Wrong to love someone?

Question

I found out my aunty died earlier today.

I was obviously sad. This also added to all my other stress and bad feelings.

But I come on the computer, see I have some comments on a site, I really don't feel like answering them right now, so I go off the computer.

I've come back on now and I get all this c**p.

"Why didn't you bloody answer my comment, I've been waiting on you, I know you were online because it says you were."

I say that my aunty died and then I get,

"Omg, just get ******* over it, there's worse people off in life than you, so what she died, that shouldn't put your life on hold."

So now, shes saying it's wrong to mourne a loved one.

I know there are people much worse off than me, but why should that mean I can't be sad that someone has died.

I don't know if I should feel bad because of this or what.

Answer 1

obviously this person is so unempathetic regarding your grief.you have the right to mourn for your aunts loss.if she cant take that then thats not your problem.if you need time for yourself then have it. shes not the one feeling the loss,you are so its either SHE gets over it or SHE DEALS with it,not you.

Answer 2

tell them to think about what they said and apologise or tell them to f*ck off

Answer 3

this person is totally out of order, im really sorry for your loss

i cant believe how unsensitive that person is.

you have all the right in the world to feel how you want.

dont let this person bring you down.

you should be grieving for your aunty now, not wondering whether youve upset this person or whether its wrong.

xx

Answer 4

there is nothing wrong  

Answer 5

Don't listen to that person. OBVIOUSLY you're sad either way, you've just been trying to hide it a little after reading what the person said. So you go ahead and be upset, you loved your aunt, and all it takes is a little time getting over. This happens to everyone. That person probably had an even worse case, but instead of yelling at you, they should have tried to talk with you.

Answer 6

who ever wrote that reply to you is an uncaring person who concentrates on themselves. the last thing you need is to be told its not right to grieve,of course its ok!!!!!!!! its a natural response but it does come in different forms for different people e.g guilt,for not being able to help the person who passed away.anger, at being left and deserted by someone you loved,distressed that you have  lost someone and cant do anything to bring them back and finally happy in a way ,when you remember the good times but that takes time to come.

then again some people tend to ignore it as they cant and wont comprehend it. you do what you need to do for you to manage.

im really sorry for your loss and believe it or not it will eventually get a bit easier. take no notice of people who judge you without even knowing you.

be strong if you can and take the time you need as there is no set time scale to get over the loss of a loved one.we have each others email details so if you want to talk in private feel free.   clare x

Answer 7

dont feel bad!!

thats very insensitive of whoever said that to you!

Answer 8

Your commenter was being really insensitive, and probably has a bad relationship with her aunt.  Don't worry, it's ok to mourn a loved one.

Answer 9

you have a right to fell the way you do do mind your friends they just want attention from you and they want it NOW.

Answer 10

u should NOT feel bad, its normal 2 feel sad after a loved one has past. maybe u should ditch your friend......sounds like she has issues! i hope u feel better!

Answer 11

the person who said that is being really inconsiderate.

obviously if you love somebody you will miss them when they die.

Answer 12

yes you have the right to feel sad after a loved ones dies, ok so there are probably worse off people but when you love someone and they die you are bound to feel sad i think this person is very selfish and if they cared for you would be supporting you and helping you through this hard time not making it harder for you or making you bad for feeling sad.

x*x hope u feel ok soon :)

Answer 13

god if my uncles/aunties died i'd be gutted too as they are amazing people-its normal to be sad, this girl sounds like an absolute JERK!!!!!!!!!!!!!