Wouldn't the woman be at a losing end of a relationship where the couple live together before marriage?

Question

good for women who are emotionally strong that, at the end, they can just brush off the dirt from their skirt and say "good riddance". i was thinking of the effects to women who go for a live-in arrangement; more disadvantageous to them than to men.

and, i am not using any kind of tone here. i am not a victim and never was in any relationship.

Answer 1

I don't understand your rationale.  Why do

you think a woman would be worse of than

a man if she just "lived together"?

  Unless of course, if you come from a country or a religion that says a woman is

no good once she has had s*x before marriage.  she is, in other words, "used goods".  No, American women have great

value whether or not they are married and

if and when they are married and if and when they have given up their virginity.

  We are all still wonderful people with

great minds and we are worth just as much

as men.

Answer 2

Based on what?   What does that mean?.."losing end"? What is your loss?  If your morality keeps you from pre-marital s*x thats fine everybody understands that but if you decide to waive that position you shouldn't make it sound like somebody stole something from you.  Everybody has to accept personal responsibility for their own decisions.  Thats life.

By you asking this question in such a "victim-like" tone, I think I'd call off the whole deal if I were the man half of your relationship.

Answer 3

No way. In fact, I have always teased my male friends who have children out of wed lock as "disgrasyado", as an equalizer to the term "disgrasyada" that we call females who bear children out of failed "live together" relationships. That means they lose equally, and gain equally (if there is anything at all to gain) out of the experience.

Also, if both are virgins before the arrangement, both of them will lose their virginity equally. Right?

Answer 4

in our culture, we were taught to preserve ourselves  for the right person then get married and have a family.  but most of marriages nowadays ends up in divorce, annulment or separation whatever both parties decided.  it is very difficult to share yourself to someone without the sanctity of marriage.  the woman will be insecured most of the time if she's just a live-in partner.  so i can say if someone is strong emotionally, they can handle the situation and will not think that they're losing in this kind of arrangement. but the rate of divorce nowadays, women will think twice before getting married and it's the same with men.

Answer 5

Definitely.   Especially when the relationship ends and there are children to support.

Answer 6

All depends on the culture and country you are in. People in the West tends to have accepted this as a norms, so men and women alike can easily get on with their lives if a relationship fails. Whereas in an Asian countries, people are more conservative and thus find this a bit of a taboo, women are more vulnerable to discrimination and judgment.

Answer 7

Not at all, once they have mutual understanding and that they are on the same wave length. But then, as much as possible, do make an effort to have a chance to get married.

GOD BLESS!

Answer 8

I dont see how, if they cant stand living together without a ring what makes one think they'd do better maried

always good to test the waters before you dive in

Answer 9

Miss A. I'm a LIBERAL but what i'm going to say is just my personal OPINION. I certainly do not agree with cohabiting before marriage. To your question if woman be at a losing end of a relationship where the couples live together before marriage? I don’t think so….I think that both is in the losing end of that kind or situation. Although the generally accepted belief says it is acceptable to have a "trial period" to” tests drive a car before you buy it." For marriage, however, just the opposite is true! A newly married couple makes a deliberate effort to accommodate each other because they know their relationship will be for life. They want to build compatibility, not test it. Cohabitation involves commitment, no pledge for the future, no official pronouncement of love and responsibility.

When I’m in a relationship I want to be with the person who will invest emotionally as much as I do in the relationship, Relationships take time and work to develop and maintain and most people who live in together are not as committed as couples who are married. Marriage is much more than a love partnership. It is a public event that involves legal and societal responsibilities. Some argue that "the marriage license is only a piece of paper" and therefore being "married" by the church or state is irrelevant. We are, however, admonished to obey the laws of our government in Scriptures (Mt. 22:21; Mk. 12:17; Lk. 20:25).

People who make a commitment and accept total responsibility for their choices are more likely to develop self-respect, personal pride, and integrity. Cohabitation  aim is to have all the benefits and privileges of a mature, married person without accepting the responsibilities which maturity demands, it also points to a missing element in the process of becoming mature: the willingness to make commitments and live up to them.

But don’t get me wrong, I do know how to get out of a marriage when it is not working anymore, why make your self unhappy? After all we can't love other people unless we learn how to love and respect ourselves first.

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I don't know if I answered your question I think I lost my thought.

Answer 10

zzz... no. because it is not some sort of business that one will end up losing and the other one will get the benefits. in this situation, both parties are in the losing end. now, where did i get that answer?  hmmm... beer... zzz...

Answer 11

i dn't think so, we will be in the losing end if we marry then regret in the end