Would you throw a baby shower if your 14 year old daughter was pregnant?

Question

Why or why not.

Answer 1

Yes.

Even though she made a mistake, she needs to know that you are behind her and support her 100%. She is still your daughter no matter what. Depriving her of a shower, will only take MORE money out of your pockets.

Answer 2

I wouldn't throw a shower for her... If people want to buy gifts for the baby.... fine. No need to throw a big party celebrating it.

Answer 3

Unfortunately no and its because she is a child. I wouldnt exactly want to announce something like that to everyone as if she was 25 and married. I would keep it low key.

Answer 4

Well, yes I would. Especially if I was a supportive mom, she will obviously need things for the baby, and at the age of 14 I doubt she can get a job so I would help her out as much as I could.

Answer 5

I would.  Yes, its a crappy and a situation that could definitely have been avoided, but the fact is, there is a growing baby inside of her.  Being so young she probably can't get a job, so its even more imperative that she get as many of the things she needs, and that can be done with a baby shower!

Answer 6

well why not?

everyone will find out eventually... so why not get some stuff out of the deal...

Answer 7

yea i would. I mean she's only 14 but baby showers are for all pregnant girls no matter what age they are.. And she's gonna love it!

Answer 8

I was pregnant when I was 16 and my mother threw me a baby shower. As long as you feel comfortable and she does too, there should be no problem. She's carrying a new life into this world..and being 14 isn't the easiest aget to get all of the neccesities for the baby..and having loving friends and family around to help out is a great plus. If you think this might cause problems, then you can save the money from the shoer and get her and the baby a nice gift.

Answer 9

no, i would throw an azz kicking party for her and the dope that knocked her up.

Answer 10

No.

I would have her at a clinic and have her look at adoption options.

Then I would ship her off to an all girls school with no outside privileges.

I would remind her everyday of my disappointment. I would not give her anything.

There is no reason to celebrate a 14 year old pregnancy.

Answer 11

If somehow she had s*x by accident (which is really unlikely) then yes. But if she had s*x on purpose then no way!!!

Answer 12

Yes.

I was a teenage mother (though I was older than 14!) and I didn't have a baby shower.  Yes, being a teenage mother isn't ideal.  Yes, it will be very hard.  

But sometimes, it's okay to just focus on welcoming a new life in the world and not worry about the circumstances, if only for a few hours.  Trust me, the young mother-to-be is worrying constantly about the circumstances.

Answer 13

I think I would because a child is always a blessing, no matter the situation. The baby didn't choose to come into the world this way so why shouldn't his life be celebrated? I wouldn't do anything big and elaborate but a small group of family & some friends would be nice.

Good Luck & God Bless!

Answer 14

yes, if for only to help out with baby needs and to remind all her friends why 14 is too young to be having unsafe s*x

Answer 15

I would not.  I don't think it is right to have a big celebration for her for being pregnant.  I would do what ever I could for her and the baby, but I don't think I would throw her a party.

Answer 16

This is a very interesting question and after putting some thought into it I think you should.  She is 14 years old and she is going to start feeling really self conscience because society tells us that she is to young to be a mother.  Things will be very difficult for her because being a mother is a lot of work.  The last thing she need is to have a bad attitude goign into it.  Maybe getting pregnant at a young age was a mistake but the fact is now she has start getting excited about being a responsible parent and providing that child with the best life she can.  Maybe a really positive experience like a baby shower can make her feel good about being a mother.  Maybe some of the gifts can be some well recomended parenting books.  This is also a good way for her to be reminded that her friends and family are behind her all the way.

Answer 17

yes you could always use the gifts and  she is already pregnant theres nothing much you can do.

Answer 18

I'm not a parent, but I had a pretty strong immediate reaction to this question.  My opinion is that a shower is inappropriate.  I'm assuming your daughter didn't get pregnant on purpose...throwing a shower would be a little too much like a reward.  Help her get the things she needs, but I certainly wouldn't do it in a "party/celebration" atmosphere.  Too many teens are getting pregnant on purpose because they get lots of attention and "neat stuff".  Please don't help to feed this illusion.

Answer 19

No, I wouldn't. A 14 year old having a baby is nothing to celebrate. This will affect her whole life, and probably not for the best. She's still a child, much too young to be having a child.

Also, immediate family members should not be giving showers for anybody, regardless of the situation.  

Answer 20

No, I think it is in poor taste.

Answer 21

You are celebrating the baby at a baby shower so of course you should throw one.  It is at the shower that the baby recieves almost everything he or she will need for the next few months to save the parent/s extra expenses.

I'd be pretty pissed if I had raised my daughter right and she got herself pregnant at the age of 14 but everyone makes mistakes and that mistake was s*x at a young age without being properly educated, not the baby.

Answer 22

Probably not.  I'd help her out in every way I could, and make sure she was set up with everything she needed, but it would be inappropriate, in my opinion, to have a shower in that situation.

Answer 23

I think that you kind of have to because she is pregnant and she will need things for the baby. She is only 14 and cannot legally work to buy the things needed to have a baby. Such as diapers, bottles, toys, etc. I know that this is a hard position to be in and I cannot even relate to it, but I gave you the advice and reasoning that I hope I would have if I was in your position.

Answer 24

I'd wait until she had the baby and kick her a**.

But no, i wouldn't, because that sends the wrong idea to kids. and she'll think whatever she does is okay in the end.

Answer 25

If she's keeping the baby, then of course, it will make her feel more like your behind, maby not proud, but that your not mad at her or sad about it. It is a good thing to do... and She is going to need the stuff either way!! So YES!!

Answer 26

Yes, I would but I would only have her invite close friends, and family members, and maybe a selection of your and your husband's best friends.

Answer 27

No way, there's supporting your child through a hard time but then actually throwing a party for her for getting in this situation in the first place, no that's irresponsible and sending the message that it's ok to be a minor and pregnant. Not ok in my books

Answer 28

14, why is she having a baby. she has her WHOLE life ahead of her

Answer 29

I sure wouldn't want to make her feel like her baby was a useless piece of c**p, so of course I would throw a shower.

Answer 30

Depends on if she is keeping the baby or giving it up for adoption, etc. If grandparents or parents will raise baby, sure, but only for family and very close friends that would understand.

Answer 31

yes i would i wouldnt punish her for being preg at a young age and not have one just treat her normal i would throw one because this is a baby and its time to celebrate this new life coming onto this world no one should not not have a baby shower