Would you rather have your own child or adopt a suffering child?

Question

for reasons like abuse etc?

Answer 1

Both - a couple of each.

Answer 2

I say both there is no reason a person/couple can’t have both adopted and biological children. One day if able to adopt I will. I wouldn’t rule out having a biological child or 2, if able.

I also agree why should only a suffering child be adopted, a child or baby that truly needs a home and loving parents should be adopted.

Answer 3

I would like to have a biological child. If I cannot for whatever reason I would consider adoption. Matter of fact, I would be open minded to doing both.

Answer 4

I really worry about questions like these some times, because they are usually asking ( directly or indirectly) would you "save" a child.

That can get scary, because saving a child should not be the main reason to adopt. Children whose adoptive family adopted them just so they could save a child usually wind up with a lot of emotional stress, and sometimes the parents will add too much pressure to the child if they are not being a perfect little angel.

People should adopt because that is how they choose to build their family, not because they wanted to save a child. The saving should just be an added bonus, not the driving force.

That being said, I would like to adopt and have a biological child. Both would be "my own" children. I'm going to adopt a child that I fall in love with, that I think will be a good match with my family who I think I can give a good life to and be what is best for him/her. Whose to say what that child past will have been like?

Answer 5

you should have a baby because of you could have s*x with your husband that will be a lot of fun and you could breast feed it might hurt when they get older because they will bite ur breast will bleed a lot then you have to use a bottle kkkkkkk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

I think that having your own child would be a good experience, but adopting a suffering child would make me feel really good, and would help alot of people also.

Answer 7

I truly admire people who adopt suffering children.  But I just wouldn't feel right having a child that wasn't mine.

Answer 8

I'm in the process of adopting through foster care, and don't have any fertility issues that I'm aware of.

Answer 9

I want to have my own children and maybe adopt one. I feel so bad for those kids!

Answer 10

when you adopt a child that is your own child.

Answer 11

I prefer my own, but if i wasn't able to have any i would adopt.

Answer 12

Why is it important that the child be 'suffering' for a person to consider adoption?

Answer 13

Why not have both?  Having children is just as equally good as adopting a child.  Its a win win situation.  Your legacy will continue to live on through your own child and you get to take a less fortunate child in.  Both good ideas.

Answer 14

I know people that have both and they can't figure out which is which.

Answer 15

adopt.

Answer 16

Both.  I see no reason why I can't have my own biological children as well as adopted ones.

Answer 17

I have my own and if I had the money to do it, I would LOVE to adopt. A great friend of mine is a foster parent and has taken care of many children who have entered the system because of abuse. Those kids are great and need people to love them. They didn't ask to be born!

Answer 18

When you adopt a child that already needs help, you don't need to bring it up with nappies etc.

You will also not increase the population.

But your own child, you get to see it grow up.

With a child that needs help, it will get help it needs.

Answer 19

own

Answer 20

I gave birth to my son, and we plan to adopt an older child through the foster care system within the next few year.  

Please know that not everyone CAN birth a child, and an adoptive child is their own.

Answer 21

I intend to adopt.  I will deal with the issues as they come.  I've dealt with abused children for years.

Answer 22

I have both. We had two and adopted three times. They're all my kids.

Answer 23

Both and I did both twice.

p.s.(Cost more money to give birth to one of my children then adopt both.)

Answer 24

Have my own child!  I would never adopt!  The laws will have to change a great deal before I would ever think of adopting.  Adoptees have no rights at all.  Not fair to us!

Jennifer

Adoptee

Answer 25

both

Answer 26

I think every woman deep down wants to parent a biological child - but there is more to being a mother than just what a woman can do naturally with her body. If you have the mindset, love and patience to help any child in need I say go for it. Every child deserves a loving home.

Answer 27

sorry but i would rather have my own

Answer 28

I personally would rather love to have my own but I wouldint mind to adopt one either. Every child is special and needs to be loved rather its biological or not. If I had lots of money and a really good job then I would love to adopt a child.