Would you say this is cheating?

Question

My girlfriend went over to her ex's house the other day and she told me that they wound up playing truth or dare. She didn't do anything to him, but apparently she let him kiss her neck. She took off her clothes or let him take off her clothes as well. In the end, she was leaving, and he wound up raping her. Let's assume that we know that to be true even though you might have your doubts. Would you say this is cheating?

I'm sort of torn because of the rape, but if it weren't for that, she'd be gone in a heartbeat.

Answer 1

Well that IS a toughie....IF it did happen then that is a shame....I don't want to put blame where it doesn't belong here.....it sounds simply like she rather put herself into a predicament where temptation was possible...and by doing some of those things she was kind of leading him on into thinking more was going to happen...in less it wasn't rape and instead it was consensual....but as far as cheating?...well she should not have been over there in the first place inviting trouble.

Answer 2

i see this def as cheating. the whole fact that she goes to his ex's house and ends up playing truth or dare is just wrong. And if the guy attempted to rape her, I think in this case ur gf has a little bit of the blame too. Good luck

Answer 3

yes its cheating

Answer 4

Yes she was cheating.

Let's ignore the rape for a moment, because the answer there is obvious; rape is never cheating.

Let's focus on what she was doing.  She went to her ex boyfriends house and played a game designed for horny teens to play.  This game involved stripping and letting him kiss her.  No doubt along with various other sexual tension.

I would have a hard time accepting these actions from a girlfriend.  The fact that she was raped is of course a disgusting criminal act and doesn't really relate to the rest of it.

While it does not justify rape in any way, what she was doing was utterly stupid on every level.  I'd have to dump her for being so stupid, irresponsible and unfaithful.

Answer 5

The rape part is a shame and  sorry to hear that it happened!!! But maybe she  should have known better then to go to her exs hosue  when she already has a man!!!   If she  knew she was going to be playing a game like that  that can lead to  many many things such as s*x and what not  she should have not agreed to play it!!!     I would have never  gotten undressed  dare or not knowing that Ihave a man waiting for me else where

but that is juist me

good luck

Answer 6

It is definitely cheating. From the narration of what happened appears to be a willful s*x and not a rape.  

Answer 7

yes i would consider it to be cheating. but thats beside the point.

did she go to the cops about the rape accusations, nobody ever deserves to get raped, NO MATTER WHAT. if she was actually raped then she should have gone to the cops.

even murderers on death row think rape is terrible.

Answer 8

Its definitely cheating.  In my opinion, if she would rather spend her free time with her ex boyfriend, than with you then its cheating.  Even then, i dont think it sounds like rape, i think its just guilt talking.  Get rid of her.

Answer 9

That ***** lies she cheated on your *** and you deserve better.