Wrong to hate them??

Question

Is is wrong for me to hate the people around me that are pregnant? .. the reason i am asking is because my husband cousin in pregnant, and she has 2 other children, 2 girls and she got them taken away from her more than once, and she is pregnant again! I think it is all because i am finding it hard to understand how people that don't deserve to be pregnant or becoming pregnant! Am i trying to hard?! Is it wrong for me to hate the idea that the peole around me are pregnant because i want to start a family?

Answer 1

well i don't think its wrong to hate them .. you have a good reason .. and even if they don't deserve to be pregnant you can't stop it .. and being jealous is normal ...

have a nice day

Answer 2

i know a girl who has had 3 children for the money and treats them really bad but has been ale to keep her children because the fathers of these babies are drug addicts and welfare care more about them then them mother. i don't think it is fair on the children at all.. i cant stand women who don't deserve their children or young teenage mothers who haven't even experience life and are having children.. i don't blame u because i hate seeing it.. i tried for 4 years to get pregnant without success and now have two little boys and a girl on the way... so don't give up ur time will come darl...

Answer 3

Technically it's wrong to hate anyone and you brobably don't either. You can, however, hate what someone is doing and that is probably what you feel.

It does seem wrong that some people can have child after child and others can't have even one.

There is no such thing as trying too hard to have a child. If you have run all the tests and everything is normal it might just mean that your body isn't ready yet. It took my wife four years to have her first one, then five to have her second one.

You may think you're ready, and you might be, but sometimes your body knows best.

Keep trying and let us know when you have your first.

Answer 4

Been through that too.  When i was TTC and just couldn't and my niece got pregnant at 15 i cried.  Then my stepsister got pregnant at 16 and my cousin was 16 when she got pregnant and none were necessarily ready to have a baby but I wanted a baby really badly.  I would just cry about it and it was really hard.  I was so happy when i did get pregnant and I feel I actually value my children more than they did and I think that is because I had to try so hard to get them and they didn't .

Answer 5

I understand where you're coming from.  Its normal to get jealous of other women who are pumping out kids one after the other....when you're trying to have one as well.  I especially don't like it either when women keep having more kids than they can handle.