Would you let your daughter spend the night at her boyfriends house?

Question

alright, i'm 14 haha, and i've been with my boyfriend for 8 almost 9 months, he's 16.. and our parents know we're seeing each other,

and our parents know that we are sexually active, yeah..

but my mom will NOT let me spend the night over there.. no matter what i say or how hard i try. i RARELY get in trouble, and i do everything she asks me too. we hang out through out the whole entire day anyways, if we were going to have s*x we would do it..? so i don't understand why it's a problem.

help?

Answer 1

ask if he can sleep at your place

Answer 2

I would not let my daughter sleep at her boyfriends house.  I would also not want her to be sexually active at 14.  She probably doesnt' want you to be either, but letting you sleep there throwing the s*x in her face...maybe you do it when she is not around, but she is in denial that it is happening.

Don't be hard on your mom...she just doesn't want you to end up pregnant and have to bring up your baby because you are still a baby yourself.

Answer 3

you're 14 and having s*x. you expect your parents to approve by allowing sleep over parties?

sounds like your parents know best.

Answer 4

If you're going to have s*x regardless, then not spending the night with him shouldn't be a big deal.  I would never let my daughter do that, no matter how sexually active she was.  If anything, I'd keep her home more.  No 14 year old needs to be having s*x.

Answer 5

At 14, no, if she were 18, I wouldn't mind.

Answer 6

My mother was the same, Im 18 now and she was a control freak. she wouldnt even let me until recently - now she has no say because I moved out of home and things are sooo much better.

I dont think there is anything you can do. im sure that your mother will let you stay over this house when you are 16. Perhaps ask her why she wont let you go?

perhaps if you say to her face 'well, if we want to have s*x, it will be in the day time anyway, so what is the difference?'

see what her reaction is. she is really beating around the bush... there isnt any reason why she shouldnt let you sleep over your bfs house.  

Answer 7

You're a child.  You should not be having s*x until you are able to face the consequences/results of it (i.e. having a child, getting STDs).  Be thankful that your parents are stupid enough to allow you to sleep over at your boyfriend's house.  You having s*x is not a reason for your parents to allow something like that.  Also, do you know that since you have not reached the age of consent it's actually illegal for you to be having s*x with your boyfriend?  Your parents are trying their best and don't want you to end up a teenage mom who has to drop out of high school and ends up leading a very hard life.  

You are very, very, very immature which is obvious since you are having s*x.  s*x is for adults.  You and your boyfriend are babies.  And nine months is hardly a long-term relationship anyway.  You two will be broken up once he goes off to college and meets girls his own age.