Would you marry someone of a different religion or background even if your parents refused it?

Question

Like lets say ur Christian, and he/she is sikh, or muslim, or w/e hindu, or opposite, or ur a diffeent background, but ur parents want u to marry either same backgrounf or same colour?? would u refuse to listen to them, and make urself happy, or them happy? personally, if i loved someone, i might take a risk and do what i think is right? how about you??

Answer 1

When you love risk it´s part of what you do to prove that love. But it´s hard because having mad parents can be very painful. But it could be more painful marrying someone from another religion and having children not knowing what to teach them. I know couples who have this problem and they struggle so much. Problems to surge later on on how to raise the kids and even without kids, what church to we go to, let alone how do we marry, under which religion. It gets complicated, unfortunately, but it doesn´t mean it can´t be worked out. Just a lot of communication and my advice, talk about all of this before getting married and even before telling your parents you´re getting married.

Answer 2

Often our parents are smarter than we think they are.  They may see personality differences that you cannot see because you are "in love".  These differences will become more apparent as you live together and find out that each of you feels comfortable with the beliefs and traditions that you practiced when you were young.  Those traditions and beliefs will be totally foreign to your partner and they will not feel comfortable with them.  Are you ready to give up your life as you have always known it for a foreign life?

I made the mistake of marrying a man who said he wasn't Jewish.  He had been raised by a nanny who was a lovely Christian lady.  Neither he nor his parents had ever attended a Jewish service and did not practice any of the Jewish traditions or beliefs.  He had no idea what the Jewish holidays were or why they were observed.  However, as soon as our first child was born, he refused to allow any type of Christian traditions or beliefs to be followed.  He suddenly wanted a (major) gift for each of the nights of Hannukah but would not allow a Christmas tree.  I was not allowed to teach our children any of the Christian holidays or beliefs but he insisted that I attend lessons in Hebrew and in basic Judaism.  

I learned too late that what he said before we were married had little in common with what he demanded after the marriage.  Don't rush in and do something just because your parents refuse to accept it.  Talk to them and learn from their experiences and their wisdom        

Answer 3

Duh, you are not marrying your parents or his you are marrying each other. If your parents are pissed about it then just remember its your life . Religion is a bad thing to marry for, just because 2 people have the same religion doesn't mean they love each other. I was brought up catholic wife is sda, god doesn't care about your religion just you. Your parents will probably get over the marriage in time, if not they might be to devoted to their religion and not their offspring.

Answer 4

well it depends on how much u both love eachother because if you really do believe u were meant to be together then do what makes u happy and if ur family wants u to be happy they will let u do wat u feel is right...

Answer 5

i was raised Catholic.  the rule was never date anyone I could not marry in the church.  this made sence to me.   i think if religion is important to you it is the best way.

Answer 6

will for me if i love someone and he love's me too i don't care what other people said it's me who will sleep and be with him for the rest of my life not my parent.  

Answer 7

As a personal choice... parents or not, I will only marry a Christian. I have an idea of how I want my marriage to be and how I want my children to be raised. And this is only possible in a Christian household. But I don't think my parents would approve anyways. But that doesn't matter. I think it would be better for me and my husband, children and family as a whole if we were a church going, faithful family.

Answer 8

I don't care what anyone says.  If you Love her, you love her and thats all that Matters.

Answer 9

Marrying someone of a different religion is actually a bigger deal than marrying someone of a different race/color.  I would listen to your parents as they have a lot more worldly experience, but ultimately, you have to make the final decision.  

I am an ex-Catholic, now Pagan, and my guy is a non-practicing Southern Baptist.  I have several relatives who married spouses from other races, but either non-practicing or the same religion.  There are stresses, but nothing apparently insurmountable as all 3 couples have been married more than 20 years.  My guy and I aren't that far apart that we can't come to agreements about stuff.   My Dad was Catholic, my Mom Lutheran.  In those days, you had to convert to marry a Catholic.  My Mom basically abandoned religion all together by the time I was 10 because of her disgust with Catholicism.  It caused a lot of problems with my folks for a long time, but my Dad finally backed off about it. There simply is no compromise in beliefs that are that different, IMHO.

The difference between Muslim and Christian is a far greater chasm, however, and love over time mellows and is sometimes lost.  If you would not embrace that religion if you were not in love with this person, how much stress to your marriage would it cause if you lost your love for this person?  

Nearly every couple who stays together for decades will tell you that love changes over time.  Even successful marriages.  Many more have lost that love of the young and only have affection for their partners.  Anyway, these are things to consider.

Answer 10

I would marry someone of a different background regardless of other peoples' opinions, but I would have a difficult time justifying a relationship to someone of another faith. No, not because of family or friends, but because my faith prohibits it. God means more to me than any man, even the one I love.

Answer 11

who is gonna get married? the parents or the groom+bride? fuc* to what the people thinks or says if you are truly happy go for it!