Would you stilll attend this wedding ??

Question

If you had a falling out with a family member and had not talked to them in a year and all of a sudden they invite you to their wedding , would you go ? how would you feel about them inviting you , even if you have not started talking to them ?

Answer 1

My opinion - if they invited you maybe they are trying to make up for the falling out ... try calling them first

Answer 2

I wouldn't attend because this person should buck up and actually call you, email you or write you in order to make up or whatever.  this is a very passive way of them making nice with you.  I wouldn't go to that wedding because it's not much of an effort on their end ot just invite you to this wedding, instead they should call you and make time to see you and apologize for the fight you had.  imagine how awkward it will be if the first time you talk to this person since your fight will be at their wedding.  how weird of them to want it to be that way!  just send a gift and forget it.

Answer 3

They are extending an olive branch it seems.  I would accept, send a lovely gift, go to the wedding, and be supportive.  

Answer 4

I would think they're trying, however clumsily, to make amends.

But I wouldn't knock myself out on a wedding gift, either.

Answer 5

Do you want to hang on to the feud or to bury the hatchet? If you're ready to end active hostilities then by all means accept and attend.

A grudge is a very heavy thing and not to be carried any farther than absolutely necessary. Weddings are a good excuse for relatives to let bygones be bygones and start being at least civil to each other again. I'm thinking that it is very good of this person to make the first move and extend an invitation instead of using his/her wedding as an opportunity to snub you by NOT sending an invite.  

Answer 6

Yes, attend the wedding. sounds like they are trying to let you know that the past is the past and they are moving on and want you to be in attendance to their celebration.

Answer 7

Since its family, I would probably go. If you don't go, you might regret it later on.  

Answer 8

I would take it as a sign they were making the first step to making things better, and attend if I could

Answer 9

An invitation to their wedding seems to be the first step to repairing the damage between you. Accept the olive branch, and attend. I would play it by ear, however. There are some family members I didn't exclude from our guest list, but have no interest in mending fences with. They destroyed the family, well what's left of it, but if your falling out wasn't over anything that serious, I would take it as a good sign.  

Answer 10

DO it, maybe it'll break the ice. But if you think they are the type of person that would cause a scene, don't invite them.

Answer 11

Ok invite them to your wedding, it would be the first step in reconnecting.    Wedding are big and extending a invitation is a good way to start....and believe me you will have too much to do with your wedding to even think about any rejection.....just think of it as your way of making up....you tried...  I do think, that the other person will come if nothing else to see how you look in your dress..

Answer 12

I would go to the wedding.  I would hope that it was an effort on his or her part to make things right between us.

The pessimist in me says I wouldn't bring a gift and would wait on giving one until I saw how I was treated at the wedding and reception.  If it was ignored, or worse, then I would probably later send only a picture frame or something perfunctory.  If I was welcomed with open arms, then I'd give something far nicer.  Immature, maybe, but I wouldn't want to have bought into what I thought was an apology only to find out they wanted more loot.

Answer 13

well if you don't feel like you should go then don't, but if you think that you reconnect then go for it a wedding is the perfect opportunity to reconect with family

Answer 14

Well maybe your wedding will be the blessing that you and your family member or members need to re-connect. I'd stay most definitely invite them! If they do reject your invite, at least YOUR conscious is clear and that you were the bigger person...Good luck.

Answer 15

I would talk to other family members to see if you can get the scoop on what  their intentions are. For example, while I personally think they're attempting to make amends, what if they are just doing it so that other family members don't think they are being petty? What if they only invited you because they don't think you'll come, and then they'll look like the good guys?

All that is silly, of course, and let's hope it's not the case. But I wouldn't RSVP until you know more. Ask around, or even better, send these people an e-mail or call them and say, "I received your wedding invitation, and I was rather confused. I'd be happy to attend if we can put everything past us."

It's better to get it all out now rather than an awkward conversation at the actual wedding, you know?