Wrong to pay my 11 year old daugther to do the chores?

Question

We just started a new thing at my house, paying my daughter 25 cent per chore she complete in the week, so far she made 12 or 13 a week for the last two week. When I mention this to a friend, she said I'm crazy to pay her to do chores.. she does alot and go over what I expected, cleaning my room, washing her baby brother bottle and cleaning the living and washing the dishes even taking out the trash the night before in the rain.

Answer 1

No it not wrong

my cousin who is 4, 8 and 10 get paid to do chores.

and think about it this way, she won't be asking you for money when the icecream man comes around

Answer 2

It is up to you.  Who cares what your friend says.  It sounds like your child is a responsable child and she is learning what it takes to be a productive citizen. Kowing you got to work for a living and not taking a hand out.

Answer 3

Its not wrong to pay her for doing the chores in my opinion. but 12 or 13 dollars a week is a lot.

Answer 4

no it's not wrong some kids collect and save which means if uyou needed the money in an emergency then she'd have it also saves for college!!!!

Answer 5

well its a way to teach them to help at the house, and how to earn money, its not completely bad, unless she didnt do anything before, but kids need  money too, and its better she earns it

Answer 6

NO WAY!! My mother did this for me. Its encouragement and you dont have to do everything. I plan on doing this for my children(and  myself) when they are old enough!

Answer 7

No. It's basically pocket money.

Answer 8

I don't think this is wrong at all.  I think it's a good thing. Don't feel guilty.  Does this friend even have kids?

Answer 9

it isn't wrong. ur daughter will learn responsibility n will learn that life will not be as easy as she thinkz. she will aslo learn to save n handle the money.

Answer 10

No

But she does not get paid if she does not do the chores

Answer 11

Good on you.  You're teaching her to earn money....its called an allowance, I'm all for it honey.

Answer 12

I think thats fine to pay her, it teachers her a valueable lesson about earning her own money.

Answer 13

I think its good to teach kids that money must be earned.

Answer 14

na'h I'm 11 and I get payed

Answer 15

I think it is a great idea because it teaches her to be responsible and that she gets rewarded when she works hard. Keep up the good work!

Answer 16

when i was a kid i got paid to do chores. $5- $10 a week depending how much i did. I think its a good idea.

Answer 17

Wow cheap maid service...is she your daughter or the housekeeper?  Instead of taking advantage of your own child why don't you show her some attention and praise her for chipping in?

Answer 18

She sounds like a wonderful child!!!! Be proud of her willingness to help out. Pay her what she is worth. Could you imagine how much you would have to pay a maid to do what she does.

Answer 19

Its a great idea. She is learning to be responsible and getting pocket money out of it!

Answer 20

Not for "stretch" chores like that.  That seems reasonable.  If she has set things that she has to do with compensation to simply contribute to the family, plus the optional chores that she can do to earn money, that sounds like a good lesson in working hard and earning your way.

Answer 21

If you provide her with food, shelter, and clothing....that should be enough pay.

Answer 22

Just pay her 25 cents per week to do chours or else she would be grounded and will have to do chours with out geting payed.

Answer 23

No I don't think its wrong to give a child an allowance for the chores she does. If she cleans as much as you say I would conisder giving her extra money for when she does a good job. I think it will teach her responsibility.

Answer 24

I don't think it's wrong to give an allowance - we personally don't pay our kids for doing chores - and they don't expect it - our attitude has always been that we are family and we all work together to help out. If they need money for legitimate things we give it to them.

Answer 25

if your daughter is going over the top to do chores, pay her.

it's a good skill for life she can use later on.  she'll kbow that the harder you work, the more you'll come out on top.

bravo!

Answer 26

I don't think it's a problem. Eventually kids need to see the connection between work/responsibility and making a living. I think some people believe that kids should help out around the house without expecting to get paid, which I also agree with. Maybe you can find a balance, so your daughter isn't getting paid for EVERY chore she does, just the "extra" ones. It's totally up to you, though. :)

Answer 27

nope... long as the pay isn't that of a actor or president!

always make sure the pay isn't enough to keep them going.. like in real life.

that's a good thing you're doing.

no reason to wonder.     always keep them working hard for little pay.

but there are rewards, remember that.    if they do a great job every once in a blue moon reward them in a way.

:D  like in the real world!

also... helping them set up a saving account and talking to them about the future is a good idea also.

set them up for their future and that mindset is never a bad thing.

Answer 28

My mom did that with me growing up. Of course there were some things I was expected to do regardless, like put my dirty clothes in the hamper, put my dishes in the sink, etc. Over and above stuff though, I could earn money at.

Mom did have one stipulation though. 10% of anything I earned had to go into a savings account. I didn't much like it then, I wanted ALL of my money, but it taught me to save money at an early age and that's a good thing. :)

Wish someone would pay me to clean my house now.

Answer 29

no this is what you should practice with your daughter it will teach her that hard work will pay off in the long run. as long as your not paying her to eat candy or something i think you are doing the right thing. teach her with a small amound like your doing she will enjoy making money although it;s not a lot and she will learn to be hard working. keep it up :)

Answer 30

Of course it's not wrong! For one, you are teaching her if she wants money she has to earn it. Secondly, you are rewarding her for being helpful around the house! Don't you want help? Don't let anyone tell you it's too much, though. If she did the work, don't cheat her by not giving her the money she earned just because she is 11 years old. Why must people put ages on these situations? You are the only one who knows your daughter. If she is mature enough to do the chores, she is mature enough to have twelve dollars. Plus once she has money to buy stuff, she can learn the value of objects. It's a win win!

Answer 31

ok. i think ur giving her too much to do. ur the mom. YOU should be cleaning the baby's bottle. YOU should be cleaning YOUR room. but if yooh actually need the help nd yooh have too much on ur things toi do list. then ask her to HELP yooh not do it 4 yooh. but i think its a gud idea to pay ur daughter 4 everything she does. gj (((=good job)))