Wow, I just realized I don't really have any friends?

Question

Yeah so it's really hard for me to make friends, and sure when I was a little kid I was happy and social and everything, but now I'm shy and socially awkward and get all nervous then sometimes moody and snappy. Meaning I loose friends quite easily as well. I guess I'm just really sick of it now and really need to change, but I don't feel quite ready for it. I'm willing to force it upon myself though and grin and bear it until being friendly comes naturally to me. I was also thinking a change of style would help, adding skinny jeans and hoodies to my typical jeans-and-a-tshirt, just..because? As a boost of confidence or something like that. So, any tips for doing so? Both incorporating different clothes into my style, and becoming friendlier? All answers would be appreciated, as I am quite desperate. Thank you!

Answer 1

Please don't wear "girl pants" like all those emo kids do.

Other than that...I honestly don't want to waste my time making an effort to be friendly toward people that I don't respect or trust or like. If I were you, I'd just keep some friends you can stand and hang out with them a bit and just keep meeting new people and looking for people you really like that it is easy to be nice to.

Answer 2

You need to find people that make you feel confident and being friendly will come easily. Clothes will never be able to do that for you.

Answer 3

I don't think you need a change of wardrobe or the way you look unless you are targeting some people to be friends with. If you want to be really friendly I guess you need to change the way you get with people because this is the thing that matters most. It does not mean you have to smile with everyone you meet because it will end up you will not know when you are really smiling it will just look so plastic. Just be approachable and even if you are shy people will still like you if you are really honest and sincere...

Answer 4

You can find more friends in chat room...otherwise you can send your mail to this e-mail...haifasina_93 its my friend adress.. she was loneliness...poor at her...theres nothing to do with your clothes...Bye

Answer 5

Well, Get a new wardrobe. By clothes you think you look good in and will feel comfortable in. The most important thing is just to act confident but not overbearing. Just act calm , cool and collect and friends are easy to make.

Answer 6

yes, changing your style will help.  start hanging out with people in small spurts, so as not to give yourself time to get moody and snappy... after a while once a couple of people start to warm up to you, then it will be easier.  unfortunately, it kind of has to start out like a dating-type rule... always leave them wanting more... meaning that you should leave at the very peak of whatever it is that you're doing.  lets say you and a couple of people decide to go bowling, or go to the mall, or whatever everyone else wants to do...   once a pretty good convo kicks off and you happen to come up with something pretty witty that the others laugh at and/or become interested in, look at your phone and have somewhere else you just remembered you have to be.  that way, the last thing they remember of you is the really funny thing you said.  and when you're alone, smile.  honestly, just the physical act of smiling makes you feel better, and when you feel better, other people feel better about getting to know you.  

Answer 7

all the friends are not same but every one will have have there desiere to have a friend who is good and and to have a good charector