A friend of mine is going through some tough times that he has created for himself.
I use to work with this person, and this person is also from my home town, was my neighbor for a year and came to my wedding. For the most part this person appeared to have it together and had a great energy. But lately this person has proven himself to be self centered, inconsiderate and its become difficult to have anything good to say about him. Aside from making unreasonable requests (asking if my husband would co-sign on a car loan for a mercedes, asking to transfer cash through credit cards to avoid the extra interest charge, asking to stay for a few days and then staying for 3 weeks), he's stopped making request and now takes advantage of us without our expressed permission.
The last time he stayed over I had him stay for 2 days and left him with the house keys only to find him sleeping in the bed the next night! It was awkward and weird. He had no place to stay and I felt terrible, I gave him another night and then he had to go, he stayed 3 extra nights over the 2 we had agreed with.
I allowed him to forward his mail to our address when he moved back to his country (because he lost his job and ran out of money), but discovered that he transfered his bank accounts, california drivers license and fedex account to our address. Now we are receiving all of his outstanding balance mail and junk mail but are not in touch with him on a regular basis. I feel obligated to open this very important mail and contact him, but then I didn't agree to become his personal secretary!
This person is going through some very difficult times and I hate to abandon people when they're down, but I feel this person has crossed the line and is taking advantage of us. How does one deal with someone like this?
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