Would you let your three year old go out of town with the in laws? for two nights not sure what to do?

Question

The reason I ask is because my husbands sister is in town and her and the in laws want to take my three year old out of town it's maybe four hours away for two night and I feel weird about her being gone so long and being so far away. Is it silly of me to think that way does it sound like I'm being over protective I guess what I'm trying to say is would you let you three year old go she's a girl to

Answer 1

YES! YES! YES!

I firmly believe that it takes a community to raise a child so the more people that she's around while you're absent the more rounded she will be.  The benefit will last a lifetime because the more time she spends with others while you're absent the less likely she'll develop separation anxiety.  Give her some freedom - and I know that it sounds silly to give freedom to a two year old but ask yourself this question: when do you teach independence?  the answer: FROM BIRTH!  Children are humans, every human is unique from another & requires independance and freedom to become who they are...(ranting and raving - sorry)

Not only that but you need a break and so does she.  Take the opportunity to run around the house naked with your husband!  Go for dinner, enjoy yourself!

She should have her own life just like you should.  And if you trust that she's in good care then there shouldn't be a problem!

Answer 2

I think your feelings are valid. My in-laws are always dropping hints about wanting to babysit over a week end or a night. I am just not comfortable with it at this point (my son is 16 months). I know they would take good care of him but I just can't let him go yet. I also feel as though my In-laws wouldn't follow my instructions/directions about things like sleep, naps and food. Those things are important to me and thats why I am waiting until he's older. Personally, I am going to wait until my son is old enough to understand the concept of a "sleepover". At his age right now, I think he would feel abandoned. I haven't left him with anyone overnight except Daddy, not even my parents.

Since your daughter is 3 years she probably understands the concept of a sleep over. Has she had a sleep over with your parents? with anyone? If you think you are just worrying too much and you do really trust them, just ask your daughter if she wants to go.

BUT if you really do have a bad feeling about the trip - TRUST YOUR MOTHERLY INSTINCT! Don't let her go.

Answer 3

It depends really how much you and your husband trust them. And also how much your daughter knows them

if you deciede that you do not want her to go then you should speak with your husband and explain how you feel about the situation.

Im sure he will understand

Hope this helps x

Answer 4

Yes I would...in fact I have.

Answer 5

Well, my daughter is 2 years old and has never even spent the night anywhere but at home...I would not sleep well with her being anywhere else! I know, I know, lighten up, but I can't and that is the way I am...so to answer your question...no, I guess I wouldn't let them take her and I would just tell them that you aren't comfortable with her being away from you that long, they should respect your feelings, they had young children once!

Answer 6

I would...

Answer 7

yes your being silly.  Your in-laws have raised kids before.

Answer 8

If you feel weird about it then I would say no. My inlaws are pretty good with my daughter and I still wouldn't let them take her, but that's just me. But again, if you're not comfortable with it there's nothing wrong with saying you'd rather her stay home.

Answer 9

Have you ever left her alone with them for an entire weekend at their house?  If so, was all well when you picked her up?  If the answer is yes to both, and she wanted to go, I would let her go.  I would also make it know you want to be called when they reach their final desitination and ask for a phone call at night before she goes to bed so you can talk to her and see how she's doing.  Of course be graceful in your words so as not to seem untrusting and too paranoid.  This way it gives you some peace of mind and perhaps you'll be able to enjoy the time you have while she's away with them.

Answer 10

If you trust your in laws and know them well, then I think it is fine. Also, she is 3 - ask her if she wants to go as well. If she does then great and if she doesnt then I wouldn't force her and I would have your husband explain to his parents why she can't go.

Answer 11

I would

Answer 12

I would but then again that's just me. my inlaws don't get to see my daughter that much but I would so they could get some time with her.

Answer 13

Sure...I would.  And I have before.  My inlaws live about two hours away and she has gone to stay with them for the weekend before.  The first time was really hard, cause I wasn't use to her being gone for so long.  But everything will be fine.  But if it makes you feel better, I sent a LOOONG list of the way I would like things handled, or when her nap time is or what she can or can't eat....puts a little control in there for ya.

Answer 14

probably not because they are family but you never know wait until she is older!!

Answer 15

It's not silly of you, but I would let her go.  When my daughter was 3 we lived in a different town from our parents.  We let her go and stay with them.  If your child isn't nervous about going with them, then I wouldn't be either.  Has your child ever spent the night at their house.  If your child has and hasn't had any problem, then I'm sure it will all be fine.

Answer 16

i completely trust my in-laws, all of them. but for me it would be more of an issue of how my daughter would react to being away from me for that long. and you won't know till she's gone, and by that time it would be a drive to go get her. how well does she know her grandparents? thats a big deciding factor.

Answer 17

I think the best idea would be to have a talk with your husband and explain your reluctance and how you feel about the whole situation. That way you guys both can have a hand in her parenting and you can listen to how he feels about it. It's a normal thing to be worried about your child to an extent and in this case it is very reasonable since she's young. But this might also be an issue because you might feel you don't trust your in-laws with your child. Having a talk with your husband could relieve your worries or either change your mind, but he and you should have equal say over what to do.

Answer 18

yes i would it will give you a beak to yes i would

Answer 19

I'm not sure if I would do it, I know it's tough to let them go when they are only 3, if you are not comfortable with it, then don't let her go

Answer 20

Nope.  I wouldn't.  Days are fine with family, but not overnight for me.