Would you want your partner to re-marry after your death?

Question

After someone passes away most people don't expect their spouse to re-marry. In some cases its even looked down upon (usually depends on age, it seems the older you are the less people want you to find someone else)

But I was thinking. Why wouldn't someone want their partner to be happy again after there death? Even if its with someone else? And how long is "socially acceptable" for someone to move on? If you loved someone, but died. Wouldn't you want them to find someone to treat them just as good as you did? So sometimes I wonder why when people DO move on after death, old family or friends seem to get so upset by it?

I just get to involved in my own thoughts sometimes. (All sparked by that darn movie "ps I love you" if you've seen it)

Answer 1

yes. I think that it is as natural as everything else. I feel that not only should my partner remarry in death, but when i am still alive. divorceQ!

Answer 2

Definitely! If you really loved someone you'd want them to re-marry. Why not wish them un-ending happiness. It wouldn't make sense to swallow yourself up in guilt and remain alone. Its a proven fact that married people or people who have some form of intimate contact with someone else on frequent basis live longer, happier lives.

Answer 3

Yes, you want them to move on and be happy,you don't have no choice you're dead and not going to know anything about it one way or the other,so why worry about it?

Answer 4

I am an old guy with a  young, loving and "giving" wife. I certainly want her to find a good man after I die. And we have talked about this many  times.

Answer 5

Me and My Husband has talked about this.I would want him to find someone who makes him happy and someone who my children can love and get along with.I would want my Husband to not forget about me and all the wonderful yrs we spent together and I would want my kids to never forget me.Life goes on after the death  of a loved one.I would say the a year  or more,most likely more than a year is a fine time to start dating.I always tell my Husband I can't imagine getting romantically involved with anyone but you,That would be the hardest part for me.As we are High school sweethearts!

Answer 6

yup, i've seen it! sad movie too, i cried through it lol

but when it comes to your question, i think people SHOULD be able to remarry, i mean, after time has gone by for them to move on. Maybe a year, two years, once the memory of that person isn't so vivid anymore and they are comfortable with their lives again. If they find someone else that makes them happy and that can complete their lives again, i think thats perfectly normal. I know that if i were to die, i would wantt my spouse to be happy and not miserable and lonely his whole life.

But i can see how family members could get upset. For them it feels as though you are replacing the spouse. But marrying sumone else isn't meant to replace the person. Everybody is differnt and offers differnt things..they would just offer happiness and completion.

anyways, i wrote more than i bet u were looking for lol

hope i helped!

Answer 7

I wouldn't really care.

I would be dead.

Answer 8

What ever makes her happy

Answer 9

I used to think I wouldn't want my husband to remarry if I passed on, but the longer I've known him, the more I've come to realize that he's dependent on having someone in his life to be his best friend, his lover, his companion, and his sounding board.  He'd be lost without someone who adores him, so I would hope that he would find a lovely lady to fill my shoes fairly quickly.

Answer 10

ah....PS : I LOVE U! Wiki it. the answer is there.

Answer 11

I haven't seen the movie, but this issue persists world wide. I have examined many such cases in depth. I found out that people who oppose such marriage are of different objective and causes. For a male , he doesn't like to see his mother w/ another man, it injures his pride, his friends would mock him for that.For a girl, she doesn't like to see some stranger in the house. Money ( inheritance ) also a big factor. Greed and jealousy by other old people also counts.I mean they wish they could do the same but they can't, so the best way is to convince him/her not to.In sum it is a complicated issue of which such marriage is preferable , but other times it is disastrous. interesting Q ! Thanks 4 bringing it up!

Answer 12

No way. I wouldn't wish her on my worst enemy.

Answer 13

most definetly...just cuz ones life ends doesnt mean their spoused has to as well. i would want my future husband to be happy and continue on with his life. of course in a respectful manner...well mainly respect for the family i dont think someone should remarry months after the death but within the next couple years if they meet someone then sure.=)

Answer 14

I'd recommend Richard Feynmann's book, "What Do You Care What Other People Think?"  You want to get along with others enough to keep them from lynching you, but otherwise, why not follow your heart?

I'd want my love to follow hers, even if I'm gone.  Her happiness is essential to my own, so of course I want her to be happy.

Answer 15

Of course! Anyone who wouldn't is a s****t. Unless of course it was your spouse that killed you, in that case I'd want him to die slowly and terribly. ;)

I would want him to wait at least a year. Up to three would be okay.

I think sometimes relatives don't like the new person. Often they are younger than the one who died, less mature, nuturing etc. I'd rather my hubbie didn't remarry someone much younger than I am. Would just be a bit more disturbing somehow.

Answer 16

...yes, of course it would be her choice, it would be best that she remarried, to have feelings for another is not wrong and it

will help in the summer of her years not to be lonely...

...most definitely...thanks for asking...

Answer 17

I would want her to move on with life, just as I will when I pass on. To imagine her alone would be sad. What ever makes her journey content & happy.