Wow, aren't I depressed....

Question

Okay,

so like i just spilled my guts to my "friend" Ryan,

and i'm really like sad and down right now,

but like,

after he said that he was there for me,

he was like

" do you want oral"

like how messed up?

so I just left..

uh i don't know what to do.. any help....

Answer 1

hes trying to "get with you" dont be flattered or think he wants to be closer to you b/c guys are just out their for s*x. they will do it with anybody, and you dont wanna be considered as thee girl whos "easy". guys wont respect u and they will tlk about u behind ur back if u become that girl, so my advice tell him no.

oh and also if U RLY want u can tlk to him lay down the law and let him know u felt weirded out when he said that, and it was pretty innapropriate. be like it gave me the wrong idea , and made me think ur not their for me, and u were just faking the whole "i'll be there for u" act so u could get some, and i didn't appreciate that.

if he doesn't listen, stay away from him.

good luck sweetie.<3

Answer 2

He's too "sexed up" to be truly available in the sense that you'd like.  I'm a pretty sexed up kind of guy, but I also know how to respect those in need of something else.  On the other hand, once that girl makes a little move, I'm right on top of it.  Then she acts as if I'm using her, but really it was her that used me.  Perhaps you should find a straight girl to talk to?  That should be easier to find than a guy who knows what boundaries are all about.  Anyhow, we all have lapses in judgment.  If he has any real integrity, he'll apologize.  Otherwise, he really doesn't give a hoot, although, there is a possibility that he is just so warped that he really thought that he was being of help.  Whether or not you want to be a part of that, is up to you, but I think he was just looking out for what he wants.

Answer 3

Well, I hope you learned your lesson> don't spill your guts out to Ryan, unless "you want oral". Did that at least make you laugh? If not, then you are definitely depressed.

There's an association, which is called American Association of Suicidology. Visit their site. You'll get more insight from them.

Answer 4

haha he wanted to give you oral .. man that guy has balls , what do you think you should do , maybe it was a joke? or maybe you should just take the oral

Answer 5

He was only tryin to make you "feel" better.  Should've took him up on his offer....

Answer 6

wow that's....terrible and gross.

My advice is to find someone to listen that isn't going to be thinking about doing you the whole time your talking.

Try a girl-friend or a family member, but if your only friends are guys then perhaps one of them is g*y?

If the news was ABOUT Ryan and he just didn't pay attention, then you could have said something along the lines of "Hey?! did you hear anything i just said?...No i don't want Oral! But if your so busy staring at my privates than listening you should just leave and ill find someone that cares enough to listen."

Answer 7

he was trying 2 make you laugh. is Ryan your best friend cuz if i did something like that 2 my best friend she'd laugh.

Answer 8

Step 1: Ensure your emotion is controlled daily. Don't over reacted, stay calm and don't get worry easily

Step 2: Think before your action. Don't repeat her past experience on herself. Remind herself from time to time.

Step 3: Be confident to yourselves. Remember everyone is the winner. "Only One sperms out of millions fertilize an egg"

Step 4: Get a group of close friends to share your experience and get some activities that would occupied your time

Step 5: Increase scope of life. Meaning that she should involve in more social activities like dancing, outing and others.

Step 6: Put a rubberband on the wrist. If there is a negative thought, Tighten the rubber band and release it. Hence the effect of the pain would be able to reduce the possibility of negative thought.

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Answer 9

Thats not depression, you just feel sad from emotions during your conversation.