Would you permit your child to have plastic surgery to stop them being bullied?

Question

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1049624/Plastic-surgeon-admits-operated-schoolgirls-bullied-looks.html

And what in the name of all things holy are these "expandable implants" being used on teenage girls, mentioned in the article?

Answer 1

I would rather allow it than a child becoming suicidal over bullying.

Answer 2

It depends - how bad was the girl's nose?  I know of a girl who is said by all to resemble a pig, and her life is an absolute misery.  So yes, if it was that bad, I would.  But not the implants.

Answer 3

No, that is just pandering to the bullies, who would more than likely still bully them afterwards anyway. Children should not have to undergo operations to physically alter themselves just to fit in.

Answer 4

theres nothing worse than that.. all you'll be doing is confirming her feelings that she isnt good enough.

Answer 5

Absolutely not. Get your backside up the school and stick you figurative toe up the headmasters backside. Demand that they get it sorted.

Answer 6

No I wouldn't I cant believe any self respecting surgeon would operate on girls so young. As for the parents what the h**l is going on in their minds.

Expandable implants

Permanent expandable implants are widely used in breast reconstructive surgery, but their use in aesthetic surgery is still uncommon. Previous reports on breast expansion-augmentation using permanent expandable implants focused on immediate and early advantages but failed to evaluate long-term benefits, because the reservoir was removed a few months after implantation and the ability to adjust the implant size was lost.

Answer 7

Life in the 21st century...

Answer 8

Oh! that's just not natural!!!

These kids haven't even developed properly yet...

Answer 9

I think there are two things going on here.

One parents seem to be unable to accept that their children may have to face adversity in life.( Is a big shnoz adversity?) I can't imagine how these kids are ever going to cope in adulthood.

Secondly the term 'bullying' the whole bloody world seems to be enveloped in this epidemic. So when did other kids taking the p1ss become bullying? I know it CAN be if frequent and sustained but no-one to my knowledge has ever been bullied cos they have small b***s. Skitted maybe...who wasn't skitted at school for something or other?

My 7yo looks the spit of the youngest boy in the Narnia films. He has been called 'Edmund' since the films came out. It bugs him. One of the other mums told me to 'have a word with the head' WTF?

My son on the other hand has developed a nice line in put downs. Are we rearing self-obsessed wimps these days?

I need a cold flannel on me head now......lol.  

Answer 10

I would if it was for a disfigurement like cleft pallet but not just to look pretty.  Everyone needs to figure out how to deal with negative comments about their looks because at some point in their lives the looks will be gone (or at least diminished).

EDIT:  Can you imagine the teasing they will get if anyone finds out they had plastic surgery?

Answer 11

Absolutely not, Not ever, no way.

I'd MOVE my child away from the bullies , up sticks and go rather than put a kid under a knife.

No way. It is WRONG.

Answer 12

when I was a kid I needed a couple of crowns on my teeth and they wouldn't even do that until I was 18 to make sure everything fully grew, I couldn't even imagine having my kids undergo plastic surgery until their body parts stop growing!!

Answer 13

This is sick! I would never allow my child to have a boob job because she's being bullied! Kids should be given self confidence and courage to face the bullies (not beat them up, just stand up to them and report them to their teachers etc), but not with plastic surgery!

Those expandable implants must be something that grows with the girl's brest as she develops.  

Answer 14

A child that is already being bullied is unlikely to make things better by acting upon their taunts.  The likelihood is that the bullying will just take a different form once they see she has had surgery.  

The key here is to get to the root of the bully's real motivation and deal with it.  

Answer 15

Being teased and being bullied are two different things.  I suspect these kids are being teased.  It's call "life", and giving them plastic surgery will just s***w them up more.  Imagine the teasing for a little kid with fake boobies.

Answer 16

I think I should have plastic surgery on the n.h.s as I look like an old crone and people laugh at me.

Answer 17

No chance.

Answer 18

not a chance

Bullying is short term.

plastic disfugurement is for life

Your kid wont thank you in years to come.

Answer 19

It's a tricky one.

I don't agree with young girls being given breast enhancement to stop them being bullied - haven't they heard of padded bras?  But I think there is a case to be made for having a large nose reduced, a weak or overlarge chin adjusted, or having ears pinned back.  It's likely the person would have the surgery later anyway, so why not bring it forward if it will help their self confidence?

Both of my sisters were offered surgery to correct their underbites and neither took it up.  The problem is worse for one than the other, but both decided they would rather be themselves than go through painful surgery.  They would both be stunning if they had the surgery, but are lucky enough to have the self confidence to present themselves to the world as attractive human beings.  Not everyone has that level of self confidence.

OTOH - I remember a girl at school having a procedure done to correct a cowlick and how we all ripped the p out of her for being a spoiled brat!

Answer 20

Instead of plastic surgery to avoid the bullying, more like a confidence injection- grow a pair and stand up for yourself...  Not everyone is going to be the tallest, most popular or most attractive.  If a child has a major physical deformity from an accident, illness or even congential that's causing negative reactions across the board, I could see it.  But simply to address the problem of bullying by some brats? NO.

Bullying isn't limited to physical appearance anyway.  Some kids are bullied for being too smart, too weird, for their religion or ethnic background.  The point isn't to try and satisfy the bullies, but to make kids confident in their own skin.

Answer 21

My immediate thoughts were 'how awful' definitely not', and certainly for things like breast implants then its really quite disgusting as the body hasnt finished developing yet and as 'children' they havent the full emotional / psychological development as yet. However for the young girl with the 'nose' it explains that she has moved three schools and her parents have explored many options before taking this route - then yes I think i would agree, especially as it has demonstrated a great improvement in her own self confidence - so i think it does entirely depend on the individual case - but as a blanket approach I would definitely disagree !!!

Answer 22

No! Giving children plastic surgery because they're being bullied teaches them the bullies were right. Besides, they are not even finished developing yet. However, if it is a legitimate disfigurement then that is a different story. But boob and nose jobs? Absolutely not!  

Answer 23

thats dumb

no plastic surgery

Answer 24

Oh h**l no! That is not right....surely?

My child? It would have to be some sort of gross disfigurement (by gross I mean great/big, not ewww).

There is no way I'd allow my CHILD to get breast implants - the surgeon in that article even said "for those girls not developing at the same rate as others" - precisely, they are still developing,just not at the same rate! Who's to say that when they hit 18 they won't suddenly sprout huge b***s? It happens all the time.

As for the nose jobs....that one is slightly more acceptable but not much. Can't these kids just have a chance to grow up as adults, learn to deal with the **** that is thrown their way - I'm sure they'll be better people for it and when they grow up and want to have the surgery then fine.

Children are susceptible to all sorts of things (esp in the media) constantly telling them to be beautiful, that they need a more than perfect face and huge, giant b***s. That's fine for silly grown up women with nothing else to worry about but surely not for little girls? Poor things.

Wow, I cannot believe that. Do you think he does it for the money more than anything else?

Answer 25

No.  There is nothing wrong with the child, the person with the problem is the bully.  Kids change so much from childhood to adulthood.  Plastic Surgery is a decision that can wait until your body is developed fully and then if you still don't like it, change it.

Answer 26

I think it would be a little pointless unless the child changes school afterwards otherwise they will get bullied for having surgery as well. No i wouldn't let my child have surgery instead i would try and instill some self confidence into them and reassure them that this bullying is a phase and once they finish school the chances are they will never see those people again.