Would you turn back time, even if it meant giving up your child?

Question

Oh kay!.

So,of course im in this situation,& honestly,I cant come to a conclusion with it.

There are so many broken families, so many children born into a family where the parents cant or dont want to get along, being unfaithful to one another or whatever, it usually ends up in one parent raising the children alone.

To this, I ask.

If you could just magically close your eyes for a sec. make a wish and go back to the day before you met your childs father/mother. Would you change that?

Would you avoid having kids with them. Making a future together, after all you know it doesnt work out?!?

The reason why I ask, is because of course, Im a single mother, My daughter is the reason my heart beats, I lOVE HER WIth every breath, every ounce of my soul. She is my life.

Her dad, well. No we never got married, (2 all of u who want to preach about marriage comes b4 the kids, like just because your married it cant end in divorce or an unhappy marriage after that.) anyway. No, we never did, h

Answer 1

no, NEVER. nope no uh uh, NO.

Answer 2

My aunt had two children with a man who cheated on her repeatedly. He tried to deny that the second child was his, as if my aunt would ever cheat on anybody. The paternity test proved that he was in fact the father.

Meanwhile, he had had a son with another woman (he even signed a paper saying that he was the father of the boy) and then denied it to my aunt. Fortuanately my mom found it.

They divorced, and my aunt got full custody of the kids. They moved twice (or was it three times?) and then moved back to the original house, before eventually moving again. The man insisted on seeing the kids each weekend afforded to him by the court, but revently is taking legal action against his son (his claims are false) in an effort to avoid having to pay child support.

My aunt says that she would do it over again in a heartbeat, because she got her two oldest kids out of it.

My mom almost died giving birth to me, but she says she would go through the whole thing a thousand times again to keep me and my sister.

The thing about having kids is most parents would give their lives for them, literally and figuratively. They would repeat all the pain and all the misery because their kids are their reason for living. It isn't really a sacrifice because their kids are their joy.

At least that's how my mom has always described it. I don't imagine I'll ever be able to fully understand this until I have kids of my own, but I know that I would do this for a lot of people in my life already. I would give up everything for the people I care about, and I'm pretty sure I would go through just about anything for them.

Answer 3

No there is no possible way!

Answer 4

Nope, every single experience I have had has helped lead me to be the person I am today, right now, this second.  Changing ANY of that would make me someone different, and I really like the me I am today, right now, this second.

Answer 5

I thought the same thing just a few months ago. And my answer is no. As much as I now HATE my babies (twins) father, I am SOOO happy I have my kids. They too are my world and I would do anything for them. I too am raising them by myself and its hard, it truly is, but the fact that I have them is the only that I need to keep me going.

Answer 6

If I could turn back time, that would mean I'd get my child back.  He died six years ago.

No one ever says if you would remember what your life is currently like when you turn time back.  If my memory was the same after going back as it was when I first passed that point in my life, then I would have no knowledge of my kids and the life we led.  If I had no memory of my kids then I would have to say no, I would not marry DS and have five kids that never had a father.  I would go to college and become a forensic pathologist.

Everyone knows what causes children.  If you don't want the responsibility, then keep your knees together.

Answer 7

No. I believe everything happens for a reason. I would hope that I learn something from my painful experience and grow wiser for the next time around.

Answer 8

Im not a single mother, But my daughter was a 'Mistake' people have asked me if i could would i go back in time, Would i heckers like!!! I love my daughter with all of my heart and she was the best 'Mistake' i have ever made. Me and her dad was only together 2months when i fell pregnant, Neither of us knew if it would of worked out, but we gave it ago and were still going strong.

My mum was a single mum, With 4 of us. I know for a fact, she wouldnt change a thing. Single mums arent bad mums, To be honest i think they are better mums (Sometimes!)

Theres nothing wrong with been a single mum, at all.

EDIT:

it is better to be in a single parent family than in a family full of hatred, anger and fighting. My mum and dad split up when i was 3 and i say good on my mum, he is a selfish lazy peice of p**p, If she had of stayed with him for us, It would of made all our lifes h**l.

Answer 9

I have a daughter that will turn 1 next month. There are times that I wish he was never her father, and I never have to do deal with him again. Like I have told him before if I could choose who her father was, trust me it would have been someone else.

Its been times when I questioned why am I the person to deal with all this bs.

But when i think about, its a part of life. Everything happens for a reason, the reasons may not be obvious at first. But if it takes 5 years or 2 days it will come, and in the end everything will eventually get better.