Would you tell someone about the birds and the bees?

Question

If someone whose parents wouldn't tell them about it and they asked you, would you tell them? You would be ruining their innocence, but what if they ruined their own innocence with something like pornography and found out that way? There's always pros and cons...

Answer 1

It depends.  If the parents outright asked me not to talk about s*x with their child, then, no, I wouldn't have that talk.  However, in the absence of any solid information about the subject (and the child is of an age that he/she can understand the talk maturely), then, yes, I would toe dip into the subject.

I don't know if you'd be ruining the child's innocence (it's giving him/her basic facts about the human body.  You're not shattering some childhood myth like telling the kid that the Tooth Fairy or Santa isn't real.)

Anyway, like you said, it's far better that the child can talk to a responsible adult about s*x than through unreliable, if not dangerous, sources.

Answer 2

The only problem here is why the parents wouldn't tell them - because they were embarrassed to or because they didn't want their child to know? I would be afraid of the angry parents! But despite that, I think I'd still tell them. I don't think it's ruining someone's innocence if they're clearly ready to know - because they're asking.

Answer 3

Yes I would tell them. I don't think telling kids about the natural happenings of their bodies and making sure they understand the natural changes that are going to happen to them and that it is normal and ok is ruining their innocence.  It is being responsible and making sure they are educated and informed and aware of their bodies and what will be happening to them.  Also kids being curious and doing things like looking at pornography is natural and part of life.  It is not ruing their innocence either.  However if at all possible, I wouldn't want them to find out what s*x is that way I would much rather have myself or someone else explain it to them.

Answer 4

My son's father's girlfriend told him when he was only 9. He was not asking questions, she took it upon herself. She ruined his innocence. Why? I don't understand. My son knows he can come to me and often has, so it's not that he felt uncomfortable or anything. It was just some sort of weird control thing with her or something. I was hurt and upset and angry. It was so unfair! If he was asking questions and his father answered them that would have been one thing. She had no right. So I'm sure I didn't answer your question, but I was on the other end, and I totally would have talked with him and often have whenever he's had questions since then. If someone's parents were refusing to talk with them, I might encourage them to discuss it with the doctor at their next checkup I guess. Beyond that specific questions such as controlling the spread of disease, and preventing pregnancy should be addressed if a young teen has questions and is thinking about it. I'm not sure as I have always been available to talk with either of my kids.

Answer 5

I certainly would. There are two types of women in the world, Birds and Bees. The Birds fly and the Bees sting. Best to stay away from both until you are old enough to understand them.