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Would you take your partner back if he/she cheated on you?

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  1. No, you cannot trust them again. If they cheat they need to GTFO of my life.


  2. Nope, not worth it. If they can't be honest with me, then they can get lost.

    I'd sooner be alone and happy than together with someone that I don't trust.

    Cheaters don't change they just get better at it!!

  3. No, because as the saying goes; once a cheater always a cheater.

  4. No - because it changes everything your relationship was ever about. It would always be at the back of my mind and even though they promise never to do it again, if they have done it once, there is reason why it wouldn't happen again.

  5. Erm you might not like this response if you have been cheated on but I’ve got a different point of view that might help. I have cheated on someone and did for a short while and was then found out. I tried denying it (didn’t help) and then admitted it and was dumped. I felt so much regret. I hated myself for doing it and being so selfish and swore I would never do it again. i had really shot myself in the foot, it was frustrating. Im now back with this partner and have been 4 5 months (after lots of begging) and we’re getting along great, I now know who I have is special and would NEVER do it again.Sometimes it takes someone to trip up to realise what they’ve got. Sometimes you should give people a chance.

    And if I got cheated on I guess I’d look at it from the point of view as I had a 2nd chance so it’d only be fair for me to give someone else one too.

    Hope that helps in a weird way xx

  6. My husband cheated on me and i tool him back, only to find a year later that he had done it again, on more than one occassion. I'll never give a man a second chance again

  7. Currently I wouldnt. I think the uneasiness and suspicion will just drive me nuts! I'll over-analyse his every move. And how do I trust him again? If ever. .

    But at the moment me and my partner is not engaged and we dont have kids. . .

    But I guess I think it would be a different case if I was married for about 12 years with 3 kids. . .?

    Every situation is different.

  8. It depends. Some women have a nasty habit of using s*x as a manipulation tool, a means to win an argument or have their way. The very same woman that refuses to sleep with her partner for months on end is surprised and devastated when she finds her partner has gone astray.

    If my partner cheated on me I would take that as a clear sign that something is very wrong in our relationship. If it was simply a frivolous escapade I would leave him because it means he will ultimately put my life at risk (HIV) without a care in the world. If he has fallen in love with someone else I will swallow my pain and allow him to go as easily as possible for both of us. (One can’t manipulate emotions)  If I have been neglecting him, I would forgive him and try to work on our relationship.

    I was cheated on. My ex partner slept with my ‘best’ friend. She wanted to bed him and convinced him that I was sleeping around. He bedded her out of sheer fury. I left him because he did not wait to confront me, gather proof….His loss. Why would I want to stay with a man that believes everything he hears and not what he should know in his heart. Although I forced myself and it took all my strength and courage to leave him, it took me many years to finally get over him.

  9. Depends if it was a kiss, s*x, flirting etc..

    And also the situation etc.

    But generally I would say you shouldn't waste your time with someone who cares that little about your feelings.

  10. NO!

  11. Yes I would actually but depends on the situation and the level or remorse, regret and sincerity she is showing. Everybody make mistakes, it is inevitable in ones life I guess.  Therefore, you have to judge the situation and if there is still a space in your heart to forgive him/her, then, I would say yes.  As they say, you fool me once, it is my fault but you fool me twice, it my fault.

  12. depends on the situation.

  13. no

    forgiveness - yes, but the trust is gone and really do you think you deserve to be treated like that?

    I dont buy the "cant help myself" excuse, we all have a measure of self control, if he couldnt find his ... then ditch him.

  14. Depends on the situation, of course. If it had been going on for quite q while, I do not think I would. If it had been just a quick flirt, maybe, but I will always be wary and suspicious:

  15. i would want to but i know i wouldn't be able to trust her again

  16. Nope. And we would never be able to cheat on each other. We made a vow before God and we pray together every night. Our bond is far too strong for one or the other of us to cheat on the other one.

  17. Nope!

    I value myself and what I put into a relationship and if one cannot respect that, they're not worth anything especially forgiveness, i'm not God....they can get forgiveness from him.

  18. DNT TAKE him/her back, be strong!!!!

    anything that dont kill you, will only make u stronger, u got to hold on now, cus ur goin to get stronger

  19. it depends on whether she earns more money than you haha

  20. Depends on the situation. If he/she did it knowing full well what he/she was doing I'd say s***w that b*****d, but if he was tricked or inder some sort of influence then I might.

    The first time my fiancee cheated on me i took him back, as well as the second. The third time I broke his nose, shattered his left cheek bone, & totalled his $40,000 car. =)

    I'll never be able to trust a man for the rest of my life thanks to him.

  21. No, I will not be able to handle it.

  22. Absolutely not, I wouldn't take them back even if their backsides were covered in diamonds, once a cheat always a cheat.

  23. WHAT HAS THIS GOT TO DO WITH TRAVEL??????????????????????????????????...

  24. Never!

  25. Definitely not! Nor would I expect her to take me back if I cheated, either. The best solution? Don't cheat!

  26. I've never been in that situation before. I guess it depends on the person, and how deep our relationship is, but I would like to believe that I'd be able to forgive them for cheating. I don't think I'd be able to forget the affair though, which is the tough thing.

  27. Sjoe Cat I do not know, I  hope i never have to cross that bridge, it is a difficult one, must I throw away all these years of happiness for one error on my husbands side? I do not think I will, but it is going be tough afterwards to trust him again that is for sure. I do not know what i will do, it will be a very hard decision to make.

  28. I was cheated on 3 times by 3 different guys. The one I took back and he did it again. I'm quite wary when it comes to this. I will not leave my hubby, but I don't think I will ever forgive him or forget that he cheated. It will always be between us, even if I let him believe that I have forgiven him. I also will never trust him again.

  29. I don't think it will be worth while because how can you trust him/her again

  30. Definitely NOT. There is no trust! I have been cheated on before by a pass boyfriend and I took him back only to find out that he cheated again. I will never forgive myself for being a fool and thinking he could change. A leopard does not change it's spots. I won't be a fool twice and therefore would never take him back.

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