Would you want to give up your hard earned job to raise the children if..... ?

Question

If your husband asked if you to want to give up your hard earned job to raise the children and if your husband just barely made enough money to support the family ? Would you accept ?

Answer 1

I think part time job is best for this situation.  

Answer 2

i dont have a husband but if i did we would have to discuss ALL the options and hopefully we would find a way for me to be home with the kids for a little while at least (because thats what I want)

Answer 3

I gave up my job and stayed home to raise my son ... my wife made more money than I did .

Answer 4

That would be hard to say yes to.  Do you love your job?  What about your independence?

Answer 5

We'd have to consider the pros and cons together and see which path we could both commit to. It was easy for me....he didn't make enough. We crunched the numbers and there was no way even if we didn't buy one new sock.

I chose work over abject poverty. We're squeaking by financially now, but the kids are healthy and well adjusted and I'm in a holding pattern at work. If he put his foot down about it, I guess I'd have to choose marriage or no marriage not children or no chilren or job or no job.

Answer 6

I'd tell him to do it.

Answer 7

I wouldn't ask that, I would give up my job because careers suck sooo hard.

PS im a little lazy and I love it

Answer 8

It's a tough question that women are always stuck with, but I wouldn't give it up.  It's not just that your husband is barely making enough to support the family, although that is a factor.  But, even if he were raking it in, the fact is that when a woman gives up work outside the home, it becomes harder every year to get back into it.  Skills that would have been learned on the job are foregone, and further education, that she may or may not have the money for, is required just to get back to where she was.  Even worse than that is the total loss of business contacts, which is where the vast majority of successful job hunts and promotions come from.  There is also the sad fact that there is a 50/50 chance of divorce these days, and going from being a  married woman who was already struggling financially to an immediately poverty stricken single mom is a recipe for disaster.   It's understandable that your husband  feels the way he does, but no one expects him to give up his career to be a father.

Some sort of compromise will have to be worked out, so that you won't get resentful.  I'd insist on at least part time work.  Start a night class a couple of nights a week as well, to keep professional knowledge updated or begin an advanced degree, so that you can be ready with a freshly minted master's when the kids are old enough to go back to work full time.

Answer 9

no, what the heck- get a nanny

Answer 10

economically the lower income earner should raise the children. however one spouse may be a mutually accepted better parent. Developmentally the children are better off with the better parent.  

Answer 11

We both worked. Our kids turned out great. It depends on how committed you are to keeping up both ends.

Answer 12

due to money reasons i wouldnt.  and it depends on the ages of the children.  if they were really young, i would take some time off.  and if i had a well reputable job, my qualifications would be such that i could get an equally good job if i were to lose it.  but back to the question, i would not allow  anyone to force a decision on me unless there was a good reason

Answer 13

nope  

Answer 14

yes raise ur children, its 4 da best. i no a lot of women dat went to jobs n barley aw der kids n now der kids r stupid, failin skool, cussin, sometimes drugs, drinkin, sneakin out n all dat. i dnt think ud want dat n trust me ive seen dat sooo much. raise ur children n teach dem right from wrong so dey can be succesful n get good jobs, den get money from dem if u want

Answer 15

No. I would ask him to give up his mediocre career, because I am more successful than he is, and my paycheck reflects that. It would simply make more sense for our child to grow up with a parent at home without giving up luxuries my income can provide.

Answer 16

i think that is a very personal decision,wifey stayed home to raise the boys,and i had to take work overseas a few times to get us caught up.

to us raising our children was the most important thing we'll ever do ,and so far so good,they're 18 and very good people.

Answer 17

It would probably depend on a few factors. How long has he been at this job? Does he have good benefits that would not only enable you to stay home, but also cover all of the medical stuff that comes with after having the kid?

I can't say for sure since I've never been in this situation. But I would want to take a little time off to bond with my child if I had one. I would probably also work out a budget, and work until I couldn't walk anymore and then take the time off. I think personally I would want to keep my job though.

Answer 18

sounds good for family's sake. it may not be your personal preference, but you are not living alone anymore. There is more to Life that just earning money. No matter how much money you earned, people can' never be satisfied in money. its how Peaceful is your way of living.

Nanny doesn't really satisfy the needs of your children. Nanny only satifies your needs. Unless you are selfish

What the sense of having a big house, nice car, suits and jewelry if you don't have a quality peaceful life to those people around you.

Downsize to your capacity.

Answer 19

no..why cant he give up his job

Answer 20

If he didn't make enough movie to support us then there is no way I'd leave my job.

However if my husband made the money(he does) and after a talk we decided it was best for our family(we did) then of course I'd leave my job.  

It's just the way I'd like to do things.

Raising happy, healthy and well-rounded children is more fulfilling than a career (even though I do love mine)

But a career is secondary to the needs of my family.

Answer 21

Probably not. If you make more money than him why can't he give up his job? That would be more logical, children need time and attention from thier mother but they also are very expensive. And if you have a good job I wouldn't give it up. Just make sure you still spend time with your kids. And it's kind of selfish of him to expect you to do this.

Answer 22

He wouldn't ask me, he'd want me to do exactly what I wanted.

Answer 23

No way!!!!! That question will not exist in the relationship

Answer 24

No.  Sorry, I would not give up my hard earned job (once I get it, at least).  By the time I finish my PhD, I'll have accumulated a fair share of student loan debt so I doubt quitting would even be an option.  On top of that, after all that hard work, I won't want to.  And, even further, I'm working towards doing something I love and something I find fulfilling.  I wouldn't give that back.  Would I cut back my hours while the children are very young?  Probably.  Maybe.  But there is no reason for me to quit entirely.  

If he feels that strongly about it, I have no problem supporting him while he stays at home to raise the children.

Answer 25

You CAN'T be serious.

Of course NOT.

Answer 26

I wouldn't give up my career for any reason. Ever.

Answer 27

Absolutely.  It is one of the most important things in my world to be able to be at home with my daughter.

I am not saying it's right for everyone...but it is for me.

EDIT- To those suggesting part time work, I say Yeah right!  If you are only working part time, you are making just enough to afford the gas to get to work, and they daycare you have to put your child in because you go to work.  In the end, all the money from a part time job goes to all the extras you need in order for you to go to the job in the first place.