Would you marry someone just to escape your horrible life?

Question

My professor at college told us that she once taught at a high school that was in a very bad low income neighborhood. She said that the number of young girls that would get married just to get away from their troubled homes was the highest she had ever seen there than anywhere. Would you do that? And if you would why?

Answer 1

Yes I would because it's very boring at the moment I study and work and I need to have some fun in my life. I would only if the girl was good looking and she moved somewhere close to my mums(out of home though)  because I can't live without her either.

Answer 2

Of course people would ~ and do ~ marry for a better life, why wouldn't they? They also emigrate, study and even do criminal deeds in the hope of having a happy life.

And if they do, who is to say their marriage is necessarily a bad one?

Not everyone has a romantic starry eyed view of marriage. For many people, perhaps most in the world, marriage is a contract to live together with each party having different duties, and as long as those rules are observed, all is well.

We can sneer at or condemn it, but for people who don't have the luxury of choice our foremothers and fathers fought to give us in the rich western cultures, it's reality.

Cheers :-)

Answer 3

It was one of the few avenues they had.

Sure, if I was in the same circumstances as they were I would have done just did.  Of course.

Answer 4

No. If my life was that horrible, I would escape it on my own and not wait for some guy to help me do it.

Answer 5

The problem with that is someone who is looking behind them as they run away isn't looking ahead of them to make sure they do not stumble on the path.

People who marry early (and I have seen MANY MEN do this too) usually will take the first available person who comes along.  This will only move them from one hostile environment into another - from one emotional prison into another.

My mother married very early for this reason.  But she told me about it, and because I was educated, I didn't make the same error.  Yes, I still married early, but it was because I had found someone I wanted to spend my life with, not because I wanted out of my home (it really wasn't that bad there, actually).

I think the best form of prevention is education, honest and up-front education.  Otherwise, they might not even realize the full consequences of their actions.

Answer 6

no no no

Answer 7

if it my life was that bad, i honestly would.

i guess after so much time living like that, the girls would desperately want to get out of that lifestyle, that they were willing to take that chance that would affect the rest of their lives.

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Answer 8

I have no interest in marriage. I wouldn't even marry to save my own life. It's sad that people feel they have to get married to get away and I don't see how that would help anyway.

Answer 9

No.

Answer 10

if he's a good guy and has a good job, yeah i would.....because my problems may stop.

Answer 11

Lord NO.

Why would i want to hurt someone who may really care about me? I would never do that.

I grew up without love in my childhood and some abuse. why would I want to marry someone i didn't love and live without love again. makes no sense.

But yes some do marry to escape and it very seldom works out. maybe a few but I sure would hate to marry without being in love. God Bless