disrespect in my household.

Answer 5

Children are sponges.They will do what they see and do what they are allowed to do. It starts from when thay are young. Aparently there is no discpline in the home or very little.

That sort of disrespect is never acceptible! Punishment is not an option. If you don't respect your parents, then police, teachers, and others will not matter.

It would not have goten to that point. But if it had. He would be a put in his place IMMEDIATELY, made to apologize, and do chores for whom he offended. Not to mention go to the neigboor's home and apologize for that behavior.

It starts at home.

Answer 6

I am afraid I would do the same thing as your neighbor did.  First of all, scolding and teaching can not stop him of releasing his anger.  Second, he may have some hidden issue.  It's only your neighbor knows exactly what it is.  If he is a teenager, usually he has some anger doesn't know where it's coming from.

Answer 7

my child(if i had one) would never do that, because i wouldve raised him better than that.

Answer 8

This is just my experience. But my mother would have taken me home, put the shades down, and beaten me from one end of the house to another. I would have deserved it too. I child should never disrespect his parent like that. There is a severe lack of respect in that house along with a lack of discipline. I love my parents too much to ever disrespect them like that. There is no way I'd tolerate that from my child.