Would you let your teen do these things???

Question

so, parents of teens what out of these do you let your kids do.

go out after 8?

watch R rated movies?

go on dates?

have a cell phone?

have a laptop?

have free interenet privelges?

read R rated books/magazines?

listen to any music you want?

and if your a kid ask your parents or have them fill it out.

do they follow your rules??? on a scale of 1 to 10 how strict do you think you are. 1 super strict and 10 being easy going.

Answer 1

yep.

If its not filled with sexual things, yes.

yep.

yep.

yep.

yep.

maybe, maybe not. depends on which one.

not hard metal.. can't stand that

Im probably a 3 on the strict scale...

Answer 2

Your question is very interesting. I am not a parent of teens, but I am interested to see the answers. Think about it...several of us have children in a new world that we never experienced...except for the Rated R movie. At 15 I was allowed to watch rated R movies, depending on the movie.

The biggest thing for me was having a phone in my room. The rule was if someone cut in (call waiting, which was brand new) for my parents I had to hang up and give the call to my parents.

Parents today have so many things to wrestle with that we did not ever experience.

Answer 3

Growing up, my parents weren't strict at all when it came to movie ratings and music lyrics and I don't see myself being strict in that way either. As for going out after 8, depends on the situation. I intend to be informed and my kids will be on short leashes to start with and strict curfews, as time goes on and they earn my trust I will lengthen the proverbial leash. A cell phone is a great idea for keeping track of them but can I trust them not to rack up ridiculous bills? Once again, I use the leash theory, do me wrong, I take it away, same with a drivers licence. Dates, gonna hafta shorten the leash again(cell phones are great for this kind of siutation I don't want to be a hound but Its good to know that if my daughter is on a date with a jerk, she can call me and I can rescue her from anywhere), and of course it depends on the date and my gut instinct how long the leash will be or get. I probably would not but both my kids their own laptops but I would allow computer access at my computer including internet but the surely will know I can find out what they've been looking so don't abuse the priviledge. Priviledge, a dreaded word when I was young, but I can see it coming up again and again in my kids future, thats what being a teeneager is about, I guess. If they make the right choices, it opens the door to more priviledges and vice versa.

Answer 4

Ok since you did not give an age...I'll assume your asking for a 15 year old. ok?

go out after 8? Yes, but they have to come back by 12:00...only on Friday or Saturday.

watch R rated movies? Yes

go on dates? Yes

have a cell phone? Yes. If they asked for one.

have a laptop? Yes...Only getting their own computer after 15.

have free interenet privelges? Yes

read R rated books/magazines? Yes

listen to any music you want? Yes. definitely : )

Answer 5

For 13-16, after 8 is only for special occasions. for 16-18, after 8 is acceptable on the weekends.

R rated movies is a toughie because it really depends on the movie and its content. If the only reason it is r rated is because of nudity or profanity, then I can take my kids to see it. It also depends on the kid and if they are mature enough.

Dates- well before 16 groups dates are fine and supervised dates are fine. Dates under certain rules are fine after 16. (as long as curfew is followed, etc)

Cell phone- Well when they can pay for it or if the child needs it. (Like they travel alone on public transit for after school activities or something like that)

A laptop , when they can help pay for it I suppose. Before 18 though, the laptop must be left with me at night and computer usage must be done in an open room. I feel that a laptop is an extreme luxury for a kid.

Free internet privileges? I don't really understand. Computer usage will be monitored by me or my husband in an open area until at least 17 or so. I want my kids to be safe. Going to myspace is fine as long as certain rules are met. Being 13+, profile kept as private, and occasional check ins by mom. I'm not gonna read email but I will be asking questions about who you are talking to etc.

R rated books and magazines? If you mean p**n, I do not have a problem with it as long as we have a long talk about respecting women and other concerns I have in that area. 12 and up would be okay with me. Violent books? I'm pretty sure a teen can handle any of those.

My kids are exposed to many different kinds of music everyday and they can listen to whatever they want now at age 4 and 2. That will not change. I may not like what they choose to listen to in the future, but I will not forbid any music. That is insane. Music= life for so many people and I'm not going to take that away.

Strict, well by a kid I am going to be considered strict. In my opinion, I will have strict rules that allow freedoms. But those freedoms can be lost and can be regained slowly. I personally aspire to be around lvl 4 strict, where I do not completely rule my child's life, but there are rules that must be followed. I want to give room to grow, but rules are there for a reason.

Answer 6

my child is 16

1, yes

2, yes

3, yes

4,duh yeah

5, obviusly, my child has had a laptop since he was 10

6, yes, but i would moniter his what he does

7, yes, but not p**n

8, yes, except for heavy metal

Answer 7

I'm a teen myself, and my parents let me do all of the above .

Well, they don't really KNOW about most of the dates, but still :]

Answer 8

yes to all

Answer 9

i'll tell you what my parents let me do:

yes

yes

yes (though its usually a double)

yes

yes

yes

yeah but not p**n or anything

yes

my friends that have stricter rules usually break them anyway and create this wierd communication gap - what i would suggest you do is find 2 things you definately would not want your kid to do because anything 3 or more is too overwhelming and they will probably break it and 1 thing becomes too tempting and taboo like. my parents got this tip from parents who said it worked on all 3 or 4 (i can't remember) of their kids.

for ex. smoking, tattoos, drugs, premarital s*x, alcohol, whatever....

Answer 10

1. no ( i don't like going out anyways)

2  yes

3 no

4 yes (bought it myself)

5 yes

6 yes

7 yes ( books that have violence)

8 yes (rock)

My Mom Knows I'm Very Mature I am 16 by the way and have a 50 year old soul lol I'm not a boring person by the way, and I love to work so i barely have time to go out. haha

Answer 11

I will let my daughter date when she's 16, or maybe 15 if I meet the guy and approve, but will be supervised. she can do all of these things except the rated R magazines.  

Answer 12

go out after 8? Depends who with and how old there are.  When i was a teen I could go out after 8 with certain friends if their parents were there or if my mom was there or i could go with certain family members but my mom had to know where i was going and everything.  I will be the same with my boys.  

watch R rated movies? Depends again on the age.  At 16 yes, at 13 probably not depends on the movie

go on dates? Yes even at 13 but until age 16 I would have to do the drop off at the date location and pickup or know the person doing the driving (preferably the other teens parent).  

have a cell phone? Prepaid from 13-16 then they could get a job to pay for their own cellphone after that if they wanted something other than prepaid.  

have a laptop? Yes if I could afford it I wouldn't mind my teen having a laptop, they come in handy for so many things including homework

have free interenet privelges? Limited internet with monitoring and i would have to have username and passwords, to many things can happen so you need to know what kids are up to in order to protect them.  I wouldn't however spy on them but would access accounts if I felt something was wrong.  

read R rated books/magazines? again would depend on the age and the book/magazine.  If I found playboy under my teenage boys bed or something I wouldn't say nothing but if I found some other stuff I might question it.

listen to any music you want? Nope, I wouldn't want certain music playing in my home but of course I know teens will just listen when they go to a friends house or whatever but in my house certain music wouldn't be allowed

My boys are only 3 and 6 right now (another one on the way) but I have rules and they know I mean it when i say they better listen and follow the rules but of course like most kids they test the limits.  I am right around 5 on the strictness scale.  I can be strict but i know sometimes rules have to be bent or readjusted.  

Answer 13

go out after 8?     8

watch R rated movies?     8

go on dates?     1

have a cell phone?     1

have a laptop?     3

have free interenet privelges?     10

read R rated books/magazines?     10

listen to any music you want?     7

Answer 14

if my kid was 16:

i would let them go out after 8 on the weekends (if i know where)

No

yes (if i've met the boy/girl)

yes  ( if they are driving)

No

No(they could get fat sitting on the internet for hours)

No

No (but it would be hard to always know what a 16 year old is listening to)

Answer 15

None of the above.Except going out and ONLY if they are chaperoned by someone I know will put a boot up their behind if they try anything funny.

Answer 16

well i am a teen (round 14), and out of them

yes

never come up ew.

yes

yes

yes

yes

never come up

yes

and i follow their rules other wise i lose those privileges  

Answer 17

Theirs a big difference between a 13 year old and a 19 year old so you might wanna give a smaller age range.

Answer 18

Im the kid....(13).......And I have a lap-top... see rated R movies all the time and One time me and my friend we get bored so we go to 10:00 movies almost at least once a month..Im aloud to date....Consdering I have a laptop I do what ever I want...watch p**n to get horny etc....And who cares what kind of music you listen to..its music.....And cell phones....like every 13 year now has a cell phone...meaning I DO....I guess you could say my parents are like a 9 1/2......I mean I think every parent has a certain level of strictness....but my parents really dont