Would you stay in a marriage for your childs financial stability?

Question

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Answer 1

No, because their mental and emotional stability is just as important.

Answer 2

Okay this isn't going to be what everyone else says (ex."no, just leave him" blah blah) but honestly by the way that you describe him, he may be an a ss,but he seems wealthy, and with wealth comes control. If you did decide to go through with the divorce, there is the possibility that he could claim you as an unfit mother, and gain full custody of your child. I only know what you stated in your previous question but if you do decide to go through with a divorce, make sure you play all your cards right. Try to know his move before he makes is. I hope you all the best.

Answer 3

no love between the parents...then leave it is not good to base the kids live on your unhappiness the kids know

Answer 4

I would do everything I could to make it work even counseling. I think most problems can be solved. I don't think it's good for kids for parents to stay together if there is constant fighting or yelling or if they really just don't love eachother anymore but I think otherwise the marriage should be worked on.

Answer 5

No, you should always try to model honest, responsible relationships for your children.  

Answer 6

no this is the worst idea i have ever heard of imagine seeing your parent unhappy through your whole childhood and feeling like its your fault that they never found true happiness that would be terrible emotional stability and security is way more important than money

Answer 7

i read your other question and it sounds like you are in the  majority of every person in this world that isn't perfect. alot of people do this too fast,and regret it. in answer to your question, no, i don't think you should stay out of financial instability. you are a young healthy woman. why do you need him? yes, divorce for kids, adopted or not, is very hard. but do you want to know what is harder? fighting infront of the kids, screaming, arguing and saying things you mean or don't mean. being depressed around your kids constantly becuase everything in your life is horrible, which in turn, takes time and attention away from your child/children. it sounds as if both of you have started going your own way anyway. drunk or not, you slep with someone else. if you truly loved your husband, that would not have happened. he has been with his secretary. that would not have happened if he truly loved you. sooner or later, this will end. it would be better to get through it a start over while she/he is young, than for you to do it when the situation is 10 time worse, and you absolutely hate him. when she is 8 or 9 and understands everything alot better. because, after a while if you don't work it out, you will begin to hate each other and it will change the way you are yourself. you will feel low and detached, because there isn't anyone else around to talk to. the first order of buisness is to get a bank account started. then find a job. talk to your mom or dad. and through all this, don't lose sight of your child. try to stay positive for her/his sake at all times. you all can get through this, it happens every day. it is a shame that it didn't work out, but dwelling on something that cannot be fixed is a waste of time.

Answer 8

Youre going to put your children in a horrible home if you stay with him for money. Children arent stupid, theyre gonna know youre unhappy. Besides, if hes wealthy enough, Im positive you would get a large amount of money if you divorce him, since he was cheating.

Answer 9

NO, your child can tell when you aren't happy...get out of it while you still can or you will be miserable.  

Answer 10

providing it was not a dangerous situation and there was no abuse

the child will eventually grow up and if they environment is safe I would learn to deal

Answer 11

This depends.  I personally believe that marriage is for life unless there is physical abuse.  I think that marriage is work, from both sides.  

... but if you absolutely can't work things out with your husband, and he has money, then he will be obligated to pay you child support, thereby helping you financially.

Answer 12

h**l No!!!!!!  miserable parents = miserable children