Wouldn't you let ur 17 yr drive by themselves?

Question

ok so friday im goint to get my senior portraits taken. my mom wants to take me, i can't drive by myself, b/c apparently im too young. im going to be 18 in 3 weeks! they don't let me have any independence driving wise. they don't let me drive on the highway. im not a bad driver i've had my license since i was 15 and my mom has said numerous times im a better driver than my sister who is 21. the place is like 5-6 miles away. i googled it on their maps and found a picture of the place and directions telling and showing how to get there. im going to be the only teen their with their mommmy(embarrassing). she can't hold my hand the rest of my life!

Answer 1

I doubt that you'll be the only teen there with a parent.  I just went with my stepdaughter a few weeks ago & most of the kids had a parent with them.

And, yes, we do let our almost 17 yo drive by herself sometimes, but she only got her license a couple weeks ago.

Answer 2

Part of the reason may be that she wants to experience your Senior picture session with you to make sure it goes okay - let her go... in a few years when you are out of the house, believe it or not, you will miss your mom.

Answer 3

I understand your frustration of wanting independance from "mommy", however if you want to be treated like an adult you may have to behave like one.  If you are embarrassed by your mother being with you then you are probably still too immature to make adult decisions.  That is a childlike attitude.  Please don't be offended by my comment, I don't mean to be rude, I just believe that if you respect your mother then you will honor her decisions, right or wrong.  She obviously feels that you are not ready to go solo or maybe she just wanted to go with you?  It also depends on where you live too.  I live in Dallas, Texas and the highways here are horrible!  She may be afraid of the other drivers and you being inexperienced, not too young.  Maybe she is having trouble letting go of her little girl/boy or maybe you have given her a reason not to trust you going alone?  I don't know your relationship or behavior patterns, but she does.  If you have not given her any reason not to trust you, then it may just be her unwillingness to let go.  If you are patient, in time she will.  

As a mother of young adults, I can tell you that it's not easy!  My daughter is 23, she graduated, got married 2 years later, the next year they had a son, and she told me...."I wish I would have waited!"  I didn't say I told you so, even tho I did, and I didn't rub it in her face, I only know that I felt the same way when was her age.  You've heard the saying, "If I new then what I know now, things would be different."  It's true!  Parents have Wisdom, so it is good if you listen to that wisdom, even tho most teens don't believe this to be true, ya know...been there, done that!  Thats Wisdom!  Thats why God created the Parent first and then the came the children.  

I didn't mean to turn this into a lecture, think of it as a life lesson from one with Wisdom!  I'm sure you're a great kid and congratulations on Graduating.  That's a great accomplishment.  Now LIFE!  It's hard.  My kids were in such a hurry to "grow up", as was I, and we all say, "If I knew then what I know now...."  Don't rush it...these are years you can never get back...enjoy being young...being a young adult...let "Mommy" drive ya around...you can pretend she's your Chaufer and sit in the back seat with your sparkling water and Laptop or iPod and make like royalty and enjoy the ride!

So...to answer your question...I would let my 16 year old son go by himself...however I have been training him to drive for 6 months thru a home taught Driver's Ed course and I know his driving habits well.  He's not the best driver, but like you said...ya have to let go sometime!    

And you probably weren't the only Senior to have their Mom with them at the photoshoot, were you?  Have a blessed day and drive safe...when she lets you!

Answer 4

my mom doest let my sister drive b/c the frist time she tried she crashed us into this house .. hahaha funn times... so yea now shes scared that it will happen again =]

Answer 5

yeah thats pretty odd really. my parents are glad when we get our licenses. just because its less work for them lol.

    but everyone needs to learn how to operate in the real world on their own, if parents don't let their kids interact on their own how will the children be able to take care of themselves throughout the rest of their lives?